Are the People Around You Keeping You Unhappy, Off Track, and in Fear?

Are the People Around You Keeping You Unhappy, Off Track, and in Fear?

“It happens.” I say those words fairly often.

When someone starts telling me about the awful thing they recently experienced, or the bad behavior of their boss or spouse, or some other dismal tale that has left them unhappy, my only response is to simply say, “It happens.”

No need to get upset, worry, agonize, brood, obsess, seek vengeance or retaliation. A person just needs to realize that things happen. Getting stuck on those things only keeps you firmly planted in the past with regret, anger, fear, and sadness taking center stage. And happiness is no where to be found.

To create a positive future, you have to be living fully in the now. And these “bad” things from the past can’t be center stage in your mind.

But what if this person with the icky attitude is someone very close to you?

What if they are always unhappy, often say derogatory things, or act in ways that are unkind? Or, they come across as very kind and thoughtful, sweet even, and then suddenly have bursts of something completely different – something selfish, hostile, manipulative and immature? Spending time with these people causes you to live in a perpetual state of oppression without even knowing it. Unhappy people are like rain on your parade.

You simply can’t have them around and maintain a happy, healthy, positive outlook. It is impossible.

This is just what is happening on the surface. Here I am only talking about how their bad or unpleasant attitude is negatively affecting you.

I haven’t even mentioned what is happening energetically. And that is by far the most significant, and potentially dangerous, issue.

Unhappy people are usually energy vampires. They latch onto and literally suck the very life force out of those people who are high vibration, happy, and healthy.

They do it with energetic cords. They do it with their unkind words. They do it by throwing energy darts of negative thought into your energy field. They do it when they look into your eyes and tap into your soul.

You simply can’t have these people near you for any length of time.

And it is so easy to know.

How do you feel after you have spent time with them or had a conversation with them on the phone?

Do you feel drained or do you feel uplifted?

With the positive people in your life, what I call your real “soul” family, you will always feel better, happier, appreciated, blessed by having spent time with them.

They make you smile.

An energy vampire will have the opposite effect. You will feel drained, depressed, or confused. Being around someone running this weird energy causes chaos and confusion. And it can literally ruin your life.

Unfortunately, I have a great deal of experience with this and can talk about it firsthand. I was intimately involved with a guy that does this. I have also been in a business partnership with a woman who was an energy vampire.

For over a year, I lived in a perpetual state of confusion. I began to doubt myself and my own inner wisdom. I went from vibrant, happy, thriving, and successful, to struggle, failing health, and significantly lower self-esteem. And from that place, I made poor decisions and was unable to manifest my desires. It took years to climb out of the darkness her influence caused.

Was I a victim?

No.

Living through it and learning from it, I have gained a depth of knowledge far beyond anything I could have learned any other way.

It happens – like so many other unpleasant things in life. It happens.

And despite what their intentions are, whether they are consciously sucking energy or are completely unaware, they are just like everyone else. They are doing the best they can under the circumstances. They don’t know any better. They are unhappy and desperately seeking a way to feel better. So, there is no need to blame them. But I do recommend that you avoid them.

It is exceedingly difficult to gauge this with people you see every day – particularly a romantic or marriage partner.

Every intimate encounter involves energy exchange and energetic cording. So there is nothing casual about “casual s__.” You take on their energy. They take on yours. You begin operating under their set of beliefs, fears, judgments, and expectations. This phenomena often affects women significantly more than men.

Take a lool at the people around you and take actions to limit your time with those who steal your energy and bring you down.