Forgiveness is a powerful journey.
However, it is completely a journey about self. Whatever harm another might have caused, the only person we can heal and make whole again is self.
So it is our view of the situation, our anger, judgment, feelings of betrayal, victimhood, or blame that are the problem and the forgiveness that is needed.
Forgiving someone is not saying that what they did was O.K. It is letting go of the emotional burden, the giant imbalance, our focus on the wrong doing is causing for ourselves.
Hatred towards another literally kills, eats away and destroys from the inside out, the one who is hating. It has little to no affect on the one being hated.
In the end, the need for forgiveness is the letting go and release emotionally from the thing causing the emotional pain. It is a loving act that we give to ourselves - because if we don't let it go, we may never love again, may never experience joy again, may never be happy and healthy again.
There is a very real feeling of release, a giant burden lifted, when we have truly let it go.
Who ever they are and what ever they did, you are worth infinitely more and your happiness is worth infinitely more. Continuing to focus on them is detracting from you and the brilliant being you are, the love you deserve, the joy that is yours by divine birthright.
I've walked this road more than once - rape, an unfaithful husband, a friends betrayal, and on and on it goes.
I could not be happy and healthy if I did not truly thoroughly release and let go of the anger and emotional pain I felt over these things.
It is a journey as I said before.
Spend time alone in nature in silence. Journal about it. And once you have said all you are feeling to the Universe in the form of pen to paper, let it go and don't revisit it again.
That is my way anyway.
I have an essence designed specifically to assist in the forgiveness and healing process. Its called "Forgiveness" of course. You can learn more about it and purchase some here: http://store.dancing-dolphin-essences.com/Forgiveness
Much love to you as you work through those things that require forgiveness. And remember ... you have to also forgive yourself.
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