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“When you look in the mirror, staring back at you should be joy.

If what you see in the mirror is something less than joy, such as stress,

pain, frustration, anger, sadness, jealousy, fear, etc.,

then something in your life needs to change NOW!”

~ Debbie Takara Shelor

Joy is your natural state of being.

Herein lies the source of all your emotional pair:

The way you think people and situations should be is different than they really are.

When you can let go of the “shoulds” and just let life unfold without judgment, things get significantly easier and a lot more fun!

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Everyone has something that they are extraordinary at. Whether its breathtakingly difficult like the skills on this video or as simple as having immense patience when others do you … you too can be magnificent and lead an extraordinary life!

Forgiveness is a powerful journey. 

However, it is completely a journey about self. Whatever harm another might have caused, the only person we can heal and make whole again is self. 

So it is our view of the situation, our anger, judgment, feelings of betrayal, victimhood, or blame that are the problem and the forgiveness that is needed. 

Forgiving someone is not saying that what they did was O.K. It is letting go of the emotional burden, the giant imbalance, our focus on the wrong doing is causing for ourselves. 

Hatred towards another literally kills, eats away and destroys from the inside out, the one who is hating. It has little to no affect on the one being hated. 

In the end, the need for forgiveness is the letting go and release emotionally from the thing causing the emotional pain. It is a loving act that we give to ourselves – because if we don’t let it go, we may never love again, may never experience joy again, may never be happy and healthy again. 

There is a very real feeling of release, a giant burden lifted, when we have truly let it go. 

Who ever they are and what ever they did, you are worth infinitely more and your happiness is worth infinitely more. Continuing to focus on them is detracting from you and the brilliant being you are, the love you deserve, the joy that is yours by divine birthright. 

I’ve walked this road more than once – rape, an unfaithful husband, a friends betrayal, and on and on it goes. 

I could not be happy and healthy if I did not truly thoroughly release and let go of the anger and emotional pain I felt over these things. 

It is a journey as I said before. 

Spend time alone in nature in silence. Journal about it. And once you have said all you are feeling to the Universe in the form of pen to paper, let it go and don’t revisit it again.

That is my way anyway.

I have an essence designed specifically to assist in the forgiveness and healing process. Its called “Forgiveness” of course. You can learn more about it and purchase some here: https://www.magnificentu.com/store/Forgiveness-Aromatherapy-Flower-Essence-Healing-Oil 

Much love to you as you work through those things that require forgiveness. And remember … you have to also forgive yourself.

Much love,

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9 comments:

  1. You are fortunate that you have figured a way to forgive and move on. For me, it’s not so easy. In 2 recent cases it took death for me to forgive, but not forget. I’m jinxed! But I’ll tell you this, even in the darkest times and the worst memories, a light always shines through and I remember the good things, too. Maybe that’s my way of forgiveness, prior to death. What do you think?


  2. I believe that forgiveness is really for the person who was wronged. Because not until you let go of the hurt and forgive, you will never be at peace


  3. Takara – you have succinctly encapsulated the self gift of forgiveness. I work with people who have a tough time working their way to a state of forgiveness and don’t realize that the state of “unforgiveness” is a toxic state that ultimately does damage to the self. Thank you for your wonderful post.


  4. It has taken me so very many years to understand that forgiveness is about me, my journey. Now I realize how very arrogant my view of forgiveness was. OMG! I’m on this journey now and walked through months where I knew forgiveness was the way and couldn’t … that has shifted and forgiveness is where the peace comes from.

    I love that you share what you’ve learned!

    Laugh lots, Love more!
    MamaRed


  5. Unforgiveness can truly erode a person, inside and out. Unforgiveness can destroy your health and the ability to move forward. Unforgiveness can erode the relationships closest to you. True forgiveness can release so many feelings and mend relationships. True forgiveness gives freedom.


  6. Well said. Forgiveness is about releasing the power the situation had on you. It is about reclaiming you life.


  7. What a great post. I like that you mention to journal and not revisit it. I think that is a good piece of advice. If you have truly released it you do not need to revisit. Now one can put better stuff in the place that is now vacated! Thanks for sharing.


  8. Really enjoyed this piece, Takara. The more we forgive ourselves and leave the past in the past, we free ourselves to move unencumbered into our future.


  9. Forgiveness is more for our own benefit than for the other person. Unless we learn to forgive, we cannot move through! I read this story many years ago of a brother and sister who lived through the same things, One forgave and lived a healthy life. The other chose NOT to and became all crippled by arthritis and became a miserable human being. That… says it all!


 

This is an extraordinary video by 3 girls on the Queen Latifah show.

I watch a lot of videos and many of them speak to me. But its been a LONG time since I’ve seen anything so moving. The words they speak are true, and most of the things they discuss are truly sad facts.

Listen.

Listen with your heart.

Listen with your mind.

And perhaps, one day, there will be no need for videos such as this because so much has changed in a positive way that the need for this will no longer exist.

ENJOY!

Belissa Escobedo, Rhiannon McGavin, and Zariya Allen, members of the Get Lit organization perform “Somewhere in America”.

Have a deLightful day,

Takara

 

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Singing for some is literally bearing the soul. Its obvious that this is one of those cases.

To hear him sing means seeing all of who he is. Its extremely vulnerable and if you’ve been pushed around, made fun of, or watched others go through that, its safer to stay quiet and let people wonder what’s up with you. 

This young man stood there, pulled open his jacket and bared his chest – metaphorically – saying here I am, take your best shot. Wow did that take courage. For many, they will never muster up the courage to make such a bold statement about who they are. Instead they will remain small, less than they could be, bending to the conformity thrust upon them by others.

 

His soul cried out to be heard until he could no longer ignore it. The more people who find that courage, the more others will feel they can do it also. Its a great act by a very courageous soul. 

The truth is, in the wrong environment, it would have been misunderstood and probably ridiculed. 

His talent is very personal and he didn’t know how to let it out until the right time came. Thankfully the time did come and he was up for the challenge. I can only imagine what he must have been feeling before going on stage.

Daniel Jacob had this to say: “This is the very heart of the current transformation . . . men getting in touch with their feminine . . . and this man is choosing to bring that into form GRAPHICALLY and WHOLISTICALLY. Very much like the Shamans in many indigenous cultures who wear skirts to honor their feminine side. This man is doing it with make-up and with his voice. The fact that he is so embraced and so honored is a great sign for the planet! We’re more “on time” than we’ve acknowledged!”

To which I replied, “its not just the men needing to get in touch with their feminine side. The ladies are doing it big time as well. This morning I spent a couple of hours discussing this very thing. Even though many of us have embraced our feminine in some ways, in others we are just beginning. To be a vessel for the Divine Feminine requires learning an entirely new way of “being.” So much fun to understand and explore. I LOVE what this guy is doing and the things it is bringing up. So thank you, Daniel, for getting this particular conversation started by posting the video. Much love Dear One!”

People spend their whole lives comparing themselves with others and often feeling they come up short. They feel they are somehow less than, inferior, not as good, pretty, intelligent, rich, confident, or skilled, as someone else.

Magazines, television, families, churches, friends and co-workers all convince you that you should be a certain way, dress a certain way, and think a certain way. 

You need to learn to love, honor, accept, appreciate, and acknowledge the gifts and talents you’ve been given, as well as your uniqueness, your body, mind, and emotions, all the quirks and delights of your personality. 

If you could for one moment see yourself through God’s eyes, you would know – finally – the delight you bring to the Universe. You are a blessing. You are a gift. You came here with a mission and you are doing exactly what you are supposed to be in every now moment.

No matter who you are, what you’ve been through, or even what you’ve done,  you have a special role to play here. And you are loved.

When you can really “get” that. When you can feel it and know it to the depths of you, then and only then will your life change. 

If you are like most people, you are your own worst enemy – constantly criticizing and ridiculing yourself. 

Stop the judgment and ridicule. Give yourself a break. Realize that even though you are not perfect, its totally O.K. You are doing the best you can and it is absolutely, positively O.K. to screw it up sometimes. 

You need to become your own best friend. Instead of ridicule, why not pat yourself on the back and say “good job.” Allow yourself to be proud and excited when you find the courage to try something new. Because that is what its going to take to ever muster up the courage to truly be yourself and let your unique light shine forth for all the world to see. 

You are Magnificent! 

Live it. Experience it. Be it!

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16 comments:

  1. Just love this “No matter who you are, what you’ve been through, or even what you’ve done, you have a special role to play here. And you are loved.”…There is always some good and bad in all of us 🙂

     

  2. Thanks for sharing Anita. There is good and bad or a little light and dark in each of us. There is also brilliance, very special gifts, and skills that others could benefit from knowing about that people truly need to find the courage to let shine. I like to say to people, the people you want on your inner circle are those who truly see you for who you are and love, honor, appreciate, and accept you – warts and all.

     

  3. It is very hard for many people to get in tune with the real self, while they are tying so hard to be perfect under the standards our society sets. We are taught to behave a certain way, so we can stay “in line” and other people have a hard time accepting us if we don’t have the label they can recognise stapled on out foreheads.
    We need to learn to get in tune with ourselves. And that’s why we need people like you, Debbie.

     

  4. Love the being “in tune” part of your message. Being in tune with who you are, and with the Universe, is so important. The more we compromise, bending and becoming small, in order to fit in, the more our Soul screams from suffocation. Conformity to societal expectations feels like a straight jacket which some are able to wear more easily than others. I had to leave the corporate world and move to the West Coast in order to breathe freely. Now that I’m back on the East Coast, staying true to who I am has been challenging as much of who I am just doesn’t fit into the normal box of people’s expectations. I homeschool. I’m a writer. I use alternative and complementary medicine before rushing to the doctor. I eat organic. I don’t drink soft drinks or beer. I teach personal and spiritual growth. I changed my name to something many don’t even know how to say. Oh my, I am definitely “weird” – and loving it! LOL Life is too short to spend all your time trying to please everyone else. Find the joy within, then people want to know what you are doing and they find you interesting. There will always be those who criticize and belittle others making them wrong. That’s their problem, not yours. Shine your light and have a great day!

     

  5. Sometime ago I became my own best friend, and started re-gain my self-esteem, I felt so much better. I realized that I needed to be wonderful for taking care of others, and things went to their places. Thanks for the post, it is always good to re-affirm our uniqueness!


  6. And wouldn’t the world be a horribly boring place if we were all truly the same! Thanks for sharing Meire Weishaupt.


  7. Ditto Anita’s comment … “No matter who you are, what you’ve been through, or even what you’ve done, you have a special role to play here. And you are loved.” Many people need to hear this …

     

  8. So true. People do need to hear this. Thanks for stopping by and taking the time to read the post.

     

  9. I agree that being able to see ourselves through God’s eyes would make a huge difference, however, I believe it is important to note that this is where the role of parents is crucial. Recognizing that children receive approximately 90% of their information about themselves and the world around them from their parents…they are the conduit through which our perception of ourselves is initially formulated…we, as parents, can also make a huge difference in their level of confidence, esteem and self-image. Thanks for sharing your insights!

     

  10. I completely agree Denny. That’s one of the main reasons I, and many of my friends, homeschool. I just can’t bring myself to expose my child to the level of bullying I experienced in high school. Self esteem is critical to success in every area of life. Self image also has a great deal to do with a person’s level of happiness and feelings of fulfillment. Yes, parents play a vital role in how a child views him or herself. Great insights Denny. Thanks for sharing. Here is an article where I share my thoughts on homeschooling and self esteem: http://www.homeschoolsantafe.com/ Scroll down the home page to read the article.

     

  11. I watched that episode and season of America’s Got Talent…Andrew was a shock to everyone, judges and audience alike. It goes to show that we are the only ones who hold ourselves back. We place judgements on ourselves that we think others perceive…quite the opposite can be true. What a life lesson about our self esteem he taught this fiery grandma.

     

  12. I love these moments when someone you wouldn’t expect to do something grand, does something grand. It always brings tears to my eyes. Reminds me a great deal of Susan Boyle and how she brought down the house on Britain’s Got Talent. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RxPZh4AnWyk – just watched it again and yep, there were the tears. What a great inspiration.

     

  13. If you could for one moment see yourself through God’s eyes, you would know – finally – the delight you bring to the Universe. You are a blessing. You are a gift. You came here with a mission and you are doing exactly what you are supposed to be….LOVE this!! Reminds of Eshesian 2:10…We are His workmanship…his poetry, his masterpiece, a priceless work of art….getting that through my thick head has not been easy though..that i not the message i receieved for many years….

     

  14. Thanks for stopping by Carl. You are not alone in “getting it.” As I’ve worked with people, and observed myself, over the past 18 or so years, I can say with great confidence that seeing who you really are, your special gifts, and feeling good about yourself and those gifts is the greatest challenge most people face. We learn from a young age to compare ourselves with others – and we feel we fall short. There is always someone who is smarter, more attracted, more wealthy, more successful, etc. Whether it is our parents, peers, and teachers who point out our faults, or us doing it to ourselves, the result is the same – very low self image. Amazing things happen when a person can finally see their own magnificence – not from an ego place, but from a confident and joy-filled place.

     

  15. I adore the guy on this video, as he came out to decide that his days of being shy and being an outcast has ended. He showed the world what he can do. Thanks for sharing this inspirational video.

     

  16. Hi Lori:

    Thanks for stopping by. It is quite inspirational.

    Have a deLightful evening,
    Takara

     

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You are on a hero’s journey. Your life is your quest. The events that make up your daily life experience are the hurdles and obstacles you have to climb, conquer, and find a way to overcome to reach your desired destination. No hero starts out that way. They begin as some ordinary, unassuming person from a village somewhere. Then something horrible happens. There is a big issue or situation that has been suddenly thrust upon them.

So the hero in the making sets off into “zones unknown” as Dean Black puts it. He/she has to decide the quest is worth it, often facing a fairly high level of fear and trepidation along the way. They have to leave the comfort and security of what they know and understand and head out to see and experience people and situations that they never even knew existed when they were back in the village.

The hero has to do things they never thought they could. They have to reach deep down inside themselves and find the strength and courage to deal with whatever comes their way.  It’s not for the faint of heart. And yet, you are already on such a quest even if you don’t realize that you are.

If you are unhealthy, unhappy, or unsuccessful, then those are the obstacles on your path right now. Most things like that don’t just jump up and surprise you. They were a long time in the making. In fact, it might have been several generations in the making.

Nothing of any consequence is achieved overnight. It takes considerable time and effort and it often requires help.

If you are one of those people who thinks you can do it all on your own, then listen up:  If you had the tools, confidence, and knowledge necessary to fix the problem on your own, you would have done so already! Would you not?

You can be healthy.

You can be happy.

You can be successful – however you define success.

The only thing you have to change is the one thing that you truly can . . . and that is you!

Sin is wrong thinking. Thinking that sickness, poverty, disappointment, and struggle are “normal” or inevitable is wrong thinking.

There is an idea that says you are the sum total of the 5 people you hang out with the most. Think about it. Who are they? What is their life like? What do they think about? How kind are they? What do they feel is important? What do they judge? What do their income level, education, and dreams about the future look like? And is that what you want for yourself?

You don’t have to replace all your friends to shift this. You can begin the process by feeding your mind new information through books, articles, audios, videos, and workshops. Make nature one of your friends. Spend time each day in quiet contemplation, in silence, in meditation. Journal your thoughts, your insights, the new things you are learning.

If you want to change, then you have to step out of the comfort zone of the people you hang out with and do something different. I prefer the radical approach. I liken it to jumping into the deep end of the pool without first sticking your toe in to see how cold the water is. You move across the country or even the world. You marry a foreigner. You leave the corporate world and strike out on your own. That’s my way.

Why?

Because the idea of being anything less than my full potential is just not O.K. with me.

Most people can’t handle the insecurity of such a radical lifestyle. I happen to thrive on it. It proves to me that if I can do those things, then there is no reason I can’t also achieve all of my dreams. If I can muster up the courage to start my own business, then becoming a bestselling author is also within reach. If I can jump on a plane to live aboard a million dollar yacht in Fiji, then manifesting a more luxurious lifestyle has to also be possible for me.

When I made the bestseller list, it was both exciting and surprising. Surprising because this is not the book that I thought would be the “big one.” I was convinced that the big one was one of the books in the 5-book New Dance series that I’m currently penning. So, I wasn’t attached to this book being a bestseller. And that is probably why it became one. I was not all wrapped up emotionally in its success. Even though it was a bit exciting, it was also fairly anticlimactic. O.K. I now have the title. What now?

Even though I wasn’t emotionally attached to the outcome, I knew I had to do whatever I felt Divinely guided to do in order to get it out there. What it required of me was definitely outside of my comfort zone. I had to muster up the courage to do things I was uncomfortable with. But that’s what it took to achieve the thing. So that’s what I did. It was definitely not easy. And most people would never be willing to get that uncomfortable to achieve their dreams. That’s why most people never achieve them.

Often the Universe forces you to be the hero of your own life. You lose your job, you get cancer, your spouse cheats. You know . . . the typical disasters that make you sit up and take notice . . . and finally agree that your life needs to change and it is you that must change it.

Everything I offer is designed to help you along your spiritual journey, your personal quest for the Magnificence of self:

  • Meditation keeps you sane, balanced, and able to hear the still small voice of Divine wisdom,
  • Dowsing helps you fine tune your intuition and send a neon sign to the Universe saying you want answers and Divine assistance,
  • Private Long Distance Energy Sessions help to clear out the energies you have not been successful at clearing and to activate and “turn on” the various codes lying latent within you,
  • Dancing Dolphin Energy Healing Products and Healing Technologies lift you up significantly in vibration and offer every possible type of support you could need anywhere along your way – from something to just help you calm down to things that act like dynamite clearing out and releasing you from the past,
  • The various books offer insights and wisdom to help you understand more about yourself, the spiritual journey, how life really works, and the quest you are on,
  • The new workshop series will offer an opportunity for you to learn the best ways to work with the Dancing Dolphin products and the techniques for yourself or with clients and groups. If you have a center or a group and would like to host a workshop, please let me know: takara@magnificentu.com.

Much love to you Dear One. What you make of your life is up to you. I send you blessings and Light for a prosperous, healthy, and magnificent new life.

 

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27 comments:

  1. Very well written Takara – a gift with words! You’ve mentioned so many important points, but the 2 that really stand out for me are: Feeding your mind new information, and anything less than full potential is just not O.K. I believe we need to embrace these fully to be able to move forward in our journey. Also, as long as we are self aware and act, we’ll be able to recognize our own journey successfully. Have an amazing 2013.

     

  2. Hi Gary:

    Thanks for stopping by. I agree with you. Those are definitely very important points.

    Sending you blessings for a fabulous 2013,
    Takara

  3. What a fantastic post! The good news was when you said: “The only thing you have to change is the one thing that you truly can . . . and that is you!”

     

  4. Hi Susan: I spend most of my time helping people with that piece. So often people look outside themselves, judging and condemning other people, organizations, or situations. That typically is a pointless waste of time and energy. When a person can change themselves, their whole life miraculously shifts and the outer begins to reflect the inner. Everything works much more smoothly. Fun!

     

  5. Wishing you a wonderful 2013, as well! Great post! It’s amazing what can happen when we dig deep and move out of our comfort zone. : D

     

  6. Hi Sherie: Thanks for sharing. It is fabulous what can happen outside the comfort zone. I wish it was easier for everyone to see how dramatically things can change when they learn to “trust” that the Universe has their best interest in mind.

  7. Such a beautiful article, Takara. Liked this: “The only thing you have to change is the one thing that you truly can . . . and that is you!” It sounds so simple and powerful! Thanks for sharing. Happy New Year!

     

  8. Hi: Thanks for visiting and commenting. It is extremely powerful and fairly simple. Sadly, most people are terrified of looking at the limiting beliefs, fears, judgments, and expectations that are holding them back. And even worse, most people don’t have the tools necessary to “fix” an issue even if they are willing to look at it. Thank heavens I, and many others, have developed and discovered tools that truly do help.

  9. Love starting off my year with all these motivating and inspiring posts. It really is a matter of deciding you can and then giving yourself the permission and the tools to achieve your own magnificence. Thanks, Debbie.

     

  10. Thanks for visiting Marie: Most people just need 1 other person to truly believe in their potential for them to begin believing they can achieve their dreams.

  11. Thanks for a wonderful post Takara. You brought up so many good points. I really appreciate your point that to create your best life you have to dig deep and find strength and courage to deal with whatever comes.

     

  12. Thanks for stopping by Jean. I love that quote by Einstein about the definition of insanity “Doing the same things over and over and expecting a different result.” Yet most people refuse to do something new, step out of their comfort zone, learn from someone else, or try something different. It takes a significant amount of courage. But the more you do it, the more you see the fantastic results because you did so. It helps build the trust you need to take uncomfortable actions next time. I’m pretty freakin’ courageous. I’ve walked on fire. I’ve ridden horses bareback and blindfolded. I’ve run at top speed downhill toward a cliff dropping off into the raging ocean below while blindfolded. I’ve pushed past a lot of fears. I married a foreigner. I left the comfort and security of a high paying engineer’s job to move to an island and start a non-profit for dolphins and whales.

  13. “Because the idea of being anything less than my full potential is just not O.K. with me”.

    This is an awesome statement!

     

  14. Hi and thanks for visiting. It reminds me of my favorite quote: “Life is either a daring adventure . . . or it is nothing.” ~ Helen Keller.

     

  15. Powerful article. I agree with Gary, feeding your mind new information, and anything less than full potential is just not O.K. And it is a process, this journey we travel on. Learning more day to day and implementing more. Getting it bit by bit and living the way our Creator originally intended for us to live. Thanks!

     

  16. Thanks Norma. I love the personal journey toward what I call magnificence. I also LOVE helping others as they learn to navigate theirs. Fun!

  17. Excellent article with a powerful message, our life can and will be what we choose it to be! We have all we need within, all we have to do is believe in ourselves and ACT!

     

  18. Thanks for stopping by Denny. And once we start the action it is so much easier. The act of getting started, taking that breath and daring to do whatever, seems to be the hardest part. Once you are doing the thing, you realize how easy it is and how silly it was to resist it in the first place.

     

  19. Acheiving dreams is definitely not a matter of comfort! But it is so worth it as we attain another nugget of our dream! 🙂 Step out and make it happen!

     

  20. Absolutely! Thanks for stopping by Carl.

  21. So many wonderful mentions in your post; I loved it! The part about you are the sum total of the 5 people you hang out the most was told to me in a similar way in the past by a friend of mine. She said to try not to be around negative people since that can bring you down. However, if they are people that you really do want to keep in your circle of friends or they are close family members and they are negative, then, as you pointed out too, you don’t have to replace them but find other outlets to learn and not be around that negativity so much.

     

  22. Hi Allison. Thanks for your comments. Monitoring the amount of negativity you let in is not always easy. It is definitely worth it though. Have a great day, Takara

  23. So many points that resonate in here with me, thank you. This one struck a special chord ~ “Often the Universe forces you to be the hero of your own life.” I find that to be so true. You can either take these experiences that come your way and allow them to break you or make you. For those of us who choose to be the heros, they are the most extraordinary and strengthening experiences of a lifetime. Thanks for a great article. I also will never settle for less than my full potential!

     

  24. Hi Jennifer – thanks for stopping by. Seeing the lesson or silver lining in a tough situation is a skill well worth developing. Many blessings to your continued success, Takara

  25. Wonderful article. Great things can happen when you step out of your comfort zone… so I’ve heard, LOL. It’s not something that comes easy for me! I prefer to dip a toe in, think about it and see how it goes, rather than jump right in (or out?), but I know I should really jump! I don’t know why the comfort zone is so comfortable–it’s often boring and/or unhappy.

     

  26. Debbie…thanks for the great post, we think alike! I agree that you are who you hang around and that is the first step in evaluating where you are and where you want to be.

    Happiness is a choice, because we all will get hit with uncomfortable circumstances in life…it’s what we do with them that matters!


  27. Very inspiring post here Takara! You are absolutely right about stepping out of my comfort zone to achieve my dreams and goals. “You are on a hero’s journey. Your life is your quest.” I love the way you point this out.


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Because of the nature of who I am and the business I’m in, people often tell me things about their past that they never dare share with anyone else. I’ve heard so many horror stories from clients and friends, sometimes random strangers, about the things that happened to them in their own homes, and outside the home as they were growing up and even into adulthood. Being  “staked” and gang raped, starved and locked in a closet, pimped out by parents who were part of a cult, beaten to the point of having a near death experience because they were legally dead, and on and on it goes. These are “normal” people from all walks of life and every economic level. You would never know as an onlooker that they are survivors of such madness.

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Many people I know … including some you would find quite surprising … LOVE the movie Pretty Woman.

Why is that?

There are many answers to that question, so I will share  a few of my thoughts about it here.

As someone on my Facebook wall said after I posted about the 25th Pretty Woman Anniversary reunion coming up, that its just an “obvious formula,” so why all the fuss?

A few of the obvious reasons include:

  • A fun script brilliantly acted and directed
  • Gorgeous leading male and female actors
  • Some truly interesting and odd characters that you love, or love to hate
  • Believable chemistry between the two main actors
  • A fairy tale that ends with happily ever after
  • Lavish environments that many people find highly appealing
  • Great clothes and shopping
  • Lots of humor

I am of the firm opinion that there is much more going on though, and that that is the reason for its huge appeal.

Its not just a knight in shining armor story about the gallant prince coming to rescue the damsel in distress who has fallen on hard times.

Its a LOT more than that.

Twenty years ago when I first woke up spiritually, the words that kept burning in my brain were “I’m here to help people discover the beautiful, powerful, magnificent beings they are inside.” That is what the whole movie is about.

The story, beyond the romance, the jet set lifestyle, the rags vs riches contrast,  the adversity of “friends” who don’t approve, is about the empowerment of the Vivian character, played by Julia Roberts.

Vivian is a beautiful, intelligent, competent, humorous, and interesting woman that for whatever reason has never seen herself that way.  Most women I know are like that. And the ones who have succeeded, in any area of their life, had a whole lot of caca to overcome in order to do so.

Religion says we are lesser than. Business is often an “old boys network.” Men often play a much bigger role in politics. These are just a few of the places we pick up that we are defective. We are taught that we are weaker and probably not as good at math and science as our male counterparts.  (So of course I had to go out and become an engineer just to prove something – LOL) This is just the crap women are fed from the moment they are born about what it means to be a woman.

Then there is the constant comparing of our looks with who ever is in the movies, in the magazines, the Sports Illustrated swim suit edition, etc. Heaven forbid if a woman was dumped for another woman by someone they loved. Wow does that one cause damage. Multiply that damage x 10 or more if it was a husband. What a woman is taught about herself at home, at school, with her peers, even with her enemies, can be hugely damaging to a woman’s self esteem. And without that, she loses before she even engages in the game.

In the Cinderella story, Cinderella knew she was a Princess being mistreated by an evil step mother and was given an opportunity to change that. But after the dance, Cinderella ran home and the rest was left up to Prince Charming. Cinderella didn’t undergo a true metamorphosis. She really only changed clothes.

But in the Vivian story, when she began to glimpse that she had value, that she had gifts, that this great guy actually saw her brilliance … well then  that girl began to really shine. Because truly, in many cases, all it really takes is one person who actually loves, honors, accepts, and appreciates you for who you are, that can see your brilliance, that can see your unique gifts and how special you are, to open the doorway to you turning your whole life around.

And once she began to “get” that she was more than she had been believing or pretending to herself, then she decided to become that person and demand the respect that came along with feeling good about who you are. She decided to enroll in a beauty course – finding some new career to get her out of the surroundings and “career” she was currently in and head off into a bold new reality.

And, along the way, she said those magic words, “I want the fairy tale.”

Well don’t we all?

Don’t we all truly want love, wealth, health, a fun lifestyle, to be truly happy and surrounded by wonderful people?

We all know the answer to that question.

She had no idea if Edward, played by Richard Gere, would also step up to being more than he had been previously, or if their time truly was over. She would figure out a way to get over it if he couldn’t step into his brilliance too!

She stood up for what she felt she finally deserved, and then Edward showed up as the Knight in Shining Armor she knew he could be.

Its a beautiful tale and even thinking about it brings tears.

Because it touches deep within the soul of those who allow it to, to let you hope and dream and believe in brilliant possibilities for yourself as well.

 

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Pretend Spiritual Gurus and Energy Vampires

Latest Revision: 12/19/15

Just because someone is considered a spiritual guru, shaman, or medicine man (woman), does not make them automatically someone to be trusted or sought out for healing and advice. Energy vampires and pretend spiritual gurus are much more common than most people think.

Money Pyramid Schemes

My friend, Ilona Selke, shared the following words on Facebook (shared here with permission):

“Money Pyramid Schemes … They have been traveling the alternative circles for decades…and I would like to post this as it puts the feelings a lot of people have at the bottom of such pyramid schemes.

To blame the elders for not doing the research? Usually no one wants to listen… I have shared my views…but in then..whether it is about the ‘woman’s circle’ or even on not picking bad guys, lessons seem to have to be learned. Advice seems to work on those that almost have the wisdom already.
But there is a good thing: “Lessons learned are like bridges burnt you only have to cross them but once.” (hopefully)”

She shared that along with an article by a woman that had been “taken in” by the Women’s Circle Pyramid Scheme.

These are my thoughts on this topic … Read more

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The deeper your connection with nature, the deeper your connection with self!

You were born to be magnificent!

Allowing your light to shine, even in your darkest times, will draw more light to you.