In the various Manifestating classes and masterminds I lead, I share many tools, techniques, guided meditations, and ways to heal inner issues in order to harness the Law of Attraction and create the reality you desire.
Some people on a spiritual path go into a state of simply allowing, simply accepting whatever is and whatever comes without having any desires. There is tranquility and peace in acceptance and allowing. And as someone who was once under great stress in the corporate world, I can truly appreciate having joy and peace as the only goal. Read more
Our original plan was to be Spiritual Warriors.
We came from distant galaxies on a grand mission – to usher Planet Earth and all her inhabitants into the New Age. We held a beautiful vision of a golden age of love and light, where all beings from ants, to rocks, to humans, to lobsters would be honored for their gifts and for who they are.
We are, each of us, cocky rebels and rabel rousers. We actually thought it would be fun. Can you believe that? Deep inside we are each a bit like Hans Solo from Star Wars. We like to do things our own way. We hate joining anything and taking orders, advice, or instructions from others. And we are also like the Three Musketeers. We actually enjoy the fight and it never occurred to us that we wouldn’t win.
So what happened? Read more
“I’m so sorry.”
“Please forgive me.”
Everywhere you go, you hear someone saying these words. Maybe it’s even you saying them.
Stop it immediately.
Especially if you are interested in manifesting your desires, improving your health, and being happier in life. These words can destroy your self-esteem. Or, if you are already suffering or struggling with low self-esteem, they can take you even lower and deeper into that.
After twenty years of working with highly-refined energies, dowsing, meditation, and being an empath, I’ve become … like a human pendulum for what is helpful or hurtful to the human body, mind, and spirit. I can literally feel, within my own body, how beneficial or detrimental various words and phrases are to the personal speaking them, how foods, herbs, and drugs affect the person taking them, and even how people they spend time with empower or disempower them.
As I shared in The Power of Words, what you place after the words, “I Am” are critical to health, happiness, and success.
If you desire flow, freedom, and a rise in vibration, then detrimental words like these simply must be eliminated.
How easy do you think it is for a “sorry individual” to experience freedom and flow, health and happiness?
I’m not saying to suddenly become rude or inconsiderate. What I’m saying is to be careful how you say it.
As my beloved teacher, Stuart Wilde, used to say, “Your word is law.” And it is. Every word you utter is a command to the subconscious mind about what you want in life.
In the beginning was The Word … I’m sure you’ve heard or seen that before.
Since you are a spark of Divinity having a human experience, your word is a powerful tool in your manifestation toolbox.
They say you should watch your thoughts. What you verbalize has infinitely more power than mere thought alone.
Back to the idea of your word is law. Stuart said, “never make promises.” Definitely never make idle promises. But, if you have to say you will or will not do something, if you say you will, then do. If for some reason you can’t, let people know and make it right.
Living in New Mexico, I had to learn the hard way about flowing with change and expectations.
Plans are constantly changing there. People can’t make it to various events they signed up for. There might be a family emergency, a flood (literally) preventing road crossings, or some health issue or another. You quickly learn to live fully in the moment without expectations of what the moment you are in is supposed to look like.
Learn to trust that if something is “supposed” to happen, it will. And if a certain person is supposed to be there, they will be. The more you move into living that way, the less your happiness depends on the behavior of others, or yourself.
When you can drop expectations, you are totally free.
Who you are is a magnificent being with unique gifts, skills, and talents.
The more you apologize, the more you are telling your subconscious mind that you are not enough, that you screwed up … again, that you let someone down … again. That is nonsense.
These are not the affirmations you want to be making to the world about what you want in your life.
Yes, if you make a promise, call and say something came up and you need to reschedule. But say, “I apologize,” or “sorry,” but never “I’m sorry.”
When you have reached Avatar status, and successfully healed all your own issues, then it is time to consider taking on issues outside self. Until then, I think that Jesus quote makes great sense: “Don’t try to remove the splinter from your brother’s eye until you’ve gotten rid of the plank from your own.” As long as you are running the three core human fears:
- fear you aren’t enough
- fear you are unloveable
- fear of abandonment
you will have damaged self-esteem and you need to actively work on improving it. Saying I’m sorry is counterproductive to that cause.
I can hear you saying, “but what about the phrase, ‘I Love You, I’m Sorry, Please Forgive Me, Thank You’ made famous by Dr. Joe Vitale?
Bless people and situations, absolutely, it is very empowering to you and them to do so. But those are not the best words to choose.
- “I love you” – powerful words. That is a great thing to say to bless another or a situation. “I bless you” or “bless you” is another.
- “I’m sorry” – don’t be. We’ve already discussed why. I go into it further in the other article I mentioned.
- “Please forgive me” – for what? What did you do to feel the need to beg forgiveness and from whom? Who are you begging forgiveness of all day?
- “Thank you” – another great thing to say. Any affirmation of gratitude is a great mantra to have.
So overall these statements negate one another internally. Thank heavens they end on a positive note.
It would be much better to leave off the two that are disempowering, particularly for anyone struggling with self-esteem issues.
If you have not already accomplished all your goals, then self-esteem – belief in self, belief on all levels that you deserve your desires, belief in your gifts, your magnificence, your own Divine – is definitely something you still need to work on.
We are all still working on these things. It is part of the lessons of planet earth.
On the path toward enlightenment, being empowered, learning to speak in an empowered way is part of the journey. Pay attention to your words and choose those that are empowering and will assist you in raising your self-confidence and self-esteem.
Just as I was completing this article, I came across this statement: “the late Dr. Emoto always said, ‘Love and Gratitude’ is the most beautiful energy and it improves immunity.” This is referring to the water molecule experiments of Dr. Masaru Emoto. So, just as I concluded that love and gratitude were the most empowering words, Dr. Emoto’s findings agree.
Have a deLightful day,
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Energy Healers and Shaman
Physical Pain and Entities
Up until the day I met Kaaren Shikiah Kaylor, I had never needed, or even thought of, having an energy session for physical pain. I so rarely have physical pain. But living in Santa Fe, New Mexico, the energies there brought up so many things, I often found myself dealing with phantom pain from past lives and had lots of encounters with disharmonious energy, vampires, energetic attachments, etc. Where there is light, there is also darkness.
We had just moved to Santa Fe a few weeks prior and I had been invited to have a booth at a Goddess Weekend in Madrid, NM. As I was setting up the booth, I suddenly began having excruciating back pain. I could hardly walk I was so uncomfortable. I was still setting up the booth when this woman, Shikiah, was doing the opening ceremony. When my then husband, Raven, came back to the booth after the ceremony, he said, “I scheduled you an appointment with Shikiah.” Hmmmm I am freaking picky about who I let work in my energy field. I had never laid eyes on her and yet, I was scheduled for a session. If it weren’t for the pain, I probably would have cancelled. I like to make my own appointments, thank you very much. hahaha
I Am an Energy Healer
Whatever you are called to do as a true life purpose, those talents and gifts you came in to awaken, activate, fine-tune, and enhance, often require that you grow immensely in consciousness and awareness, healing layer upon layer of fear and limitation in order to step fully into that role. That’s what I’ve been up to for two decades … awakening, activating, fine-tuning, expanding, allowing, healing, growing, in a never ending spiral upward.
Like everyone, I’ve gotten stuck and required assistance to move forward on more than one occasion. I’ve developed friendships and business partnerships with people who showed up so I could fine-tune and hone my “bull shit” meter (pardon the language), my ability to read energy, my ability to sort between the truly, authentically, genuinely Light and the wolves in sheep’s clothing – those who appear light, use all the right words, appear to be intent on helping others, but are instead running hidden agendas and in some cases are energy manipulators or actual energy vampires. If you are going to work with energy, this is something you must master.
Read more about the nature of who I am and what I do here.
How to Tell the Dark from the Light
Some Will Steal Your Power
How Can You Tell?
If you spend time with someone and afterwards you feel confusion, worry, exhaustion, or self doubt, that is a neon sign that you have been manipulated energetically and/or mentally. Clear the energy between you and spend less time with them if at all possible.
How often do you take the time to meditate, open the energy channels within the body, connect to the earth and your Higher Self?
These are actions I take every single day. I encourage you to do the same. As you continue the practice, you will become better at determining people who are running harmonious empowering energy vs the opposite.
Have a glorious day,
P.S. When you need help, give me a call.
The bloody shoulds destroy relationships and self-esteem.
Blame, shame, victimhood, guilt … often create terrible destruction and rarely anything positive.
The only way for a person to be happy is to stop blaming others and outside circumstances for their unhappiness. You have to take responsibility for how you react to the words and actions of other people. People’s behavior is one thing. Your reaction to it is all about you and nothing at all to do with them.
If you want a great relationship with someone, you have to create it and make it a priority.
You have to love, honor, accept, and appreciate the other person just the way they are. Of course, they have to do the same for your.
Developing kindness, compassion, caring, and being conscientious of how your words and actions affect others is something you (as in all people) simply have to learn how to do if you ever want great relationships.
The problem for most people is that it is impossible to do those things for another until one learns to do it for themselves – meaning you have to love, honor, accept, and appreciate yourself. You have to see your own brilliance. You also have to see your shortcomings and love yourself anyway.
When you can do that, others will also. That’s just how it works.
It took me years to figure all this out and apply it in my own life by truly learning to love and appreciate myself.
Shoulds Destroy Relationships
Emotional distress happens when you have unrealistic expectations of yourself and others or are attached to how you think you and they “should” be behaving. When they (or you) don’t behave the way you think they “should,” you get upset. It’s human nature. It is also something everyone needs to learn to get over.
When you get angry, upset, or sad because someone didn’t behave the way you think they “should” have, that is a great opportunity to take a long hard look, heal, and release, the underlying cause of your anger or sadness. The current circumstance is simply a mirror showing you something that is still “broken” within. It is never about the other person or situation. It is always about the one reacting.
People have good days and bad days. They are imperfect. Sometimes they are fun and interesting and other times they are grumpy. Sometimes they have energy to do things and other days they can barely get out of bed. That is just the truth.
Some people are night owls while other are morning people. Some people are naturally more kind. Kindness is really important to me.
Think Before You Speak
If someone is mean, calls people names, is constantly judging, complaining about, and criticizing others, I simply refuse to hang out with them. They obviously are not showing honor or respect for those other people.
If the people you tend to hang out with act this way, it’s time for new friends. It’s also time to look in the mirror because people are often drawn to people much like themselves. You have to learn to think about how it would feel if someone said that to you, before you speak it out loud. Check out this article on Living the Golden Rule – the rule book I follow in life.
If you have done something unkind, then recognize it, forgive yourself first, then apologize, and move on. In the future, think before you speak or act.
Learning and growing is why we are here. We don’t expect a toddler to always be nice or know how to do everything already. Yet we expect ourselves, and others, to do everything perfectly all the time. When in truth, we are all just learning and growing.
This is a little saying I came up with some time ago:
“They are doing the best they can with what they’ve got
Be it what they’ve experienced or what they’ve been taught.”
In every given moment, we are all doing the best we can. Forgive yourself. Forgive others. Yes, we could all do better. But because of stress, environment, fears, limiting beliefs, judgments, expectations, attachments to outcomes, shame, blame, victimhood, and guilt, we behave less than best a great deal of the time. We can beat ourselves and others up over this forever. Or we can let it go, forgive, and move on.
We are also greatly influenced by the expectations of others. If someone thinks we always screw up, we tend to screw up. If someone thinks we are brilliant, we tend to be brilliant. How you are viewed in the eyes and unspoken beliefs of those you surround yourself with does have an impact on you – whether beneficial or detrimental.
They did a study a long time ago. I am not remembering all the details, but this was the gist of it: A teacher was given the name of each of her new students for the school year along with their locker number. However the teacher was told that the locker number was the student’s IQ. Whether the teacher openly treated students differently with what she thought was a higher IQ or if she simply had higher expectations of those students with high numbers and lesser expectations of those with low numbers, at the end of the year the student scores matched her expectations. Even for children who usually got A’s, if their number was lower, they got lower grades.
How you believe people are is how they behave in your presence. If you think people are jerks, then you tend to be surrounded by jerks. A lot of it has to do with your own beliefs and expectations. When you change, the experiences you have with others changes as well.
Feed Your Mind the Right Things
We are comprised of 70 to 80% water. The studies by Masaru Emoto showed dramatic shifts in water structure by simply taping different words (written in Japanese Kanje / calligraphy) on a glass of water. http://www.masaru-emoto.net/english/water-crystal.html Check out the images, they are fascinating.
Hate caused severe distortion. Love caused extraordinarily beautiful and intricate crystalline structure. Music, news, conversation all have a real tangible effect on your body and therefore your mind and emotions. What you feed your mind matters. Who you surround yourself with matters. How you speak to others and how you let them speak to you matters. What you listen to, even your self talk, all makes a huge difference in how well you do in life and your level of happiness and success.
Many success experts say that you are the sum total of the 5 people you spend the most time with. When you are stuck and wanting to change, the first thing to do is change who you hang out with. If you can’t do that physically, then do it through audio, video, and books. I know a very successful woman who used to read the autobiography’s of very famous people and then, in her mind, pretend that those people were sitting around a table talking with her – her own mental board room. She had “gotten into their head” by reading all about them and then started having conversations, asking questions, making decisions as if they were her friends and advisers. The famous book, Think and Grow Rich, would suggest something similar.
I used to listen to audios and read books by my favorite spiritual teacher. On my way to and from work, I listened to his words of wisdom. I read and listened so often that sometimes I would suddenly hear him say a line or two in my head. It was very empowering and eventually helped me find the courage to leave an incredibly stressful career environment and head out into the unknown to find joy, passion, and my true life’s calling.
Now some of my online programs help you take a deep dive into my work, read my words and hear my voice, related to personal and spiritual growth, energy healing, inspiration, new thoughts and perspectives about life, to truly become empowered and find their own courage to become magnificent and have greater relationships and a more meaningful life experience.
If you enjoyed this article, you might also like this one on getting stuck in the negative thinking spin and the others mentioned at the bottom of it. As well as this article about the Golden Rule and education.
May you experience magnificent relationships,
How to let go of the labels and step into the Divine truth, the magnificence, the uniqueness, and oneness of who you are.
This video does an extraordinary job of discussing labels. Labels divide us. They make us compare and disconnect from others.
Labels divide us. They make us compare and disconnect from others. Click To Tweet
The video talks about the division between races. But labels go much further. They divide us because of religion, gender, economic status, education level and so much more.
We are all human. We are all emanations of the same Divine Source. We are all living extraordinary spiritual adventures here on planet earth and are here to grow and evolve as individuals. A few of the lessons we each must learn along the way include the realization of how we are similar, that Creator made everyone equal, that all are beautiful children of the Divine and no one is more or less blessed than another. Each person is born with unique gifts and talents and all are sacred.
When you look deeply into someone’s eyes, you look beyond skin color and other apparent differences. You touch the beauty of the soul. The truth of what lives there is love.
When you look deeply into someone's eyes ... You touch the beauty of the soul. Click To Tweet
When you discover your own magnificence, your own sacredness, when your self esteem and joy soar because you know are one with All That Is, it becomes infinitely easier to see the beauty and sacredness of others.
Ahhh what a glorious feeling to be in Unity with All.
May you find great joy and meaning in these words,
Thomas Moore said, “What if schools saw the care of children’s souls as their primary mission, coloring all ‘educational’ activities?”
What a powerful thought!
Studies show kids go in to first grade with high self esteem. By the time they graduate high school, self confidence has plummeted. From that jumping off point they are supposed to go to college or off into a workplace and thrive. Some do. For many others though, life continues as a serious struggle.
Much of my work is helping people regain confidence, courage, and clarity after having been battered around by life’s various circumstances. Things would be so much easier for everyone concerned if the esteem piece was already intact as they face these challenges.
But when a person living in doubt and low self w0rth is hit over the head by what I call “the metaphysical 2×4 up side the head,” (cancer, unfaithful spouse, death of a loved one, job loss, etc.), the dark night of the soul that ensues is horrific.
Self esteem is something it takes years to repair. If people were HAALTMed (honored, accepted, appreciated, and loved – my words for how to treat someone properly) at home, school, and everywhere else …
WOW this would be a very different world.
If you truly live by the Golden Rule, that is how you treat everyone.
No one said stepping into Magnificence, becoming personally empowered, and evolving spiritually was easy.
But oh is it worth it!
Have a Magnificent Day!
If you enJOYed this article, read more about the Golden Rule, found in all the world’s major religions, here: https://www.magnificentu.com/living-by-the-golden-rule/
For a deeper look at it from an esoteric spiritual perspective: https://www.magnificentu.com/learning-to-ride-the-waves-of-life/
For an even deeper dive into self esteem from a far greater mystical perspective: https://www.magnificentu.com/beloved-by-debbie-takara-shelor/
NO amount of abuse, whether it be physical, mental/emotional, or spiritual/energetic, is acceptable. Any time you are not being (feeling) loved, honored, accepted, and/or appreciated for who you are, it is often a sign that abuse of one kind or another is happening.
I’ve been through various forms of abuse myself and thankfully I’ve healed, moved on, and lived to tell the tale. Over the years I’ve also worked with hundreds of clients who were facing similar issues. There is a saying that goes, “Religion is for people who are afraid of going to hell, Spirituality is for people who have already been there.” Many who turn to spirituality, metaphysics, energy healing, alternative/complementary medicine, etc. do it to heal issues that, whether they realize it or not, began because of abuse of one form or another.
I’ve written many articles about who you allow into your inner circle. I can’t stress enough how truly important that is for your health and physical / mental / emotional / and spiritual wellbeing.
Who and what you allow in says to your subconscious mind, the Universe, and those around you what you desire and deserve.
Every time you allow abuse, you are saying: “I deserve that. I am not worthy of being honored, loved, respected, and appreciated. I am not lovable”
Those are horrendous affirmations and they must stop NOW!
Because, Dear One, they are absolute LIES!
You are magnificent!
You are an embodiment of Divinity walking on planet earth!
You deserve everything – to be happy, healthy, and successful as you define success!
You are a precious gift and you deserve all that you desire.
Not sticking up for yourself is also abusive. It’s you abusing yourself, saying you don’t deserve better.
And yet, when you are in it, you feel:
- less than,
- unworthy, and/or
No matter how smart, or seemingly successful you are, you often can’t see a way out. Or, as a defense mechanism, you don’t even allow yourself to see or recognize that you are being abused.
Abuse of any kind causes damage not only to self esteem, but also to the energy field (aura) around you. When the energy field is damaged – ripped, shredded or torn – all sorts of icky sticky energy can “get in” and then you have even more disharmonious/noxious stuff to deal with.
If you find yourself in an abusive situation, call on a friend and ask for support from the Universe (God by whatever name), and get out as fast as possible! Find a place to step back into wholeness that is safe.
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I know you will love the things I share in this recording of my interview for the Living Your Vibrant Life Telesummit including the truly life changing “Stepping into Your True Magnificence” meditation exercise, along with many insights and TONS of inspiration for living Your Vibrant Life that I shared.
I really enjoy being interviewed for telesummits, webinars, and radio. Much like working with private clients or speaking from a stage with a live audience, there is a “connection” that occurs which allows me to just “get out of the way” and let the information flow through me that is exactly what the individual or particular audience needs to hear in the moment.
In this telesummit interview, Tandy Elisala and I discuss some powerful conscious manifestation techniques. I also share insights about ways to turbo boost your meditation practice. I discuss the 4 states of being you want to achieve and the 5 practices I recommend everyone utilize to grow personally and accelerate their spiritual journey.
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