Someone on Facebook said they really missed Michael Jackson.

This, of course, launched a lengthy debate about his character and whether one should love or hate the guy.

This was my response:

He was both. Like all of us, he was neither all good or evil. He had all of it inside and sometimes he showed the brilliance of one and other times the other. He was a very gifted artist trying to slay his inner demons. 

Anyone as vibrationally sensitive as he was, with the kind of upbringing he had, is pretty much guaranteed to be screwed up. And that is downright tragic. 

When he was expressing his Divine Gift – he was absolutely brilliant. 

I have no idea what he did or did not do, but he will forever hold a special place in my heart for the joy he caused whenever he took to singing, dancing, or both.”

When someone is expressing their Divine Gift, they are pouring Divine light out into the world. Michael did that with his music. 

The energy of his music brought joy to the space. 

It forced us to want to become more just by seeing how he had perfected his own gift.

His life was screwed up. He was not perfect. I don’t condone his actions if they were less than noble. If he mistreated anyone, then he needed help for sure.

However, that does not make the light he brought forth any less dazzling.

I, for one, was an admirer since I was 6 or 7 and someone at a slumber party put on a record by the Jackson 5. I’ve been a lover of dance ever since! I blame Michael – in a good way.

I trust that by now his soul is at peace. Heck, he may already be back again learning to do something else completely brilliant. Who knows?

Have a deLightful day,

P.S. If you would like to get in touch with and express your true gift, get Soul’s Purpose by Dancing Dolphin.

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Forgiveness is a powerful journey. 

However, it is completely a journey about self. Whatever harm another might have caused, the only person we can heal and make whole again is self. 

So it is our view of the situation, our anger, judgment, feelings of betrayal, victimhood, or blame that are the problem and the forgiveness that is needed. 

Forgiving someone is not saying that what they did was O.K. It is letting go of the emotional burden, the giant imbalance, our focus on the wrong doing is causing for ourselves. 

Hatred towards another literally kills, eats away and destroys from the inside out, the one who is hating. It has little to no affect on the one being hated. 

In the end, the need for forgiveness is the letting go and release emotionally from the thing causing the emotional pain. It is a loving act that we give to ourselves – because if we don’t let it go, we may never love again, may never experience joy again, may never be happy and healthy again. 

There is a very real feeling of release, a giant burden lifted, when we have truly let it go. 

Who ever they are and what ever they did, you are worth infinitely more and your happiness is worth infinitely more. Continuing to focus on them is detracting from you and the brilliant being you are, the love you deserve, the joy that is yours by divine birthright. 

I’ve walked this road more than once – rape, an unfaithful husband, a friends betrayal, and on and on it goes. 

I could not be happy and healthy if I did not truly thoroughly release and let go of the anger and emotional pain I felt over these things. 

It is a journey as I said before. 

Spend time alone in nature in silence. Journal about it. And once you have said all you are feeling to the Universe in the form of pen to paper, let it go and don’t revisit it again.

That is my way anyway.

I have an essence designed specifically to assist in the forgiveness and healing process. Its called “Forgiveness” of course. You can learn more about it and purchase some here: https://www.magnificentu.com/store/Forgiveness-Aromatherapy-Flower-Essence-Healing-Oil 

Much love to you as you work through those things that require forgiveness. And remember … you have to also forgive yourself.

Much love,

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9 comments:

  1. You are fortunate that you have figured a way to forgive and move on. For me, it’s not so easy. In 2 recent cases it took death for me to forgive, but not forget. I’m jinxed! But I’ll tell you this, even in the darkest times and the worst memories, a light always shines through and I remember the good things, too. Maybe that’s my way of forgiveness, prior to death. What do you think?


  2. I believe that forgiveness is really for the person who was wronged. Because not until you let go of the hurt and forgive, you will never be at peace


  3. Takara – you have succinctly encapsulated the self gift of forgiveness. I work with people who have a tough time working their way to a state of forgiveness and don’t realize that the state of “unforgiveness” is a toxic state that ultimately does damage to the self. Thank you for your wonderful post.


  4. It has taken me so very many years to understand that forgiveness is about me, my journey. Now I realize how very arrogant my view of forgiveness was. OMG! I’m on this journey now and walked through months where I knew forgiveness was the way and couldn’t … that has shifted and forgiveness is where the peace comes from.

    I love that you share what you’ve learned!

    Laugh lots, Love more!
    MamaRed


  5. Unforgiveness can truly erode a person, inside and out. Unforgiveness can destroy your health and the ability to move forward. Unforgiveness can erode the relationships closest to you. True forgiveness can release so many feelings and mend relationships. True forgiveness gives freedom.


  6. Well said. Forgiveness is about releasing the power the situation had on you. It is about reclaiming you life.


  7. What a great post. I like that you mention to journal and not revisit it. I think that is a good piece of advice. If you have truly released it you do not need to revisit. Now one can put better stuff in the place that is now vacated! Thanks for sharing.


  8. Really enjoyed this piece, Takara. The more we forgive ourselves and leave the past in the past, we free ourselves to move unencumbered into our future.


  9. Forgiveness is more for our own benefit than for the other person. Unless we learn to forgive, we cannot move through! I read this story many years ago of a brother and sister who lived through the same things, One forgave and lived a healthy life. The other chose NOT to and became all crippled by arthritis and became a miserable human being. That… says it all!


 

Happy New Year

Welcome to the new year!

I encourage you to reflect on the past year.

Take out some paper and a pen, your journal, or an Evernote note.

Even though I use Evernote every day, for an exercise like this, I actually prefer paper and pen. There is something about the right brained creative nature of writing that allows things to flow differently than if I am typing the answers. As you answer the following questions, don’t limit yourself to just 1 answer. Let it flow until it is complete and then go on to the next question.

Consider the following about the year that is ending:

What and who do you feel blessed by having in your life?


What was extraordinary?

What was tough?

What did you learn from both types of experiences?

Growth happens when you learn and change.

What were the top five (5) things that are most important to you? (Some examples might be your children, spouse or partner, health, career, a project or hobby, friendships, religious or community organization … you get the idea)

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Did you devote as much time and attention as you would like to toward each one in 2014?

Think about how you can devote more time to those things that matter most in 2015.

Look at the whole year and determine the one best experience that brought you the greatest amount of joy.

What are the top 5 things you want to accomplish or experience in this new year? (Goals work much better if they are measurable. Saying I want to weigh a certain amount or lose 2″ off my waist is much more effective than saying I want to lose weight. If you can’t measure it, then you don’t know when you have achieved it.)

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As you look at what you want to accomplish or experience for the new year, is there a way to include more of things like that one great moment in your goals and desires.

What did you learn about yourself this year?

How has that knowledge helped your health, wealth, relationships, or level of joy?

Richard Bolles, the brilliant man who brought us the amazingly helpful book, What Color is Your Parachute, says in another of his wonderful books, The Three Boxes of Life, that you need to experience work, play, and learning in equal amounts to be balanced and happy.

A handsome surfer from California, whom I met when he was getting a Ph.D. in electrical engineering at Virginia Tech, said, “If you are going to work hard, then you need to play hard.” I never forgot that. And I’ve always managed to do that whether the “play” was wine and great conversation with friends, travel adventures, skiing, in-line skating, listening to live music, attending festivals and other events, dancing, hiking, meditating on the beach or a mountain top, growing flowers, taking photographs, creating articles, books, or graphics, leading groups, or any number of other things that bring me joy.

When you plan the year ahead, make sure there are things that you enjoy in the mix.

Also make sure you plan in quiet time, time to yourself to read, knit, hike, enjoy a hot tub or bubble bath, journal, or just kick back and relax.

I spend hours on the phone with my best friends. It keeps me sane. Part of the time we are discussing spiritual concepts that I’m working on as part of what I teach. Other times we help each other look at our life through another lens learning and growing through life’s daily challenges.

Somewhere in your life you need to have people who love, honor, accept, and appreciate you for who you are. I am blessed to have many of those – probably because I’ve learned to love, honor, accept, and appreciate myself. I also have a very empowering affirmation I’ve been saying for years that goes something like this: “I have lots of fabulous, interesting, uplifting friends from all over the globe who are fun, love to laugh, are passionately living life, and who make a positive difference in the world.” The “uplifting” bit makes a HUGE difference. It’s easy to find people who suck your energy and complain all the time bringing you down. Having people who are upbeat, passionate, and uplifting to be around is a true blessing.

Look at the main areas of your life and decide where you want to experience change or improvement:

  • health
  • level of joy
  • wealth
  • love / romance
  • family
  • friendships / community
  • career / work
  • hobbies / passions
  • spirituality / religion
  • home (environment, location, how nurturing is it to be there)

Think of ways to incorporate those areas into your goal setting and planning for the year.

In the Foundation Course coming up in a few weeks, we will be doing a deep dive into each of these areas and how to create significant transformation in each of them. We will be going over in depth the two life assessments you get as part of the Magnificent U Starter Kit. Be sure to get yours, if you haven’t already.

To achieve your dreams in an easier and faster fashion requires that you let go of fear, limiting beliefs, judgments, and expectations that are holding you back and ensuring that you stay safely inside the box you’ve created for yourself – not achieving or doing anything new.

What fears, limiting beliefs, judgments, and/or expectations did you let go of in 2014?

Were you happier this past year than you were in the year before?

That is the true mark of success!

To find out about the Magnificent U Foundation Course and to receive your Magnificent U Starter Kit, be sure to complete the form on the “Gifts” tab.

Here’s to a fabulous New Year,



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You are on a hero’s journey. Your life is your quest. The events that make up your daily life experience are the hurdles and obstacles you have to climb, conquer, and find a way to overcome to reach your desired destination. No hero starts out that way. They begin as some ordinary, unassuming person from a village somewhere. Then something horrible happens. There is a big issue or situation that has been suddenly thrust upon them.

So the hero in the making sets off into “zones unknown” as Dean Black puts it. He/she has to decide the quest is worth it, often facing a fairly high level of fear and trepidation along the way. They have to leave the comfort and security of what they know and understand and head out to see and experience people and situations that they never even knew existed when they were back in the village.

The hero has to do things they never thought they could. They have to reach deep down inside themselves and find the strength and courage to deal with whatever comes their way.  It’s not for the faint of heart. And yet, you are already on such a quest even if you don’t realize that you are.

If you are unhealthy, unhappy, or unsuccessful, then those are the obstacles on your path right now. Most things like that don’t just jump up and surprise you. They were a long time in the making. In fact, it might have been several generations in the making.

Nothing of any consequence is achieved overnight. It takes considerable time and effort and it often requires help.

If you are one of those people who thinks you can do it all on your own, then listen up:  If you had the tools, confidence, and knowledge necessary to fix the problem on your own, you would have done so already! Would you not?

You can be healthy.

You can be happy.

You can be successful – however you define success.

The only thing you have to change is the one thing that you truly can . . . and that is you!

Sin is wrong thinking. Thinking that sickness, poverty, disappointment, and struggle are “normal” or inevitable is wrong thinking.

There is an idea that says you are the sum total of the 5 people you hang out with the most. Think about it. Who are they? What is their life like? What do they think about? How kind are they? What do they feel is important? What do they judge? What do their income level, education, and dreams about the future look like? And is that what you want for yourself?

You don’t have to replace all your friends to shift this. You can begin the process by feeding your mind new information through books, articles, audios, videos, and workshops. Make nature one of your friends. Spend time each day in quiet contemplation, in silence, in meditation. Journal your thoughts, your insights, the new things you are learning.

If you want to change, then you have to step out of the comfort zone of the people you hang out with and do something different. I prefer the radical approach. I liken it to jumping into the deep end of the pool without first sticking your toe in to see how cold the water is. You move across the country or even the world. You marry a foreigner. You leave the corporate world and strike out on your own. That’s my way.

Why?

Because the idea of being anything less than my full potential is just not O.K. with me.

Most people can’t handle the insecurity of such a radical lifestyle. I happen to thrive on it. It proves to me that if I can do those things, then there is no reason I can’t also achieve all of my dreams. If I can muster up the courage to start my own business, then becoming a bestselling author is also within reach. If I can jump on a plane to live aboard a million dollar yacht in Fiji, then manifesting a more luxurious lifestyle has to also be possible for me.

When I made the bestseller list, it was both exciting and surprising. Surprising because this is not the book that I thought would be the “big one.” I was convinced that the big one was one of the books in the 5-book New Dance series that I’m currently penning. So, I wasn’t attached to this book being a bestseller. And that is probably why it became one. I was not all wrapped up emotionally in its success. Even though it was a bit exciting, it was also fairly anticlimactic. O.K. I now have the title. What now?

Even though I wasn’t emotionally attached to the outcome, I knew I had to do whatever I felt Divinely guided to do in order to get it out there. What it required of me was definitely outside of my comfort zone. I had to muster up the courage to do things I was uncomfortable with. But that’s what it took to achieve the thing. So that’s what I did. It was definitely not easy. And most people would never be willing to get that uncomfortable to achieve their dreams. That’s why most people never achieve them.

Often the Universe forces you to be the hero of your own life. You lose your job, you get cancer, your spouse cheats. You know . . . the typical disasters that make you sit up and take notice . . . and finally agree that your life needs to change and it is you that must change it.

Everything I offer is designed to help you along your spiritual journey, your personal quest for the Magnificence of self:

  • Meditation keeps you sane, balanced, and able to hear the still small voice of Divine wisdom,
  • Dowsing helps you fine tune your intuition and send a neon sign to the Universe saying you want answers and Divine assistance,
  • Private Long Distance Energy Sessions help to clear out the energies you have not been successful at clearing and to activate and “turn on” the various codes lying latent within you,
  • Dancing Dolphin Energy Healing Products and Healing Technologies lift you up significantly in vibration and offer every possible type of support you could need anywhere along your way – from something to just help you calm down to things that act like dynamite clearing out and releasing you from the past,
  • The various books offer insights and wisdom to help you understand more about yourself, the spiritual journey, how life really works, and the quest you are on,
  • The new workshop series will offer an opportunity for you to learn the best ways to work with the Dancing Dolphin products and the techniques for yourself or with clients and groups. If you have a center or a group and would like to host a workshop, please let me know: takara@magnificentu.com.

Much love to you Dear One. What you make of your life is up to you. I send you blessings and Light for a prosperous, healthy, and magnificent new life.

 

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27 comments:

  1. Very well written Takara – a gift with words! You’ve mentioned so many important points, but the 2 that really stand out for me are: Feeding your mind new information, and anything less than full potential is just not O.K. I believe we need to embrace these fully to be able to move forward in our journey. Also, as long as we are self aware and act, we’ll be able to recognize our own journey successfully. Have an amazing 2013.

     

  2. Hi Gary:

    Thanks for stopping by. I agree with you. Those are definitely very important points.

    Sending you blessings for a fabulous 2013,
    Takara

  3. What a fantastic post! The good news was when you said: “The only thing you have to change is the one thing that you truly can . . . and that is you!”

     

  4. Hi Susan: I spend most of my time helping people with that piece. So often people look outside themselves, judging and condemning other people, organizations, or situations. That typically is a pointless waste of time and energy. When a person can change themselves, their whole life miraculously shifts and the outer begins to reflect the inner. Everything works much more smoothly. Fun!

     

  5. Wishing you a wonderful 2013, as well! Great post! It’s amazing what can happen when we dig deep and move out of our comfort zone. : D

     

  6. Hi Sherie: Thanks for sharing. It is fabulous what can happen outside the comfort zone. I wish it was easier for everyone to see how dramatically things can change when they learn to “trust” that the Universe has their best interest in mind.

  7. Such a beautiful article, Takara. Liked this: “The only thing you have to change is the one thing that you truly can . . . and that is you!” It sounds so simple and powerful! Thanks for sharing. Happy New Year!

     

  8. Hi: Thanks for visiting and commenting. It is extremely powerful and fairly simple. Sadly, most people are terrified of looking at the limiting beliefs, fears, judgments, and expectations that are holding them back. And even worse, most people don’t have the tools necessary to “fix” an issue even if they are willing to look at it. Thank heavens I, and many others, have developed and discovered tools that truly do help.

  9. Love starting off my year with all these motivating and inspiring posts. It really is a matter of deciding you can and then giving yourself the permission and the tools to achieve your own magnificence. Thanks, Debbie.

     

  10. Thanks for visiting Marie: Most people just need 1 other person to truly believe in their potential for them to begin believing they can achieve their dreams.

  11. Thanks for a wonderful post Takara. You brought up so many good points. I really appreciate your point that to create your best life you have to dig deep and find strength and courage to deal with whatever comes.

     

  12. Thanks for stopping by Jean. I love that quote by Einstein about the definition of insanity “Doing the same things over and over and expecting a different result.” Yet most people refuse to do something new, step out of their comfort zone, learn from someone else, or try something different. It takes a significant amount of courage. But the more you do it, the more you see the fantastic results because you did so. It helps build the trust you need to take uncomfortable actions next time. I’m pretty freakin’ courageous. I’ve walked on fire. I’ve ridden horses bareback and blindfolded. I’ve run at top speed downhill toward a cliff dropping off into the raging ocean below while blindfolded. I’ve pushed past a lot of fears. I married a foreigner. I left the comfort and security of a high paying engineer’s job to move to an island and start a non-profit for dolphins and whales.

  13. “Because the idea of being anything less than my full potential is just not O.K. with me”.

    This is an awesome statement!

     

  14. Hi and thanks for visiting. It reminds me of my favorite quote: “Life is either a daring adventure . . . or it is nothing.” ~ Helen Keller.

     

  15. Powerful article. I agree with Gary, feeding your mind new information, and anything less than full potential is just not O.K. And it is a process, this journey we travel on. Learning more day to day and implementing more. Getting it bit by bit and living the way our Creator originally intended for us to live. Thanks!

     

  16. Thanks Norma. I love the personal journey toward what I call magnificence. I also LOVE helping others as they learn to navigate theirs. Fun!

  17. Excellent article with a powerful message, our life can and will be what we choose it to be! We have all we need within, all we have to do is believe in ourselves and ACT!

     

  18. Thanks for stopping by Denny. And once we start the action it is so much easier. The act of getting started, taking that breath and daring to do whatever, seems to be the hardest part. Once you are doing the thing, you realize how easy it is and how silly it was to resist it in the first place.

     

  19. Acheiving dreams is definitely not a matter of comfort! But it is so worth it as we attain another nugget of our dream! 🙂 Step out and make it happen!

     

  20. Absolutely! Thanks for stopping by Carl.

  21. So many wonderful mentions in your post; I loved it! The part about you are the sum total of the 5 people you hang out the most was told to me in a similar way in the past by a friend of mine. She said to try not to be around negative people since that can bring you down. However, if they are people that you really do want to keep in your circle of friends or they are close family members and they are negative, then, as you pointed out too, you don’t have to replace them but find other outlets to learn and not be around that negativity so much.

     

  22. Hi Allison. Thanks for your comments. Monitoring the amount of negativity you let in is not always easy. It is definitely worth it though. Have a great day, Takara

  23. So many points that resonate in here with me, thank you. This one struck a special chord ~ “Often the Universe forces you to be the hero of your own life.” I find that to be so true. You can either take these experiences that come your way and allow them to break you or make you. For those of us who choose to be the heros, they are the most extraordinary and strengthening experiences of a lifetime. Thanks for a great article. I also will never settle for less than my full potential!

     

  24. Hi Jennifer – thanks for stopping by. Seeing the lesson or silver lining in a tough situation is a skill well worth developing. Many blessings to your continued success, Takara

  25. Wonderful article. Great things can happen when you step out of your comfort zone… so I’ve heard, LOL. It’s not something that comes easy for me! I prefer to dip a toe in, think about it and see how it goes, rather than jump right in (or out?), but I know I should really jump! I don’t know why the comfort zone is so comfortable–it’s often boring and/or unhappy.

     

  26. Debbie…thanks for the great post, we think alike! I agree that you are who you hang around and that is the first step in evaluating where you are and where you want to be.

    Happiness is a choice, because we all will get hit with uncomfortable circumstances in life…it’s what we do with them that matters!


  27. Very inspiring post here Takara! You are absolutely right about stepping out of my comfort zone to achieve my dreams and goals. “You are on a hero’s journey. Your life is your quest.” I love the way you point this out.


RunAway

Because of the nature of who I am and the business I’m in, people often tell me things about their past that they never dare share with anyone else. I’ve heard so many horror stories from clients and friends, sometimes random strangers, about the things that happened to them in their own homes, and outside the home as they were growing up and even into adulthood. Being  “staked” and gang raped, starved and locked in a closet, pimped out by parents who were part of a cult, beaten to the point of having a near death experience because they were legally dead, and on and on it goes. These are “normal” people from all walks of life and every economic level. You would never know as an onlooker that they are survivors of such madness.

Yet, on the inside, they suffer … Read more

Fire Walking for a Cause by Takara

I remember the time I walked on fire.

Now some people think about walking on fire and say, “So what?” because it is no big deal. Others look at you like you must be nuts – not being able to imagine doing it and wondering why anyone would want to.

I always fell into the first category. When I first heard about firewalking, I knew it was something I could do with little to no effort and certainly no cause for getting all bent out of shape. So I never intended to do it. I had nothing to prove and it didn’t feel like some challenge I needed to overcome.

But … Read more

Pretend Spiritual Gurus and Energy Vampires

Latest Revision: 12/19/15

Just because someone is considered a spiritual guru, shaman, or medicine man (woman), does not make them automatically someone to be trusted or sought out for healing and advice. Energy vampires and pretend spiritual gurus are much more common than most people think.

Money Pyramid Schemes

My friend, Ilona Selke, shared the following words on Facebook (shared here with permission):

“Money Pyramid Schemes … They have been traveling the alternative circles for decades…and I would like to post this as it puts the feelings a lot of people have at the bottom of such pyramid schemes.

To blame the elders for not doing the research? Usually no one wants to listen… I have shared my views…but in then..whether it is about the ‘woman’s circle’ or even on not picking bad guys, lessons seem to have to be learned. Advice seems to work on those that almost have the wisdom already.
But there is a good thing: “Lessons learned are like bridges burnt you only have to cross them but once.” (hopefully)”

She shared that along with an article by a woman that had been “taken in” by the Women’s Circle Pyramid Scheme.

These are my thoughts on this topic … Read more

Quote by Debbie Takara Shelor

 

“The anger, judgment, and hatred you feel is not God. It is your ego. It is your fear, limiting beliefs, and lack of love for self and others that you are expressing. It is all the unhealed places within wishing to be illuminated, healed, and forgiven. The demons are not outside of you. They are within.” ~ Debbie Takara Shelor

Quote by Bestselling Author Debbie Takara Shelor about Anger and Judgment

A quote I encourage you to ponder and think upon whenever you find yourself angry or judging another. This includes politicians, countries, and things in the news.

Have a deLightful day,

 

 

So many wonderful videos are coming out now about enlightenment, our deep connection with the environment, and so much more.

This is a powerful speech given by Alan Watts. The video was created by Tragedy and Hope who used the audio by permission of alanwatts.org.

The speech, all by itself, is truly profound. With the visuals, it adds another depth of meaning and understanding.

I trust you will enjoy this invitation and explanation of awakening.


Enjoy,

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Beloved by Takara

How much do you love yourself?

What do you feel worthy of receiving?

The Goddess is rising and she demands honor, respect, and acknowledgement for her contribution.

I’m sure you have been seeing it too. Many of the women I know have been faced recently with a strong desire to dump their boyfriends/husbands. And for the one’s I’ve spoken with, it was usually sparked by a situation where they were just not feeling respected or acknowledged for all the work and energy they give. Luckily for most it was a fleeting thing that allowed them to voice their discontent and acknowledge their needs and desires.

The one that matters is you. Read more