I’ve never been to a holiday gathering with family or friends where there was anything but harmony for the holidays … ever … my entire life. I’m talking about never witnessing first hand a family gathering full of discord. It doesn’t matter if it was with immediate or extended family, the family of a boyfriend, fiance, or husband, or a gathering in my own home of friends who didn’t all know one another before the gathering … harmony and delight at being in one another’s presence has always been pervasive at these events.
It begins within.
And it begins with the parents. If the parents love, honor, accept, and appreciate themselves, they also love, honor, accept, and appreciate their own parents, their siblings, their children, etc.
Each child needs to be taught to love, honor, accept, and appreciate themselves and then to extend that to others as well.
The result of such loving and honoring is harmony within all the relationships.
I can’t even imagine doing life any other way.
Does that mean I’ve never encountered disharmony?
I went from being highly popular and enjoying so many delightful friends in schools both in New Jersey and Texas … to being severely bullied, rejected, and having only a few friends in a small town in Virginia. High school was hell … there’s no other more pleasant way to put it. The bullying was so bad that for at least a year or more I came home and cried every single day. I didn’t understand what I was doing wrong, why I didn’t fit in, why people didn’t like me. I was in such foreign territory.
I’d also never been anywhere that people pretended to like you to your face and then talked badly about you behind your back. Being an empath, you can pick up on the incongruence immediately. You can literally “feel” when someone doesn’t like you. Trust me, it doesn’t feel good.
Once I was no longer in high school (being forced to be around people who didn’t like me and, therefore, whom I didn’t like in return) I began to thrive. I quickly developed a network of friends at work and at college. I began taking a leadership role in professional organizations and that has continued to this day. I am deeply deeply blessed to have so many friends.
But that didn’t happen by accident or because I’m more special than anyone else. It happened because I got very clear that I wanted a wonderful group of friends. You might have seen other articles where I talk about the affirmations I used to say about friendship. It goes something like this, “I want interesting, fun, uplifting friends all over the world who are making a positive difference.” And now, after many years of “receiving” teachings that have helped me formulate my own teachings, I would add: “We each love, honor, accept, and appreciate one another and are deLighted to be in one another’s presence and feel blessed to have each other in our lives.”
I highly recommend you do something similar when it comes to all your relationships … romance, friendships, business partnerships, with co-workers, committee members, and everything else you participate in. Intend harmony. Intend peace. Intend cooperation, admiration, appreciation, acknowledgement, friendship, and yes, even love (not the romantic kind, the Divine unconditional kind).
When people seek my advice about romance, I help them get crystal clear about what they are looking for in both a partner and in the relationship itself. I help them form a picture in their own mind and words to describe exactly what they are seeking. And I often suggest that they add something about it being a “mutual admiration society” where you each feel truly blessed to have the other in your life. The best relationships involve partners who continue to feel that way over time. I’m not talking about living with rosy colored glasses, not seeing the truth or flaws in the other. I’m talking about seeing them even more clearly than most and loving, honoring, accepting, and appreciating them for exactly who they are … warts and all. Both partners have to feel that way though. Honesty and integrity are key.
But just like developing harmony around the table at the holidays, you have to love yourself first. You have to see your value, your gifts, your unique magnificent glorious self with all its fabulous talents and all its spectacular flaws and love yourself, appreciate yourself, be OK with yourself when you screw up, and delight in yourself when you succeed regardless. You aren’t perfect. You are human. It just comes with the territory.
The more you learn to love, honor, accept, and appreciate you, the easier it is to do the same for others … and the more often others offer the same to you.
Back to harmony at the holidays ….
You can intend a different outcome within your home, around the table, watching the game or whatever rituals your family follows when they gather. Before people arrive you can set your intention (not being attached to it going that way) for harmony, love, happiness, laughter, joy, and fun – or whatever joyful things you wish to experience for yourself and those you love enough to invite into your home.
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Fear screws it all up of course. If you are afraid that there will be disharmony … guess what will happen?
You already know the answer.
You get more of what you focus on … so you must divert your attention AWAY from the things you do not want and TOWARD the things you do.
- Focus on peace and feel it throughout your body and your home.
- Focus on love and feel it throughout your body and your home.
- Focus on harmony and feel it throughout your body and your home.
- Focus on joy and feel it throughout your body and your home.
- Focus on compassion and feel it throughout your body and your home.
- Focus on deep, meaningful, conversations and feel it throughout your body and your home.
- You get the idea … decide what you want to experience and imagine it real.
- Tip – It is a lot easier to feel something if you close your eyes.
Bring In Harmony for the Holidays
Imagine a giant bubble of light surrounding the table where you will eat and calling in your Higher Self and Guides asking that the bubble of light be infused with love, joy, laughter, delight, companionship, harmony, peace, etc. etc.
See a similar bubble around your entire home and again ask your support team to infuse it with harmony, peace, joy, and love. Add the other words that have great meaning to you and that you wish to have in your home.
See a giant block of violet flame or light (like the purple image above only less dense) over a foot thick in front of your entire front door – or whatever door people enter. Everyone who enters will be cleansed of any icky sticky disharmonious, noxious, disempowering, or negative energy as they enter. It’s like taking a beautiful violet light bath. It brightens the mood and feels totally glorious.
Tip – you don’t have to wait for the holidays to do these things. You can do it anytime you desire.
I recommend you energetically clear and infuse your conscious intention into your home, your vehicle, and other places you frequently visit. And I suggest that you do it often. To learn extraordinarily effective clearing and infusing techniques (much more powerful than simple intention), take my online dowsing course or my new Dancing Dolphin Way of Healing and Enlightenment training once I get the sales page up.
Have a delightful day today and every day,
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Below are some quotes for you to enjoy, post on your wall, or share with your friends.
The 7 Deadly Sins Takara Style.
There are actually 8, but who’s counting? The actual list is this:
- Limiting Beliefs
- Attachments to Outcomes
Everything that is “wrong” in your life is there because you still have these.
When you learn to love, honor, accept, and appreciate who you are, then you can do the same for others. ~ Debbie Takara Shelor
You can find things to blame. Or … You can find things to love. What you choose to focus on makes all the difference. ~ Debbie Takara Shelor
Happy, successful people don’t sit around all day pointing fingers. They take actions towards what they want to achieve. And they do it with passion. ~ Debbie Takara Shelor
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I had my own little private Camelot for awhile. Life was grand. It was a magical time. I had tons of friends. I had a great guy. I was a cheerleader. I seemed to be good at almost everything I tried – dancing, acting, academics. I absolutely loved my life. I was happy and life worked.
And then we moved.
I might have done better jumping off a cliff.
I had lived in a few places previously, went to different schools in various parts of the country. But I had never before experienced cliques.
I went to Urban Dictionary to make sure I was spelling clique right. This is what they had to say: “Clique – Why i wish i wasn’t a teenager – A group, typically of teens, who exclude all who don’t fit into their stereotypical image of perfection, and conform to all the rules of this “perfection”. Often think they are showing outstanding originality and individuality, when they are in fact exactly the same. And this is the same for all subcultures. Usually hate “opposing” clique for no good reason other than they perceive/have been told that this is the right thing to do. Like to label people, so they don’t have to regard each human as an individual.” (I love Urban Dictionary, its the only place I know to look for what all those goofy little initials mean in text messages)
I went home in tears practically every day for almost a year. No matter what I tried – how I dressed, what I did, who I talked to, what I said, it just never seemed to work. I was miserable.
My heart and happiness were somewhere else – stuck in a tiny town in New Jersey. And slowly over time all those I loved in New Jersey began to write less and less and eventually not at all. Out of sight, out of mind I decided. (This was, of course, before cell phones, text messaging, live chats on Facebook, the internet, and email – a time when long distance calls were expensive. So we wrote letters. Too funny! No wonder we lost touch.)
It’s not like every single moment of every single day was terrible. I had many great times too. I made a few good friends. I went out with some really wonderful guys. I created numerous fond memories.
But rejection and having people say cruel things to and about you is a hard thing. I eventually learned to be cruel back – which was even worse. Being unkind is fundamentally against my nature.
I just couldn’t wait to get out. So, I moved out of that town and into my own apartment the day after I graduated from High School.
And as soon as I got out, the magic began again. I soon had many new friends. I met a great guy and was engaged almost immediately. I had a job that I enjoyed and it paid well. I was getting a degree from a great school. I was President of the student Chapter of the Institute of Industrial Engineers at Virginia Tech. We had 300 members. Obviously to hold a position like that, I had attained a certain level of popularity.
No-one’s life works all of the time. But it can always be more magical and more fun. Sometimes the day to day can be difficult and we lose our zest and passion for life.
We all want to be happy and to have our life work. That’s why I make the products I make and offer the technologies I create.
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Let’s all get back to Camelot, shall we?
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We had a lovely conversation full of insight and inspiration about meditation, my bestselling book, Peering Through the Veil, and much more!
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“They need to love, honor, accept, & appreciate you for who you are. Otherwise, they don’t belong there!” ~ Debbie Takara Shelor
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It’s easy to know when you are not in flow because conflict, chaos, struggle, anger, sadness, and the need to “push” in order to make things happen are all too prevalent when you are out of sync with your Divine inner guidance.
Another sign is the feeling you have inside that something just isn’t quite right.
But how do you know when you are in flow, aligned with the Divine, expressing your highest potential in any given moment, and on track to fulfill your mission here on planet earth?
Those signs are easy to spot as well. Here are just a few:
- you are in a state of inner peace, joy, and gratitude despite the outer circumstances you find yourself in or what another person says or does,
- synchronicity accelerates,
- unexpected opportunities seem to be around every corner,
- tears of recognition, joy, gratitude are part of practically every conversation,
- chills run up and down your spine quite often as you share truth with others,
- manifestation becomes easier,
- ease and grace seem to follow your every move,
- you feel healthy and vibrantly alive,
- you wake up excited to start your day,
- situations and people that previously caused stress or upset don’t have that effect anymore,
- decisions are easy, and
- the “right” people and circumstances continuously come your way.
One of my favorite signs that I am in flow is the ease at which I find the best parking places even in very crowded locations.
The best way to describe being in flow is the feeling that you have. It is a state of being after all. You feel quiet elation. You experience an inner peace and joy that truly is beyond words.
The more you heal, let go of the past, embrace the now, surrender to the bigger plan for your life, allow life and situations to unfold without resistance or upset, the easier all of life becomes.
Being in joy and inner peace are your natural state of being. It takes a considerable amount of work, and often assistance, to undo the limiting beliefs and fears you have, but wow is it worth it.
If you are not experiencing these signs routinely, it simply means that you need to find ways to become more centered, balanced, aligned with the Divine, and rid yourself of the blocks and limitations you still have.
Through the various products, programs, and private sessions that I offer, I assist you with that and so much more.
It is my mission on this earth and it brings me great joy to watch and assist others as they step into their true magnificence.
Have a deLightful day,
When I was having my first book cover designed, I was “enlightened” about fonts and copyrights. If you are doing something for commercial purposes – like an ad, you have to have rights to the font.
These are some of the places I get fonts: www.openfontlibrary.org The mission of the Open Font Library is to promote your freedoms as it relates to the use of type. All of the fonts that appear on this site come with the freedom to use, study, share and remix them.
http://www.dafont.com/ – free and public domain ~ and they indicate which. Free is typically free for personal use. Public domain can be used commercially.
http://www.smashingmagazine.com/2012/01/09/high-quality-free-fonts-2012/#more-120954 – free fonts clearly marked whether you can or can not use for commercial use.
http://www.fontsquirrel.com/ – GREAT SOURCE.
Fonts to me are a lot like images – I only purchase images for book covers, product logos, and things like that. For articles and social media posts, I use free fonts and images.
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