Every personal empowerment workshop, every coaching program, every energy healing session, and every shamanic healing experience, should have as its aim a way to help you identify, heal, and release these 9 things that you must overcome to manifest your desires and live a joy-filled life.
I call them the “9 Deadly Sins.”
They each represent a way of thinking and believing that do not serve you. These ways of perceiving and viewing the world keep you firmly trapped in the life you are currently living. They keep you from becoming the best version of yourself and from having, doing, and experiencing the things you desire … no matter how much you visualize, pray, or how hard you try.
You can’t take all the blame for these 9 disempowering ways of thinking. You’ve been … Read more
How many times have you set goals, visualized your desired outcome, created and repeated positive affirmations, and yet still not achieved what you had hoped? There are numerous potential causes for this.
Sometimes it’s simply a matter of WORDS.
Every sound you utter sends out an energy wave (or prayer) that aids in creating the world you experience. With every sentence you speak, you are literally improving or destroying your health, relationships, finances, and more.
The most powerful example I have ever heard about the use of conscious language – or actually the misuse of conscious language – was a story told to me directly by the woman who had the experience. This woman had developed an incurable disease of the eyes. She was quickly going blind, and it had gotten to the point where she could no longer read. Her physicians said there was nothing they could do.
Being very determined and not liking what she heard from the doctors, she turned to alternative therapies for a possible cure – something she would never have done had she not been in this desperate situation. A friend recommended she see someone that did crystal healing. She thought that sounded ridiculous but decided to give it a try.
During her appointment, the crystal healing therapist asked her to describe herself, her life, etc. and the therapist let her talk for about 10 minutes.
Suddenly, the therapist stopped her and said: “Did you know that in the last 10 minutes you said the words ‘I hate to see’ 15 times?”
The woman was shocked.
She used the words “I hate to see” before many things. “I hate to see the way the world is going.” “I hate to see how they are treating the children in schools.” On and on she made reference to “I hate to see” this or that.
This was literally an eye opening experience. She switched her words and improvements started almost immediately. She now has good vision.
How Many Words Do You Use that Destroy Your Ability to Achieve Your Desires?
NEVER NEVER NEVER say “I’m Sorry.”
Two of the most powerful words in the English language are the words
These words tell every part of you – your personality, your subconscious, your ego, your spirit – who you are. They define WHO YOU ARE. Be very careful what you place behind those words.
When you say “I’m sorry,” you are saying that WHO YOU ARE is a sorry individual, someone who is worthless, despicable, and bad. Replace the words “I’m sorry” with “I apologize.”
Anyone who eliminates the words “I’m sorry” from their vocabulary will increase their self-esteem almost immediately!
The same goes for “I’m sick.” “I’m tired.” “I’m stupid.” – you get the idea. Replace those with “I feel ___” and eliminate the stupid comment altogether.
What Does Conscious Language Have to Do With Goal Achievement?
Another very important aspect of conscious language is the LAW OF FOCUS. What ever we place our attention on is what we create. It’s important to focus on the positive thing we desire rather than the negative thing we want to avoid. For example, never focus on NOT AGING. Focusing on not aging ensures that you will age . . . and quickly. Instead focus on being healthy, vibrant, and youthful.
An interesting and often overlooked part of all this is the need to avoid words that are negating a negative.
What the heck do I mean by that?
A word like LIMITLESS is actually drawing the subconscious mind to focus on LIMITS. This is NOT what we want. So saying something like LIMITLESS ABUNDANCE is placing limits on the abundance.
An example from my own life is the word EFFORTLESS.
In the past when I made affirmations, I would typically end them with the words “easy, effortless, and fun.” An example might be “Having a wonderful relationship is easy, effortless, and fun.”
This was actually drawing EFFORT into my life. Since I have eliminated that word and now only use “easy and fun” EVERYTHING has shifted. We sold our house in 2 weeks because it was “easy and fun.” – and there was no EFFORT involved. My former husband’s immigration process to the U.S. was taken care of in less than 2 months. There are many, many other examples of how this change in language has made things move very quickly and easily for me.
How Being Clairaudient and Clairsentient Can Greatly Assist You With Conscious Language
As I’ve said many times, every person has a gift, talent, or skill. We also all have the ability to see, hear, and/or sense subtle energy. When it comes to conscious language, two of these spiritual gifts or skills come in mighty handy.
The first is the ability to hear clairaudiently. When creating positive affirmations, the ability to hear your Higher Self and guides give you the “power words” you need to say out loud or even chant as a mantra is a very empowering thing. In fact, when words “come in” that way, they are often the most powerful words and insights you will ever encounter.
The other powerful skill, one of my super powers, is being clairsentient. The more you develop you inner knowing and your ability to feel energy, the easier it is to feel (knowing instantly) if a certain word or phrase is beneficial or detrimental. The second someone else says a word or phrase, I have instantaneous feedback in my own body about how it feels. Some words and phrases make me smile and think “wow, that’s empowering.”I can literally feel the energy (or power) rise up in the person when they state the phrase. Others make me want to recoil and run away at the level of detriment they cause.
The whole discussion above about “I’m sorry” comes from that place. I can literally feel how detrimental it is for so many people when they say that. It’s like they are standing there, maybe somewhat empowered, and then they say those words. I can feel their energy (power) instantly drop a whole lot of notches. It is a particularly bad phrase to say for someone having confidence, worthiness, or self-esteem issues. Women, in particular, tend to face that. There are a lot of reasons why that I won’t cover in this article.
I know that discussion flies in the face of a very popular set of words people say all day every day. Don’t get me wrong, Joe Vitale is a great guy. But those words are definitely not what I recommend. In fact, when I used to hear people talk about Honopono, I would immediately follow it up with “oh no!” It was my own little joke to diffuse the disharmonious energy I was feeling in my body.
My dear friend, Linda Shay, uses these words instead:
I love you.
God bless you. (or whatever word resonates)
We are One.”
From a conscious language perspective, those are infinitely better. Instead of “God bless you,” I would probably say “Bless you” which gives you the power to bless. That in itself is a great way to become more empowered.
Being able to feel (in your own body) the benefit or detriment of something is imperative when you are on a conscious spiritual path or just trying to live life. It is how you know which teachers and teachings to follow, what things to believe, what things to avoid (including food, alternative healing methods, supplements, people, situations), and so much more. That’s the reason I so highly recommend people learn pendulum dowsing. It is the fastest way I’ve ever come across to fine-tune and enhance your intuition, your ability to “know,” and to get in tune with the feeling body that is one of your greatest spiritual instruments.
Review your own affirmations and the words you say out loud or just to yourself and see how positive you are actually being.
It definitely makes a difference!
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When learning how to manifest your desires, NEVER get hung up on how the goal arrives, what it looks like in the end, the “how” of the way it should come into fruition.
I have the perfect example to share.
I’ve been wanting to take another cross country trip so I can stop in Austin and see one of my dearest friends. She lived in Santa Fe when I lived there. Even though I’ve been back to Santa Fe several times since moving to the beautiful Blue Ridge Mountains of Virginia, since she no longer lives there, we haven’t managed to see one another in about 5 years.
So, from the comfort of my own home, the people I’ve wanted to see for ages are showing up at my front door. First, my friend David (someone else I’ve been saying I wanted to see) called one day last week and showed up the same day (he’s a Canadian who grew up in London, has a lovely British accent, and spends most of his time globe trotting). And now Maya is coming …
Instead of focusing on the trip I thought was required to make it happen, I was focused on what really mattered to me … to see my friend. The Universe rearranged itself and voila things are popping into my reality that I desire.
Ah, glorious summer! For many, it is a time of joy,
For me, it is a time of joy, sunshine, water, and outdoor activities.
Having spent grade school in Texas, a few years in Southern California, and 10 years in New Mexico, I adore the sun and the warmth and activity of the summer. I prefer it to all other seasons. Although I really do love it in the spring when everything seems to come back to life and begins to bloom.
In the turning of the wheel … represented by the image (above) of a 9-Fires Medicine Wheel we built in Santa Fe, NM several years ago … summer is the time of activity.
In the spring we planted. In the garden, we planted vegetables, herbs, and flowers. In our lives, we planted ideas and things we desire to manifest.
The summer season is our opportunity to work to assist those things in growing. Read more
In my Manifestation Mastermind, I share many tools, techniques, guided meditations, and ways to heal inner issues in order to harness the Law of Attraction and create the reality you desire.
Some people on a spiritual path go into a state of simply allowing, simply accepting whatever is and whatever comes without having any desires. There is tranquility and peace in acceptance and allowing. And as someone who was once under great stress in the corporate world, I can truly appreciate having joy and peace as the only goal. Read more
“I’ll be offline for a few days … getting my Faerie on, hanging with zany brainiacs, enjoying the creative wizardry of cosplay and sci-fi/fantasy related gizmos and gadgets, seeing many dear friends and making some new ones.”
I posted those words on Facebook, which then led to the thought that created this article …
When I speak and have booths at New Age & holistic expos, I always look around at the other vendors and people walking the aisles and smile because I know, “these are my people” – meaning this is my tribe, people who are into similar things, and I enJOY being in their presence.
When I attend sci-fi fantasy cons, I also know that “these are my people” because I so completely fit in there too.
When I lead or attend women’s business networking meetings all dressed to impress I look around and know, “these are my people” because that is a place I completely understand and enJOY as well.
When I’m out in nature sitting next to a stream with birds flying overhead, squirrels, fox and other creatures milling about, and trees smiling down at me I know that “these are my people.”
And of course, when I’m at the beach and dolphins swim past, I always smile (often with a tear in my eye) feeling complete bliss knowing that “these are my people.”
The deeper your wisdom, the broader your interests, the more places you feel “at home” and like you belong there. Certain cities, states, and countries resonate with me more than others. Certain bends in a river, mountain peaks, and people speak to my soul as others simply cannot.
Never settle for friends or lovers who mistreat you, belittle or put you down, cause chaos, confusion, or self-doubt. If you don’t feel that anyone truly understands you, then you haven’t gone to the “right” places or done the “right” things ... yet.
Take a class, go to meetups, or travel to conventions. If things like that make you nervous, then invite someone else that you know to do it with you.
I’ll tell you a little secret, I’ve made more friends going alone than with others. I strike up conversations … it’s so easy. Sitting next to someone waiting for a lecture to start, I turn to them and say, “Where are you from?” And after that, I ask, “What do you do?” Is it so easy. Somewhere along the way I ask their name and if they have a business card. I always jot down notes about people on the back … to jog my memory.
Often when I’m attending a workshop and there is a lunch break, I look around the room for someone else there alone (who doesn’t seem creepy) and go over and ask if they would like to join me for lunch. Usually, they are highly surprised and deeply grateful. So we chat over lunch. I was at a 3-day retreat in San Francisco a few years ago and ate lunch with different people all 3 days. The restaurant at the hotel was not that big, so I didn’t just grab 1 person, I grabbed 3 to fill up a table for 4. So in the course of 3 days, I had great conversations with 9 new people and several others in the room. Some of them are still friends on Facebook and we’ve had some fairly deep conversations about things that matter – to me anyway.
Sometimes the universe throws you together. I was at Yogaville at a retreat with my dear friends Jonathan and Andi Goldman. Yogaville has lots of different lodging options. I sometimes go for the shared room. Wow have I met interesting people doing that. Anyway, the first year I went, the lady assigned to share a room with me was named Mary. We instantly “clicked” into friendship. She was attending the same workshop all weekend. We talked as we went back and forth from the room to the classroom. We hung out at lunch together. We’ve remained friends ever since.
My soul-family, what I call my “inner circle,” is scattered all over the world. I met each of them in some unique way and none of it was sitting on the couch watching television. O.K. that’s not exactly true, since one of them did actually show up at my house and become my dearest friend in the world. I’ll get to how that happened in a moment.
I’ve spent over 20 years meditating daily, dowsing, spending LOTS of time in nature, and doing other things that have helped me fine-tune my intuition. So I rarely just go to something. I am usually inspired from within to show up.
That’s not always the case, though. I was starting a business partnership with a friend a really long time ago and she insisted that I attend this business entrepreneur training in L.A. I met a lot of wonderful people there and several are still very dear friends. So that suggestion came from someone else. That’s not the only time a friend’s suggestion had me take a class or go to something where I met wonderful people.
Sometimes I go to things because I’m interested in a topic. Sometimes it’s because I felt “inspired” to go as I’ve mentioned. In the various places I’ve lived, many of the friendships I’ve developed were with other homeschool parents. Some of those I feel closest to were part of the homeschool co-op in Santa Fe that we created together. I still see them when I visit and talk to them on the phone, social media, and by email when I’m not there.
When I graduated from Virginia Tech with a degree in Industrial Engineering, I swore I’d never take another test as long as I live. So far, I’ve lived up to that promise. I have, however, taken many classes in many different things. A few include: taxes for entrepreneurs, image consulting (even advanced image consulting), interior design, public speaking, pottery (OMG how I love that), web design, design of experiments and advanced quality control (in my engineering days, I even taught this stuff), and more recently watercolor. I even had a $2,000 advanced course in Kaizen.
Because of my interest in energy healing and all things metaphysical, I’ve taken classes, done workshops, and attended retreats in everything from an 8-day spiritual (metaphysical) warrior training with Stuart Wilde in the mountains of New Mexico to numerology, Reiki, Chi Kung, TM, yoga, silent retreats, Feng Shui, numerous energy healing modalities, the Silva Method, the Alivening weekend (rebirthing), aromatherapy for holistic nurse practitioners, color healing, crystal healing, and LOTS and lots of shamanic training. There are many other topics.
Here’s the thing, though … I’m not a social butterfly. I’m not one of those people who simply must be out and about mingling with crowds to feel energized. Those people are called extroverts. I’m not one of them. I spend a great deal of time home alone in front of my computer. When I want to energize, I spend time in nature, read, or stream movies or tv.
My friend Misty is a social butterfly. She’s in many networking groups and has even started up her own. She never met a stranger and she meets new people all the time. Her smile is infectious and she is a joy to be around. I love going to things with Misty because she already knows practically everyone in the room.
What I do have a passion for is new input. I like meeting new people, going new places, and doing new things. I like exploring my world and I’m comfortable doing so.
I teach people how to consciously manifest the reality they desire. In fact, my Magnificent U Manifesting Mastermind ecourse about that is one of my absolute best. When I sat down to record the video, so much information “came through” that it’s MUCH more than a class on manifestation. Anyway, I’m clear about the things I want in life and dear friends is one of them.
I came up with an affirmation probably 20 years ago that said something like, “I have interesting, zany, uplifting, successful, fun friends all over the world who are making a positive difference.” If you met the cast of characters that I call friend, you would say I have been wildly successful in manifesting just that. They live in different countries, some are ultra wealthy while others barely scrape by financially. Some you would consider “earth mamas” and others wear suits and ties. From a helicopter repair guy who lives in New Zealand to several friends who take people to swim with wild dolphins for a living, I’m deeply blessed to know these magnificent people and have the great honor of being their friend.
It didn’t happen because I wished for it to happen. Yes, I got clear about what I wanted. But I also took action. I showed up. I spoke to a stranger. I went to a new place. I did a new thing. And at first, that was a bit uncomfortable. But the payoff is often so big that there is no way I would let fear get in the way.
If you want to be, have, or experience something you don’t already have … then, as I always say, “You have to get comfortable being uncomfortable.” You have to stretch, grow, and become more than you are today.
P.S. So how did I meet my friend Millie? Well … she was sitting in a chair having her hair cut one day and suddenly distinctly heard the words, “you need a shaman.” She the beautician if she knew how to find one. The hair stylist said she thought there was one in Nambe and she gave her our number. We used to have a spiritual retreat in Nambe, NM and did medicine wheel, sweat lodge, and other sacred ceremonies, workshops, drumming circles, and other events there. So Millie literally showed up at my door and we’ve been best friends ever since.
P.S.S. To get your copy of my ecourse on Manifesting, visit this link.
We were in the middle of a huge discussion about choosing the best place to relocate in one of the groups I lead on Facebook. Moving is something many light workers are called to do on occasion. With that in mind, I thought I would share some of the thoughts here that I have been sharing there. Just some things for you to contemplate if moving is on the horizon. This particular discussion began with the person wanting to live near the beach and to see dolphins often …
When it comes to moving, I strongly encourage you to Read more
I talk a lot about synchronicity, getting in flow with the Universe, setting clear intentions, and following the still small voice within. Even though it happens quite often in my life, I always feel deLighted and grateful whenever an unexpected synchronicity occurs in even the smallest of ways.
I’ve had two thoughts/desires recently that were both fulfilled because I followed one small idea that passed quickly through my mind. The first thought/desire was that … Read more
“I’m so sorry.”
“Please forgive me.”
Everywhere you go, you hear someone saying these words. Maybe it’s even you saying them.
Stop it immediately.
Especially if you are interested in manifesting your desires, improving your health, and being happier in life. These words can destroy your self-esteem. Or, if you are already suffering or struggling with low self-esteem, they can take you even lower and deeper into that.
After twenty years of working with highly-refined energies, dowsing, meditation, and being an empath, I’ve become … like a human pendulum for what is helpful or hurtful to the human body, mind, and spirit. I can literally feel, within my own body, how beneficial or detrimental various words and phrases are to the personal speaking them, how foods, herbs, and drugs affect the person taking them, and even how people they spend time with empower or disempower them.
As I shared in The Power of Words, what you place after the words, “I Am” are critical to health, happiness, and success.
If you desire flow, freedom, and a rise in vibration, then detrimental words like these simply must be eliminated.
How easy do you think it is for a “sorry individual” to experience freedom and flow, health and happiness?
I’m not saying to suddenly become rude or inconsiderate. What I’m saying is to be careful how you say it.
As my beloved teacher, Stuart Wilde, used to say, “Your word is law.” And it is. Every word you utter is a command to the subconscious mind about what you want in life.
In the beginning was The Word … I’m sure you’ve heard or seen that before.
Since you are a spark of Divinity having a human experience, your word is a powerful tool in your manifestation toolbox.
They say you should watch your thoughts. What you verbalize has infinitely more power than mere thought alone.
Back to the idea of your word is law. Stuart said, “never make promises.” Definitely never make idle promises. But, if you have to say you will or will not do something, if you say you will, then do. If for some reason you can’t, let people know and make it right.
Living in New Mexico, I had to learn the hard way about flowing with change and expectations.
Plans are constantly changing there. People can’t make it to various events they signed up for. There might be a family emergency, a flood (literally) preventing road crossings, or some health issue or another. You quickly learn to live fully in the moment without expectations of what the moment you are in is supposed to look like.
Learn to trust that if something is “supposed” to happen, it will. And if a certain person is supposed to be there, they will be. The more you move into living that way, the less your happiness depends on the behavior of others, or yourself.
When you can drop expectations, you are totally free.
Who you are is a magnificent being with unique gifts, skills, and talents.
The more you apologize, the more you are telling your subconscious mind that you are not enough, that you screwed up … again, that you let someone down … again. That is nonsense.
These are not the affirmations you want to be making to the world about what you want in your life.
Yes, if you make a promise, call and say something came up and you need to reschedule. But say, “I apologize,” or “sorry,” but never “I’m sorry.”
When you have reached Avatar status, and successfully healed all your own issues, then it is time to consider taking on issues outside self. Until then, I think that Jesus quote makes great sense: “Don’t try to remove the splinter from your brother’s eye until you’ve gotten rid of the plank from your own.” As long as you are running the three core human fears:
- fear you aren’t enough
- fear you are unloveable
- fear of abandonment
you will have damaged self-esteem and you need to actively work on improving it. Saying I’m sorry is counterproductive to that cause.
I can hear you saying, “but what about the phrase, ‘I Love You, I’m Sorry, Please Forgive Me, Thank You’ made famous by Dr. Joe Vitale?
Bless people and situations, absolutely, it is very empowering to you and them to do so. But those are not the best words to choose.
- “I love you” – powerful words. That is a great thing to say to bless another or a situation. “I bless you” or “bless you” is another.
- “I’m sorry” – don’t be. We’ve already discussed why. I go into it further in the other article I mentioned.
- “Please forgive me” – for what? What did you do to feel the need to beg forgiveness and from whom? Who are you begging forgiveness of all day?
- “Thank you” – another great thing to say. Any affirmation of gratitude is a great mantra to have.
So overall these statements negate one another internally. Thank heavens they end on a positive note.
It would be much better to leave off the two that are disempowering, particularly for anyone struggling with self-esteem issues.
If you have not already accomplished all your goals, then self-esteem – belief in self, belief on all levels that you deserve your desires, belief in your gifts, your magnificence, your own Divine – is definitely something you still need to work on.
We are all still working on these things. It is part of the lessons of planet earth.
On the path toward enlightenment, being empowered, learning to speak in an empowered way is part of the journey. Pay attention to your words and choose those that are empowering and will assist you in raising your self-confidence and self-esteem.
Just as I was completing this article, I came across this statement: “the late Dr. Emoto always said, ‘Love and Gratitude’ is the most beautiful energy and it improves immunity.” This is referring to the water molecule experiments of Dr. Masaru Emoto. So, just as I concluded that love and gratitude were the most empowering words, Dr. Emoto’s findings agree.
Have a deLightful day,
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