The Golden Rule

I’ve always tried to live by The Golden Rule. As I observe the words and actions of many political and religious leaders, I’m often baffled. If The Golden Rule applies, then how can this person think or act in this way? And how can other people listen to their words and observe their actions and actually agree with them?

The Golden Rule from 13 Different Religious Perspectives:

Baha’i Faith
Lay not on any soul a load that you would not wish to be laid upon you, and desire not for anyone the things you would not desire for yourself.
Baha’u’llah, Gleanings

Treat not others in ways that you yourself would find hurtful.
The Buddha, Udana-Varga 5.1

In everything, do to others as you would have them do to you; for this is the law and the prophets.
Jesus, Matthew 7:12

One word which sums up the basis of all good conduct….loving-kindness. Do not do to others what you do not want done to yourself.
Confucius, Analects 15.23

This is the sum of duty: do not do to others what would cause pain if done to you.
Mahabharata 5:1517

Not one of you truly believes until you wish for others what you wish for yourself.
The Prophet Muhammad, 13th of the 40 Hadiths of Nawawi

One should treat all creatures in the world as one would like to be treated.
Mahavira, Sutrakritanga

What is hateful to you, do not do to your neighbour. This is the whole Torah; all the rest is commentary. Go and learn it.
Hillel, Talmud, Shabbath 31a

Native Spirituality
We are as much alive as we keep the earth alive.
Chief Dan George

I am a stranger to no one; and no one is a stranger to me. Indeed, I am a friend to all.
Guru Granth Sahib, pg. 1299

Regard your neighbour’s gain as your own gain and your neighbour’s loss as your own loss.
Lao Tzu, T’ai Shang Kan Ying P’ien, 213-218

We affirm and promote respect for the interdependent web of all existence of which we are a part.
Unitarian principle

Do not do unto others whatever is injurious to yourself.
Shayast-na-Shayast 13.29

List Compiled by John Milan & Paul McKenna

The Golden Rule is a way of stating how to positively use the Universal Law of Cause and Effect which applies everywhere and in all things. The cause is a thought, word, or action by you. The effect is the result you will get from that thought, word, or action.

You’ve heard the saying, “What goes around, comes around” or that giving and receiving are just the opposite sides of the same circle. It is absolutely true. And its time that we all practice this principle much more diligently.

Have you ever contemplated who the “other” is, referred to in these teachings? My interpretation is that the “other” represents any being on this or any planet, reality, or dimension. To many people that is quite a stretch of the principle. It is my truth. It is what The Golden Rule means to me. I don’t step on ants. I treat dogs as nicely as I would a small child. Plants are my friends. And I practice harmlessness.

Knowing how to treat others is so simple. Ask yourself if you were in their shoes, would you like this to be said or thought or done to you? And then take the appropriate action based on the answer. If your words, thoughts, or actions don’t uplift or empower another, then make another choice.

How do you want to be treated? Then treat all others that same way.

If you want to feel joy, then do things that bring joy to others.

If you want to know love, then learn and express true love and acceptance of everyone. O.K. no-one said this was always easy. But this Universal Law holds whether you want to participate or not.

If you don’t like it when people talk about you behind your back, gossip about you, or judge you, then stop judging others – that means everyone in your field of perception. Not just your family, co-workers, and friends or enemies, but also people in the news, political leaders, movie stars, even terrorists. You can look at the actions of another with discernment, deciding whether spending time with them or taking the same actions yourself is appropriate. But when you begin to judge whether it is right or wrong, then you are telling the Universe – through the law of cause and effect – that you are ready to be judged by others.

I said the law was simple. I did not say the law was easy. It can be, of course, but it requires a great deal of letting go of what is right or wrong, good or bad. It requires rising above polarity or duality consciousness.

There are a few nuances about the Law of Cause and Effect that are important to explain.

First, you can’t be attached to your giving or to how the Universe will supply you with what you are asking for. Many people give in order to receive. They think to themselves, “I’ll give this money to this church so that God will give me money some other way.” But that is giving with strings attached. So any money you receive will also have strings. You should give, instead, as an affirmation that the Universe is an abundant place and you KNOW you are abundant and money is ever flowing to you. Not you HOPE you are abundant. You KNOW you are abundant.

How do you achieve knowing? As in all things, you have to recognize and then transform all of your disempowering beliefs – including your belief in lack – into Divine truth.

Second, you have to allow yourself to receive. This is where trying to consciously apply the law of cause and effect stops working for most people. Subconsciously, they do not feel worthy of receiving. They feel they aren’t good enough to receive love, money, acknowledgement, friendship, good health, happiness, etc. As long as you feel unworthy, you will never receive the things you desire. You can work from morning to night and still never have anything because deep down you don’t feel you deserve anything. Again it requires healing.

Third, you always receive through precession. You never receive from straight in front of yourself. Another way to put that is, you never receive directly back from where you give.

Buckminster Fuller coined the term precession. It means that when you are looking straight in front of yourself anticipating money or love or whatever to come your way, it won’t. It always comes to you at a 90 degree angle away from center. One might say that “The Universe brings your supply from left field.” If you are putting your attention on a project, or a person, that is not where you will receive. Something completely unexpected will come to you from the side – usually in the form of an opportunity, one you very often miss.

The perfect example of precession is how my former husband, Raven, entered my life.

I had taken the time to write down all the things I wanted in a relationship. I then completely surrendered and let go of my attachment to ever actually having the perfect person in my life – no strings, no expectations, totally fine with or without it. I learned to love and accept others and myself.

One day I felt inspired (was intuitively guided from within) to go to a particular store to introduce the owners/managers to a product I was promoting. I got all dressed up with presentation in hand and headed out the door. I was very nervous. I’d never shared this product with a store before.

As I entered the store, I caught the eye of a very attractive man. We smiled at one another and I proceeded to the counter to give my little presentation. Lucky for us, the store manager was a very “in tune” person. When I asked if he would like a demonstration, he looked at me and this guy, and then asked the guy to come over and have the demonstration. The guy could then tell the manager what he thought.

I didn’t make any sales that day. I was focused on business and instead the Universe handed me my future husband – Precession.

Of course as you grow and evolve, your desires often change. My husband and I grew in different directions and the relationship eventually ended. Had I healed more things first, I may have met someone else entirely.

If you continue to heal and grow and are open to receive, watching the subtle signals that are happening all around you all of the time, you will be blessed with love, wealth, kindness, and the other things you have given freely without need for their return.

Blessings to your journey,


In my friend feed on Facebook, I found a statement about how anyone not having a job in a corporate that provided insurance or not trying to get a job in one was “just plain lazy.” It was in reference to the healthcare insurance conversation being had so often right now.

This is my response:

“I was somewhat offended by those comments since they fail to consider the millions of us who are self employed. Authors, speakers, artists, entrepreneurs, complementary health professionals, consultants, and an endless array of others work for themselves, wearing every hat in the book from employee to CEO to accountant to marketer. Most of them work their butts off. And yet, the money required to run a business, plus family expenses, etc., often leave those people without the extra necessary to purchase insurance which is often quite high for the self employed. Before automatically assuming that if someone isn’t working for a Corporation or other organization that offers insurance that they are on food stamps and unemployment, please consider that VAST numbers of uninsured people are actually out there pursuing the great American dream. They found the courage to strike out on their own and make something of themselves, hopefully leaving a legacy for their children.

Self employed people are often significantly more hard working, committed, and dedicated than the average employee. Studies prove that employees often are only productive a small percentage of their time at work each day. As a manager in fortune 500 and 100 companies, I saw that first hand.

So who is really lazy – the self employed person who is busting their ass and still struggling financially or the corporate employee who is coasting along at work not giving it their all? I completely agree that those  “milking the system” and getting a free ride without working is a serious problem. But assuming anyone not insured or looking for a job falls into that category, I feel is unjustified.”

O.K. off my soap box.

Have a truly fabulous day,






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Living outside the box is a very revolutionary idea and not an easy one to accomplish. Its something I’ve found myself working on a lot lately.


What do I mean when I say living outside the box?

I mean looking at what I perceive as my reality and taking off the box that I’ve placed around it so that it can be in its truth, not my perception of what truth is. Or it can transform into the reality I want to have versus the reality I currently perceive and perhaps don’t necessarily like all parts of. Wow, sounds a little out there.

O.K. one of my jobs is to take rather complex, esoteric, energetic or vibrational concepts and boil them down to very simple terms so others can easily understand. Its one of the reasons I was compelled to become an engineer. Of course I never choose easy things that almost anyone could get on their own. I have to choose really complex ones that leave me stumped for a while.

I was reviewing a video of a workshop I taught in Denver for Manifesting Your Beloved: A Relationship in Joy.

When I’m teaching, I usually put together a skeleton (the backbone) of the ideas, the flow, and the points I want to be sure to cover in the workshop. Then I leave a whole lot of space, or time, for the workshop to unfold and go in whatever direction is needed specifically by the individuals present. At least 70% of what I present is channeled in the moment.

There are usually several good things that come out of that. First, when you tap into the Universe, pretty much every statement you make is clear, concise, and exactly what one or more people in the group needs to hear. At least that has been my experience of what happens when I do it.

Second, you often tap into, and bring forth for the group, information that you haven’t even considered before with your rational mind. That’s very good because you don’t have time to have an opinion about it. Its much more “pure” in its presentation since you haven’t had time to make up beliefs about it.

We’ll talk about that in a moment.

The not so good thing, from my perspective, is that even though I hear the words and I resonate with the message, so much is being conveyed through energy and information transfer, that I don’t remember some of it. I feel very blessed by recording equipment. It allows me to also consciously learn from the information presented.

So, as I was reviewing the tape, I came across the segment where I explained about “the box.” And I thought boy I really need to write about that so others can benefit from this really important idea.

We live in a box. It’s a box that we made up. We’ve been designing and reinforcing our box since the moment we got here – well maybe since before we got here. The box is made up of those things I talk about all the time that we must transform – fears, limiting beliefs, and judgments. All of which are false you know.

We are love.

Fear cannot exist where love is. Limitations cannot exist where love is. Love has no judgment. We are love. We are nothing more and nothing less.

But, planet earth is this magical place in which we forget that very fact. We have experiences that we don’t like and we make up rules about how life is based on those experiences. We literally absorb the fears and beliefs of others. And we receive the beliefs held by our ancestors through our blood.

The truth is only love exists.

Yet we believe, strongly, that these other things are real.

Your entire life is based on your beliefs.

You create your world every moment of every day. And there are NO exceptions to that. Your life is the result of your thoughts, words, and actions. Whatever you focus on, you create – end of story. No exceptions. And, whatever you focus on with strong emotion – either positive or negative – you experience faster.

Now the tricky part is – you trick yourself. You hide from yourself the very fears you harbor. They are held deep within your subconscious. Now I can tell you that if you look at the patterns in your life, the fears become VERY obvious. There are some pretty standard fears: fear of abandonment, fear of the world not being safe, fear of not being worthy (or loveable).

Can You Imagine a World Without Fear?

I started toying with the idea of a world without fear. What would that really look like? And what I found most interesting about the idea is the number of entire industries that wouldn’t exist if fear were eliminated.

  • There would be no need for insurance – of any kind.
  • If people stopped fearing getting sick, most of them wouldn’t – so there would be very little need for doctors, hospitals, pharmacies, etc. Of course there’s a little more to it than that. Our environment and what we take in through food, air, water, energy and thoughts affect our health. A medical study in Germany indicates that a huge percenge of cancer is caused by geopathic stress zones going through the home.
  • The only reason to have banking would be the ease of money transfer – not because of being afraid of having piles of money around that someone might steal.
  • If no-one feared that their money could run out, they wouldn’t even need to have a pile because they would know that more was always on its way.
  • If no-one feared (even subconsciously) that they might be victims, that someone might take advantage of them in some way, hurt them in some way, take something that belongs to them, etc. then there would be no need for alarms, fences, locks, guns for protection, military & police, or lawyers.
  • If the fear of not having enough were eliminated, then everyone would have enough – enough food, enough shelter, enough of everything they need or desire.
  • If no one feared being abandoned or not being worthy, then everyone would have the loving relationships and all types of relationships that they truly desired.
  • If people stopped fearing that they have nothing of value to offer, then they could all choose a vocation that they really loved and were passionate about. And because they would have no fears about success, they would not only be very fulfilled in their work, but it would provide them with the income they desired.

As you can see, the list could go on forever.

Am I saying we should try to attain that? Am I saying that we should try to create a world, and everyone in it, that lives life like I’ve described above?

The answer is no.

Everyone has the free will to choose the world they want to live in. You don’t have the right to change it for someone else. The only world you need to change is your own. So, let’s get back to the box.

Everyone’s box looks different.

We all look at television and see the state of the world and we think that we all live in the same world. But that is also false.

Your world looks very different than my world.

The people in your world act exactly as you believe they do. YOU NEED TO REALLY GET THAT. It is one of the most important things you will ever come to understand.

People act differently around you than they act around me. People are pliable. Sure they all have natural tendencies, but watch them. The same person will be very animated and fun around one person. And that same person will be quiet and reserved around another. Why? Because every person has beliefs, fears, and judgments that cause others to act a certain way around them. And whatever you believe, you will find ample evidence to support your belief. That’s how beliefs work.

So what do you do if you don’t like the box you’ve created?

What if you don’t like the way people act around you, the way relationships seem to go, the amount of money in your bank account?

That’s where living outside the box comes in.

You have to be willing to let go of the thoughts you’ve had about the way life is in order to create life the way you want it to be. View your life from an observer standpoint – without judgment or emotion. You really have to look at the patterns to discover the underlying fears. And asking for spiritual assistance is very beneficial. What do I mean by that?

Pray about it.

Ask to be shown any fears, beliefs, or judgments that you hold that are preventing you from experiencing the health, the wealth, the happiness, the fulfillment, etc. that you desire.

I have a Dancing Dolphin Energy Healing roll-on that works exceptionally well to help with this. It is called Point of Origin.

It helps you to access and heal the “issue” at its point of origin or where it began – even if it was as a thought, even if it is anchored cellularly, even if it was projected at you from someone else, even if it came from a past life. A truly remarkable energy tool. It took me 15 years to attain the necessary level of consciousness and understanding of energy in order to be able to make it. 

You can get Dancing Dolphin Point of Origin here.

Once you hear, see, feel, or discover in some other way what the various beliefs might be, then have a conversation with yourself that explains why that belief has served you well, but is no longer something you need in your life. Then pray (ask) for assistance in its permanent removal. The essence helps to take it out of your energy system and field.

Then later on if you experience something in your world that you would rather not be experiencing, say to yourself, “That must be the box I’ve created. Let’s look at that and dismantle the box.”

Blessings to you on your journey,

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