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“When you look in the mirror, staring back at you should be joy.

If what you see in the mirror is something less than joy, such as stress,

pain, frustration, anger, sadness, jealousy, fear, etc.,

then something in your life needs to change NOW!”

~ Debbie Takara Shelor

Joy is your natural state of being.

Herein lies the source of all your emotional pair:

The way you think people and situations should be is different than they really are.

When you can let go of the “shoulds” and just let life unfold without judgment, things get significantly easier and a lot more fun!

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  Have a deLightful day,

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Michael Jackson – Angel or Devil?

Someone on Facebook said they really missed Michael Jackson. This, of course, launched a lengthy debate about his character and whether one should love or hate the guy. This was my response: “He was both. Like all of us, he was neither all good or evil. He had all of it inside and sometimes he showed the brilliance of one and other times the other. He was a very gifted artist trying to slay his inner demons.  Anyone as vibrationally sensitive as he was, with the kind of upbringing he had, is pretty much guaranteed to be screwed up. And that is downright tragic.  When he was expressing his Divine Gift – he was absolutely brilliant.  I have no idea what he did or did not do, but he will forever hold a special place in my heart for the joy he caused whenever he took to singing, dancing, or both.”

When someone is expressing their Divine Gift, they are pouring Divine light out into the world. Michael did that with his music.  The energy of his music brought joy to the space.  It forced us to want to become more just by seeing how he had perfected his own gift. His life was screwed up. He was not perfect. I don’t condone his actions if they were less than noble. If he mistreated anyone, then he needed help for sure. However, that does not make the light he brought forth any less dazzling. I, for one, was an admirer since I was 6 or 7 and someone at a slumber party put on a record by the Jackson 5. I’ve been a lover of dance ever since! I blame Michael – in a good way. I trust that by now his soul is at peace. Heck, he may already be back again learning to do something else completely brilliant. Who knows? Have a deLightful day,

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Forgiveness and the Power to Heal

Forgiveness is a powerful journey.  However, it is completely a journey about self. Whatever harm another might have caused, the only person we can heal and make whole again is self.  So it is our view of the situation, our anger, judgment, feelings of betrayal, victimhood, or blame that are the problem and the forgiveness that is needed.  Forgiving someone is not saying that what they did was O.K. It is letting go of the emotional burden, the giant imbalance, our focus on the wrong doing is causing for ourselves. 

Hatred towards another literally kills, eats away and destroys from the inside out, the one who is hating. It has little to no affect on the one being hated.  In the end, the need for forgiveness is the letting go and release emotionally from the thing causing the emotional pain. It is a loving act that we give to ourselves – because if we don’t let it go, we may never love again, may never experience joy again, may never be happy and healthy again.  There is a very real feeling of release, a giant burden lifted, when we have truly let it go.  Who ever they are and what ever they did, you are worth infinitely more and your happiness is worth infinitely more. Continuing to focus on them is detracting from you and the brilliant being you are, the love you deserve, the joy that is yours by divine birthright.  I’ve walked this road more than once – rape, an unfaithful husband, a friends betrayal, and on and on it goes.  I could not be happy and healthy if I did not truly thoroughly release and let go of the anger and emotional pain I felt over these things.  It is a journey as I said before.  Spend time alone in nature in silence. Journal about it. And once you have said all you are feeling to the Universe in the form of pen to paper, let it go and don’t revisit it again. That is my way anyway. I have an essence designed specifically to assist in the forgiveness and healing process. Its called “Forgiveness” of course. You can learn more about it and purchase some here: https://www.magnificentu.com/store/Forgiveness-Aromatherapy-Flower-Essence-Healing-Oil  Much love to you as you work through those things that require forgiveness. And remember … you have to also forgive yourself. Much love,

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9 comments:

  1. You are fortunate that you have figured a way to forgive and move on. For me, it’s not so easy. In 2 recent cases it took death for me to forgive, but not forget. I’m jinxed! But I’ll tell you this, even in the darkest times and the worst memories, a light always shines through and I remember the good things, too. Maybe that’s my way of forgiveness, prior to death. What do you think?

  2. I believe that forgiveness is really for the person who was wronged. Because not until you let go of the hurt and forgive, you will never be at peace

  3. Takara – you have succinctly encapsulated the self gift of forgiveness. I work with people who have a tough time working their way to a state of forgiveness and don’t realize that the state of “unforgiveness” is a toxic state that ultimately does damage to the self. Thank you for your wonderful post.

  4. It has taken me so very many years to understand that forgiveness is about me, my journey. Now I realize how very arrogant my view of forgiveness was. OMG! I’m on this journey now and walked through months where I knew forgiveness was the way and couldn’t … that has shifted and forgiveness is where the peace comes from.

    I love that you share what you’ve learned! Laugh lots, Love more! MamaRed
  5. Unforgiveness can truly erode a person, inside and out. Unforgiveness can destroy your health and the ability to move forward. Unforgiveness can erode the relationships closest to you. True forgiveness can release so many feelings and mend relationships. True forgiveness gives freedom.

  6. Well said. Forgiveness is about releasing the power the situation had on you. It is about reclaiming you life.

  7. What a great post. I like that you mention to journal and not revisit it. I think that is a good piece of advice. If you have truly released it you do not need to revisit. Now one can put better stuff in the place that is now vacated! Thanks for sharing.

  8. Really enjoyed this piece, Takara. The more we forgive ourselves and leave the past in the past, we free ourselves to move unencumbered into our future.

  9. Forgiveness is more for our own benefit than for the other person. Unless we learn to forgive, we cannot move through! I read this story many years ago of a brother and sister who lived through the same things, One forgave and lived a healthy life. The other chose NOT to and became all crippled by arthritis and became a miserable human being. That… says it all!

 

Aromatherapy, Essential Oils, Reputable Suppliers, and the Dancing Dolphin Difference for Energy Healing

aromatherapySm There was a debate going on recently on Facebook about whether a person wanting quality essential oils for aromatherapy should choose Young Living or DoTerra. I jumped into the mix and said, “Neither.”

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Actually, this is what I said:
“I vote neither. I’m sure there are people here who won’t like that answer. Sorry about that.
 I was formally trained in the medicinal use of essential oils by world renowned aromatherapy expert, Dr Jane Buckle. I got involved briefly with Young Living many years ago. I left because I discovered that you can get extraordinary oils from very reputable distillers through several excellent companies in the U.S. without the cost involved with network marketing. 
Both companies have good oil, but in some cases, the non-MLM oils are actually superior. 
Some how these MLM companies have successfully convinced their people that the only way to get therapeutic quality oils is to purchase them through their companies. That is not at all the case. 
Many reputable essential oil retailers can supply gas chronographs from the distillers for each batch to prove purity and effectiveness. Anyone interested in excellent oil knows they need to be distilled under low pressure and low temperature without chemicals. There are TONS of oils available like that. 
These MLM companies are getting much of their oil from distillers throughout the world the same as the other oil retailers are. 
Each MLM has some good blends. But those same exact blends are available elsewhere online for much less. There are at least 8 different lavender varieties and the most beneficial typically comes from France ~ not grown in the U.S. 
Europeans use essential oils in their hospitals instead of harsh cleaning chemicals in many cases. They look at everything from a medical perspective. 
Before jumping on the MLM bandwagon, I suggest you determine why you want to work with oils. Is it to add an income stream or to use oils for your own healing purposes.”
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Ignoring the Past Doesn’t Make It Go Away

RunAway Because of the nature of who I am and the business I’m in, people often tell me things about their past that they never dare share with anyone else. I’ve heard so many horror stories from clients and friends, sometimes random strangers, about the things that happened to them in their own homes, and outside the home as they were growing up and even into adulthood. Being  “staked” and gang raped, starved and locked in a closet, pimped out by parents who were part of a cult, beaten to the point of having a near death experience because they were legally dead, and on and on it goes. These are “normal” people from all walks of life and every economic level. You would never know as an onlooker that they are survivors of such madness. Yet, on the inside, they suffer … Read more

Why We Absolutely Love the Pretty Woman Movie

Many people I know … including some you would find quite surprising … LOVE the movie Pretty Woman. Why is that? There are many answers to that question, so I will share  a few of my thoughts about it here. As someone on my Facebook wall said after I posted about the 25th Pretty Woman Anniversary reunion coming up, that its just an “obvious formula,” so why all the fuss? A few of the obvious reasons include:
  • A fun script brilliantly acted and directed
  • Gorgeous leading male and female actors
  • Some truly interesting and odd characters that you love, or love to hate
  • Believable chemistry between the two main actors
  • A fairy tale that ends with happily ever after
  • Lavish environments that many people find highly appealing
  • Great clothes and shopping
  • Lots of humor
I am of the firm opinion that there is much more going on though, and that that is the reason for its huge appeal. Its not just a knight in shining armor story about the gallant prince coming to rescue the damsel in distress who has fallen on hard times. Its a LOT more than that. Twenty years ago when I first woke up spiritually, the words that kept burning in my brain were “I’m here to help people discover the beautiful, powerful, magnificent beings they are inside.” That is what the whole movie is about. The story, beyond the romance, the jet set lifestyle, the rags vs riches contrast,  the adversity of “friends” who don’t approve, is about the empowerment of the Vivian character, played by Julia Roberts. Vivian is a beautiful, intelligent, competent, humorous, and interesting woman that for whatever reason has never seen herself that way.  Most women I know are like that. And the ones who have succeeded, in any area of their life, had a whole lot of caca to overcome in order to do so. Religion says we are lesser than. Business is often an “old boys network.” Men often play a much bigger role in politics. These are just a few of the places we pick up that we are defective. We are taught that we are weaker and probably not as good at math and science as our male counterparts.  (So of course I had to go out and become an engineer just to prove something – LOL) This is just the crap women are fed from the moment they are born about what it means to be a woman. Then there is the constant comparing of our looks with who ever is in the movies, in the magazines, the Sports Illustrated swim suit edition, etc. Heaven forbid if a woman was dumped for another woman by someone they loved. Wow does that one cause damage. Multiply that damage x 10 or more if it was a husband. What a woman is taught about herself at home, at school, with her peers, even with her enemies, can be hugely damaging to a woman’s self esteem. And without that, she loses before she even engages in the game. In the Cinderella story, Cinderella knew she was a Princess being mistreated by an evil step mother and was given an opportunity to change that. But after the dance, Cinderella ran home and the rest was left up to Prince Charming. Cinderella didn’t undergo a true metamorphosis. She really only changed clothes. But in the Vivian story, when she began to glimpse that she had value, that she had gifts, that this great guy actually saw her brilliance … well then  that girl began to really shine. Because truly, in many cases, all it really takes is one person who actually loves, honors, accepts, and appreciates you for who you are, that can see your brilliance, that can see your unique gifts and how special you are, to open the doorway to you turning your whole life around. And once she began to “get” that she was more than she had been believing or pretending to herself, then she decided to become that person and demand the respect that came along with feeling good about who you are. She decided to enroll in a beauty course – finding some new career to get her out of the surroundings and “career” she was currently in and head off into a bold new reality. And, along the way, she said those magic words, “I want the fairy tale.” Well don’t we all? Don’t we all truly want love, wealth, health, a fun lifestyle, to be truly happy and surrounded by wonderful people? We all know the answer to that question. She had no idea if Edward, played by Richard Gere, would also step up to being more than he had been previously, or if their time truly was over. She would figure out a way to get over it if he couldn’t step into his brilliance too! She stood up for what she felt she finally deserved, and then Edward showed up as the Knight in Shining Armor she knew he could be. Its a beautiful tale and even thinking about it brings tears. Because it touches deep within the soul of those who allow it to, to let you hope and dream and believe in brilliant possibilities for yourself as well.   Return from the Why We Absolutely Love the Pretty Woman Movie Page to the Magnificent U Personal Empowerment Home Page  

Leading with Your Heart and Not Your Mind – Firewalking for Empowerment

Fire Walking for a Cause by Takara I remember the time I walked on fire. Now some people think about walking on fire and say, “So what?” because it is no big deal. Others look at you like you must be nuts – not being able to imagine doing it and wondering why anyone would want to. I always fell into the first category. When I first heard about firewalking, I knew it was something I could do with little to no effort and certainly no cause for getting all bent out of shape. So I never intended to do it. I had nothing to prove and it didn’t feel like some challenge I needed to overcome. But … Read more

Quote About Anger by Debbie Takara Shelor

Quote by Debbie Takara Shelor   “The anger, judgment, and hatred you feel is not God. It is your ego. It is your fear, limiting beliefs, and lack of love for self and others that you are expressing. It is all the unhealed places within wishing to be illuminated, healed, and forgiven. The demons are not outside of you. They are within.” ~ Debbie Takara Shelor Quote by Bestselling Author Debbie Takara Shelor about Anger and Judgment A quote I encourage you to ponder and think upon whenever you find yourself angry or judging another. This includes politicians, countries, and things in the news. Have a deLightful day,    

Beloved by Debbie Takara Shelor

Beloved by Takara How much do you love yourself? What do you feel worthy of receiving? The Goddess is rising and she demands honor, respect, and acknowledgement for her contribution. I’m sure you have been seeing it too. Many of the women I know have been faced recently with a strong desire to dump their boyfriends/husbands. And for the one’s I’ve spoken with, it was usually sparked by a situation where they were just not feeling respected or acknowledged for all the work and energy they give. Luckily for most it was a fleeting thing that allowed them to voice their discontent and acknowledge their needs and desires. The one that matters is you. Read more

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