Travel & Experience Places & People Unlike Yourself to Appreciate Cultural Diversity

Appreciate Cultural Diversity Through Travel & Experiencing People & Cultures Unlike Yourself

Every time you go somewhere new, you become a new person … with a new perspective, new experiences, and new insights. The more you travel and experience new things, the easier it becomes to appreciate cultural diversity, and to transform your life.

Tears started streaming down my face as I read the article and watched the video mentioned below about cultural diversity in the classroom.

Experiencing and appreciating cultural diversity is one of many reasons I love to travel. This is why I love moving to different locations, meeting new people and surrounding myself, enveloping myself, in the different energies of ethnicity, of belief, of tradition and history, of the colors and texture of diversity, in order to understand the beautiful tapestry of humanity and truly KNOW and become ONE with it.

Enjoying the Company of Others

As a young child, my father sometimes traveled with business, and on occasion, my mom and I would come along. We once spent a week in Birmingham, Alabama and every day when the housekeepers (all African American women) were finished cleaning the rooms, they sat in a circle of chairs at the end of our hall, told stories, and laughed. I begged my mom to let me join them. They said they didn’t mind. Every day I sat with them and listened to their stories and laughed too. I have no idea what they thought of the skinny little blonde girl from Texas.

As we studied history in school and I read about the atrocities inflicted on the Native Americans, the African Americans, the Chinese and so many of the other cultures by the white people, I would weep, not being able to understand how anyone could mistreat another.

A White Chic (chick) Living in a Non-White World

It was so odd at first to be living as a minority, a white woman in a sea of beautiful brown skin, dark eyes and hair, of the Native American, Spanish, and Mexican cultures of New Mexico. At 5’4″, I was actually rather tall for a female. It was there that I was so blessed …

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Wild Dolphins and Whales For Me Thanks!

Pledge to Only See Wild Dolphins and Whales in their Natural Habitat

I can’t see a dolphin in a tank or a pen, even in a picture, without shedding a few tears. I have been shown again and again that their freedom represents our own freedom. I long so deeply for humanity to wake up and be free of their own limitations, fears, beliefs, judgments, expectations, mistreatment of others and themselves (their self-imposed net or tank).

We have a choice to break out of our mental and emotional prisons.

They do not have a choice to jump out of their tank – although recently some have jumped out of the tank and some have escaped the net. If they wanted to be there, I don’t think they would do either thing. If a dolphin would rather jump out and die on the sidewalk than be stuck in a tank, I think it’s obvious that that dolphin is not choosing captivity.


The reason I feel the way I feel about wild dolphins vs. captivity …

Have you ever lived near a pod? Like neighbors, two or three times a week you see them around town (various locations just off shore of the little island you live on). They are your neighbors. You know them all by name. You recognize their saddle patch and their dorsal fin. When you see them, you get very excited and wave, saying hello to whomever it is. They leave sometimes (migrate) and you miss them terribly.

As soon as anyone on the island sees the first one return, they call and tell someone who tells someone else and it continues basically until everyone on the island knows that our neighbors the orca family have returned. There is great rejoicing. It gets announced over the radio, talked about on FB and on the internet. Everyone there loves the whales. Most of them have boats and they go out to see them. You feel great joy at their return.

You get excited and send loving congratulations to them when you hear someone has returned with a new baby. They are your friends. They become like family. You have a resonance, rapport, and love for certain ones that is as deep and meaningful as the fondness I have for a few of my most precious friends.

When one of them dies, you feel a great sense of loss and you send condolences mentally and through prayer to the family. The orcas are matriarchal and never leave their mother their whole life. They remain with mom even after they give birth. So now the baby is also part of that family. Their life expectancy is similar to ours. So a 3-year-old is very much like a 3-year-old human child. A 6-year-old is very much like a 6-year-old human child. Now in physical maturity and ability to have offspring, those probably don’t apply. But you still consider them the same as human children.

Hearing Lolita’s story changed my life. I literally left a high-paying corporate job to move to the San Juans to start a non-profit to assist in her return. Watching her capture scene broke my heart. When I met her, I felt as if she was literally my sister – in the truest sense of the word. I long for her presence and I cry for her situation. I know her and I know her mother. I know her whole family. For me, hearing what happened to her, the horrors of how she was captured, I try to imagine what it must have been like for the whales. That’s what they call orcas in the Northwest. And yes, I do realize that’s me projecting human emotions onto sentient animals.

I own stills and video of her capture. I’ve heard the man speak who put her in the sling. He was never the same and is an adamant objector to captivity. As he tells is, they used boats and explosives to round them all up into a sea pen. They were under great distress. The captors separated Lolita out and got her away from her mother and family. They forced her into a sling and they removed her from the water to haul her away never to return. John Crowe, the 18-year-old diver who was hired to help, said as he maneuvered her into the sling that all the orcas were screaming and they even lined up together and screamed together. He said the sound was deafening. And then, as soon as Lolita was lifted out of the water, the screaming instantly stopped, there was a profound and haunting silence. He found it completely overwhelming. He still gets tears in his eyes all these years later when he tells the story.

Since they are like my best friends and neighbors, I liken it to a group of guys showing up at your neighbors house, setting off bombs, shooting bullets all over the place and then stealing the 6-year old daughter. Thinking about what it would have been like to have that trauma and have my 6-year old child stolen makes me weep.

I developed such a rapport with the orcas that I could literally feel when they were present. I would be on the east side of the island and suddenly “know” the orcas were nearby. I’d speed across the island to the west side, park quickly, and scamper to the top of a hill. As soon as I sat down, the first fin would break through the water. And then for the next 30 minutes I would watch the family go past.

They are my kin. I love them to the depth of me. And capturing them and putting them in a tank simply is unbearable from that perspective. Tanks and nets for dolphins are the same as slavery and prison for humans in my book. Thinking that just because a dolphin was born in captivity “so it’s O.K.” is like saying “this child was born into slavery, so the child is not really a slave.”

Really?

Hmmmmm

May you have a truly blessed day,

Takara

Image by http://www.freemorgan.org/

 

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Homeschool Parenting For Successful Open-Minded Kids

Homeschool Parenting for Successful Open-Minded Kids

Parenting isn’t easy. Homeschool parenting is even more of a challenge when the goal is to develop successful open-minded children and adults.

As a homeschool parent, I definitely take the “parent” thing much more seriously than some. I took the school’s responsibility completely out of the equation. It was both a terrifying and deeply humbling decision … Read more

How to Develop a Deep Nature Connection

People today have lost their nature connection. Instead of sitting on the earth, they now sit in a vehicle while stuck in traffic on the way to a building where they sit all day at a desk under artificial lights. 
I have never understood the mentality of abusing and mistreating others, animals, or the earth. Yet every day that goes on all over the globe. 
I cried for a week over the dead buffalo scene in … Dances with Wolves.
I believe strongly in the Golden Rule, “treat others the way you wish to be treated.” As I’ve stated many times, “others” for me include not just people, but animals, plants, the land itself. I’ve never been able to see color or species as a separator. I just see beautiful unique individuals all deserving of love and respect. Of course, I’ve had spontaneous past life memories of being native, African, and animal. Everyone on the planet seems to be “my people.”
I remember introducing my then in-laws to some of my native friends when I lived in Santa Fe. After spending time with them, my in-laws commented that they had never met anyone with the level of peace these people exhibited. They had that to say about me as well.
From my teaching (what I’ve received directly from Source through what I call Divine Revelation), we are here to develop and master 4 relationships. The relationship with:
1) self,
2) God (Creator, Great Spirit, the Divine Presence, etc.),
3) others (all others, not just other people), and
4) the earth.
Many people have lost all touch with the Earth and their nature connection. They also operate completely from their head and not their heart. It is a level of consciousness. Having a deep connection to the Divine requires that one develop a reverence for all of life, to develop a deep connection with nature and self, and come from a heart space rather than a purely intellectual one. It doesn’t mean you turn off your brain. It means you learn to get in tune with your feelings, your intuition, your connection with All That Is.
From that place, life flows differently. There is less chaos, confusion, and self-doubt and more love, grace, ease, and flow.
How to Develop a Deeper Connection to Nature:
  • hike (avoid places where there are lots of noisy people or motors disturbing the natural tranquility of nature),
  • sit on the earth or on a large bolder in silence and just feel and hear and see the beauty around you (even better if you sit on the earth inside a medicine wheel),
  • garden (organically of course), get your hands in the soil (no gloves) and feel the earth between your fingers,
  • go barefoot on the earth (never on ground that has been sprayed with pesticides and other harmful chemicals – never use toxic chemicals in your garden or anywhere else!),
  • place a bird feeder near a window and stop to watch the birds and other wildlife as often as possible,
  • kayak, canoe, raft, etc. (spend time on water without the distortion of motor noise),
  • anytime you see an animal, stop everything to watch it for awhile,
  • even indoors, listen to recorded nature sounds, fountains, or wind chimes,
  • begin to track the moon phases,
  • always make it a point to go out and gaze on the full moon,
  • spend a little time in the sun every day (never allow yourself to burn and avoid sunscreen if at all possible. That usually means you have to build up your time in the sun slowly day by day),
  • acknowledge the Spring and Fall Equinox, Summer and Winter Solstice (do something in nature – many people participate in drumming circles, sweat lodges, dancing, or sitting in silence in meditation, etc. on those days),
  • watch videos or documentaries that help you explore the various aspects of nature, and finally
  • join my Wild Dolphin Lovers group on Facebook to enjoy beautiful water, dolphin, and whale images, videos, and stories.
Connecting with nature is one of the 5 ways I recommend you develop personal mastery.

Find Your Tribe, Like-Minded Friends, and Places Where You Belong

It's Time to Find Your Tribe of Like Minded Friends

“I’ll be offline for a few days … getting my Faerie on, hanging with zany brainiacs, enjoying the creative wizardry of cosplay and sci-fi/fantasy related gizmos and gadgets, seeing many dear friends and making some new ones.”

I posted those words on Facebook, which then led to the thought that created this article …

When I speak and have booths at New Age & holistic expos, I always look around at the other vendors and people walking the aisles and smile because I know, “these are my people” – meaning this is my tribe, people who are into similar things, and I enJOY being in their presence.

When I attend sci-fi fantasy cons, I also know that “these are my people” because I so completely fit in there too.

When I lead or attend women’s business networking meetings all dressed to impress I look around and know, “these are my people” because that is a place I completely understand and enJOY as well.

When I’m out in nature sitting next to a stream with birds flying overhead, squirrels, fox and other creatures milling about, and trees smiling down at me I know that “these are my people.”

And of course, when I’m at the beach and dolphins swim past, I always smile (often with a tear in my eye) feeling complete bliss knowing that “these are my people.”

The deeper your wisdom, the broader your interests, the more places you feel “at home” and like you belong there. Certain cities, states, and countries resonate with me more than others. Certain bends in a river, mountain peaks, and people speak to my soul as others simply cannot.

Never settle for friends or lovers who mistreat you, belittle or put you down, cause chaos, confusion, or self-doubt. If you don’t feel that anyone truly understands you, then you haven’t gone to the “right” places or done the “right” things ... yet.

Take a class, go to meetups, or travel to conventions. If things like that make you nervous, then invite someone else that you know to do it with you.

I’ll tell you a little secret, I’ve made more friends going alone than with others. I strike up conversations … it’s so easy. Sitting next to someone waiting for a lecture to start, I turn to them and say, “Where are you from?” And after that, I ask, “What do you do?” Is it so easy. Somewhere along the way I ask their name and if they have a business card. I always jot down notes about people on the back … to jog my memory.

Often when I’m attending a workshop and there is a lunch break, I look around the room for someone else there alone (who doesn’t seem creepy) and go over and ask if they would like to join me for lunch. Usually, they are highly surprised and deeply grateful. So we chat over lunch. I was at a 3-day retreat in San Francisco a few years ago and ate lunch with different people all 3 days. The restaurant at the hotel was not that big, so I didn’t just grab 1 person, I grabbed 3 to fill up a table for 4. So in the course of 3 days, I had great conversations with 9 new people and several others in the room. Some of them are still friends on Facebook and we’ve had some fairly deep conversations about things that matter – to me anyway.

Sometimes the universe throws you together. I was at Yogaville at a retreat with my dear friends Jonathan and Andi Goldman. Yogaville has lots of different lodging options. I sometimes go for the shared room. Wow have I met interesting people doing that. Anyway, the first year I went, the lady assigned to share a room with me was named Mary. We instantly “clicked” into friendship. She was attending the same workshop all weekend. We talked as we went back and forth from the room to the classroom. We hung out at lunch together. We’ve remained friends ever since.

My soul-family, what I call my “inner circle,” is scattered all over the world. I met each of them in some unique way and none of it was sitting on the couch watching television. O.K. that’s not exactly true, since one of them did actually show up at my house and become my dearest friend in the world. I’ll get to how that happened in a moment.

I’ve spent over 20 years meditating daily, dowsing, spending LOTS of time in nature, and doing other things that have helped me fine-tune my intuition. So I rarely just go to something. I am usually inspired from within to show up.

That’s not always the case, though. I was starting a business partnership with a friend a really long time ago and she insisted that I attend this business entrepreneur training in L.A. I met a lot of wonderful people there and several are still very dear friends. So that suggestion came from someone else. That’s not the only time a friend’s suggestion had me take a class or go to something where I met wonderful people.

Sometimes I go to things because I’m interested in a topic. Sometimes it’s because I felt “inspired” to go as I’ve mentioned. In the various places I’ve lived, many of the friendships I’ve developed were with other homeschool parents. Some of those I feel closest to were part of the homeschool co-op in Santa Fe that we created together. I still see them when I visit and talk to them on the phone, social media, and by email when I’m not there.

When I graduated from Virginia Tech with a degree in Industrial Engineering, I swore I’d never take another test as long as I live. So far, I’ve lived up to that promise. I have, however, taken many classes in many different things. A few include: taxes for entrepreneurs, image consulting (even advanced image consulting), interior design, public speaking, pottery (OMG how I love that), web design, design of experiements and advanced quality control (in my engineering days, I even taught this stuff), and more recently watercolor. I even had a $2,000 advanced course in Kaizen.

Because of my interest in energy healing and all things metaphysical, I’ve taken classes, done workshops, and attended retreats in everything from an 8-day spiritual (metaphysical) warrior training with Stuart Wilde in the mountains of New Mexico to numerology, Reiki, Chi Kung, TM, yoga, silent retreats, Feng Shui, numerous energy healing modalities, the Silva Method, the Alivening weekend (rebirthing), aromatherapy for holistic nurse practitioners, color healing, crystal healing, and LOTS and lots of shamanic training. There are many other topics.

Here’s the thing, though … I’m not a social butterfly. I’m not one of those people who simply must be out and about mingling with crowds to feel energized. Those people are called extroverts. I’m not one of them. I spend a great deal of time home alone in front of my computer. When I want to energize, I spend time in nature, read, or stream movies or tv.

My friend Misty is a social butterfly. She’s in many networking groups and has even started up her own. She never met a stranger and she meets new people all the time. Her smile is infectious and she is a joy to be around. I love going to things with Misty because she already knows practically everyone in the room.

What I do have a passion for is new input. I like meeting new people, going new places, and doing new things. I like exploring my world and I’m comfortable doing so.

I teach people how to consciously manifest the reality they desire. In fact, my new ecourse about that is one of my absolute best. When I sat down to record the video, so much information “came through” that it’s MUCH more than a class on manifestation. Anyway, I’m clear about the things I want in life and dear friends is one of them.

I came up with an affirmation probably 20 years ago that said something like, “I have interesting, zany, uplifting, successful, fun friends all over the world who are making a positive difference.” If you met the cast of characters that I call friend, you would say I have been wildly successful in manifesting just that. They live in different countries, some are ultra wealthy while others barely scrape by financially. Some you would consider “earth mamas” and others wear suits and ties. From a helicopter repair guy who lives in New Zealand to several friends who take people to swim with wild dolphins for a living, I’m deeply blessed to know these magnificent people and have the great honor of being their friend.

It didn’t happen because I wished for it to happen. Yes, I got clear about what I wanted. But I also took action. I showed up. I spoke to a stranger. I went to a new place. I did a new thing. And at first, that was a bit uncomfortable. But the payoff is often so big that there is no way I would let fear get in the way.

If you want to be, have, or experience something you don’t already have … then, as I always say, “You have to get comfortable being uncomfortable.” You have to stretch, grow, and become more than you are today.

Much love,

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P.S. So how did I meet my best friend Millie? Well … she was sitting in a chair having her hair cut one day and suddenly distinctly heard the words, “you need a shaman.” She the beautician if she knew how to find one. The hair stylist said she thought there was one in Nambe and she gave her our number. We used to have a spiritual retreat in Nambe, NM and did medicine wheel, sweat lodge, and other sacred ceremonies, workshops, drumming circles, and other events there. So Millie literally showed up at my door and we’ve been best friends ever since.

P.S.S. To get your copy of my ecourse on Manifesting, visit this link.

 

Always Choose Friends Wisely

Choose Friends Wisely

Choose friends wisely!

Many people live in areas of the country (or world) where conformity is king and “shoulds” and “should nots” rule the day. For many freethinkers and those who have learned to follow their heart, it can be like being in a straight jacket sometimes.

I’ve lived all over the United States and in other countries as well and the amount of judgment and condemnation people experience in some locations far exceeds that found in many others.

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Judgment, Hatred, and Fear are Extremely Destructive!

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Judgment, hatred, and fear cause issues between individuals and within a person. Holding onto those things actually causes disharmonydisease within the body.

This is what I know. I am an empath. When I “tune in” to a person or situation, I can literally feel what it is that they are feeling. I am a pasty white chick that doesn’t have to worry about being bullied or abused over skin color – be it black, brown, or yellow. The same goes for the gay community. The level of disrespect our non-white and non-strictly heterosexual brothers and sisters in this country are receiving is despicable and simply must stop. There is a fair amount of abuse happening to women as well. All of this is not O.K.
 
It is the nature of our culture to hang out with people like ourselves … it begins in junior high and continues from there. The kids form a clique and they all dress alike, use the same language, have their hair fixed the same, listen to the same music, watch the same shows, attend the same events, have the same beliefs about politics, religion, and pretty much everything else. That spills over into adulthood. Even though the nation is quite diverse and there are infinite choices, most people hang out with people very much like themselves.
 
That’s all fine and good until one group decides there is something wrong with another group, or worse, that this group is better than that one. Or, as so often happens, they take on a belief that every single person of a certain race, gender, sexual orientation, religion, etc. is ____ (you can fill in the blank). The blank often contains words like bad, evil, criminal, terrorist, etc. No matter what you put in the blank, any blanket statement about how groups of people are is rife with hatred, judgment, and distrust.
 
I have had the great good fortune of traveling the world and meeting all sorts of people. I have friends from many many different religions and every possible color of skin. I’ve also been observing humanity, psychology, what motivates people, how people act and why, for my entire life.
 
This is what I know. There are people who are genuinely kind, sweet, caring, giving, and trustworthy and there are people who are mean, hateful, judgmental, manipulative, and abusive. Most people fall somewhere in between. It doesn’t matter the race, the religion, the gender, the sexual orientation, or anything else.
 

Judging someone because of any of those things is a form of abuse.

To rise in consciousness and awareness, one must review every belief, every fear, every assumption about how life is, who we are, who other people are, and who or what God is.

It is time to rise …

My Love for Native American Culture

I am so truly blessed to have friends from many Native American and other indigenous “nations.” I’ve had the great good fortune of having some extraordinary experiences that many would consider shamanic or related to Native American culture, earth-based spirituality or indigenous in nature.

My intrigue began as a small child living in Texas. We often played cowboys and indians and I always insisted on being an indian (the term Native American was not yet part of my awareness at the time). I could close my eyes and literally feel the buckskin dress against my skin, the moccasins on my feet, the feathers in my hair, the pottery bowl in my hand. At the time I thought I was just making it up. Later, as I was being taken through the forest near Sedona, AZ by a professional guide, when I looked down, for a brief moment, instead of my hiking shorts and boots, I saw the buckskin dress and moccasins.

Sitting on the ground right in front of the dancer at Chaco Canyon on Summer Solstice, I could feel that they were literally “waking up” the earth with their dance. No one had danced there in 500 years – according to what they said that day.

I had a powerful vision while sitting in my sacred circle all day high up in the Sangre de Cristos after a sweat lodge early in the morning poured by a native man from back east somewhere. It was all part of Stuart Wilde’s 8-day Warriors in the Mist program.

Over the years I have participated in drum circles, medicine wheels, shamanic journeys, sweat lodges, riding horses bareback and blindfolded, walking barefoot on the earth, having numerous encounters with animals in the wild, sitting for hours by a stream being “downloaded” with information, soul retrieval, leaving gifts of blue corn meal or something else in nature in exchange for a shell, a feather, or a stone, having spontaneous past life memories flash through my mind as I traveled and hiked in locations all over the globe, listening for hours to storytellers sharing their own adventures or that of their people, and being a storyteller myself. Each of these moments was a powerful gift in my life, not just for the experience and insight it brought me, but because of the other people who were part of it with me.

EnJOY this fabulous collection of images of Native Americans:

http://mashable.com/2015/11/25/edward-curtis-native-americans/

I share many life adventures in my upcoming Memoir.

Shoulds Can Destroy Relationships and Self Esteem

Shoulds Destroy Relationships

The bloody shoulds destroy relationships and self esteem.

Blame, shame, victimhood, guilt … often create terrible destruction and rarely anything positive.

Blaming Others

The only way for a person to be happy is to stop blaming others and outside circumstances for their unhappiness. You have to take responsibility for how you react to the words and actions of other people. People’s behavior is one thing. Your reaction to it is all about you and nothing at all to do with them.

If you want a great relationship with someone, you have to create it and make it a priority.

You have to love, honor, accept, and appreciate the other person just the way they are. Of course they have to do the same for your.

Developing kindness, compassion, caring, and being conscientious of how your words and actions affect others is something you (as in all people) simply have to learn how to do if you ever want great relationships.

The problem for most people is that it is impossible to do those things for another until one learns to do it for themselves – meaning you have to love, honor, accept, and appreciate yourself. You have to see your own brilliance. You also have to see your shortcomings and love yourself any way.

When you can do that, others will also. That’s just how it works.

It took me years to figure all this out and apply it in my own life by truly learning to love and appreciate myself.

Shoulds Destroy Relationships

Emotional distress happens when you have unrealistic expectations of yourself and others or are attached to how you think you and they “should” be behaving. When they (or you) don’t behave the way you think they “should,” you get upset. It’s human nature. It is also something everyone needs to learn to get over.

When you get angry, upset, or sad because someone didn’t behave the way you think they “should” have, that is a great opportunity to take a long hard look, heal, and release, the underlying cause of your anger or sadness. The current circumstance is simply a mirror showing you something that is still “broken” within. It is never about the other person or situation. It is always about the one reacting.

People have good days and bad days. They are imperfect. Sometimes they are fun and interesting and other times they are grumpy. Sometimes they have energy to do things and other days they can barely get out of bed. That is just the truth.

Some people are night owls while other are morning people. Some people are naturally more kind. Kindness is really important to me.

Think Before You Speak

If someone is mean, calls people names, is constantly judging, complaining about, and criticizing others, I simply refuse to hang out with them. They obviously are not showing honor or respect for those other people.

If the people you tend to hang out with act this way, it’s time for new friends. It’s also time to look in the mirror because people are often drawn to people much like themselves.  You have to learn to think about how it would feel if someone said that to you, before you speak it out loud. Check out this article on Living the Golden Rule – the rule book I follow in life.

If you have done something unkind, then recognize it, forgive yourself first, then apologize, and move on. In the future, think before you speak or act.

Learning and growing is why we are here. We don’t expect a toddler to always be nice or know how to do everything already. Yet we expect ourselves, and others, to do everything perfectly all the time. When in truth, we are all just learning and growing.

This is a little saying I came up with some time ago:
“They are doing the best they can with what they’ve got
Be it what they’ve experienced or what they’ve been taught.”

In every given moment, we are all doing the best we can. Forgive yourself. Forgive others. Yes, we could all do better. But because of stress, environment, fears, limiting beliefs, judgments, expectations, attachments to outcomes, shame, blame, victimhood, and guilt, we behave less than best a great deal of the time. We can beat ourselves and others up over this forever. Or we can let it go, forgive, and move on.

We are also greatly influenced by the expectations of others. If someone thinks we always screw up, we tend to screw up. If someone thinks we are brilliant, we tend to be brilliant. How you are viewed in the eyes and unspoken beliefs of those you surround yourself with does have an impact on you – whether beneficial or detrimental.

They did a study a long time ago. I am not remembering all the details, but this was the gist of it: A teacher was given the name of each of her new students for the school year along with their locker number. However the teacher was told that the locker number was the student’s IQ. Whether the teacher openly treated students differently with what she thought was a higher IQ or if she simply had higher expectations of those students with high numbers and lesser expectations of those with low numbers, at the end of the year the student scores matched her expectations. Even for children who usually got A’s, if their number was lower, they got lower grades.

How you believe people are is how they behave in your presence. If you think people are jerks, then you tend to be surrounded by jerks. A lot of it has to do with your own beliefs and expectations. When you change, the experiences you have with others changes as well.

Feed Your Mind the Right Things

We are comprised of 70 to 80% water. The studies by Masaru Emoto showed dramatic shifts in water structure by simply taping different words (written in Japanese Kanje / calligraphy) on a glass of water. http://www.masaru-emoto.net/english/water-crystal.html  Check out the images, they are fascinating.

Hate caused severe distortion. Love caused extraordinarily beautiful and intricate crystalline structure. Music, news, conversation all have a real tangible effect on your body and therefore your mind and emotions. What you feed your mind matters. Who you surround yourself with matters. How you speak to others and how you let them speak to you matters. What you listen to, even your self talk, all makes a huge difference in how well you do in life and your level of happiness and success.

Many success experts say that you are the sum total of the 5 people you spend the most time with. When you are stuck and wanting to change, the first thing to do is change who you hang out with. If you can’t do that physically, then do it through audio, video, and books. I know a very successful woman who used to read the autobiography’s of very famous people and then, in her mind, pretend that those people were sitting around a table talking with her – her own mental board room. She had “gotten into their head” by reading all about them and then started having conversations, asking questions, making decisions as if they were her friends and advisers. The famous book, Think and Grow Rich, would suggest something similar.

I used to listen to audios and read books by my favorite spiritual teacher. On my way to and from work, I listened to his words of wisdom. I read and listened so often that sometimes I would suddenly hear him say a line or two in my head. It was very empowering and eventually helped me find the courage to leave an incredibly stressful career environment and head out into the unknown to find joy, passion, and my true life’s calling.

Now, with the Magnificent U Foundation Course, I’ve created a way for people to take a deep dive into my work, read my words and hear my voice, related to personal and spiritual growth, energy healing, inspiration, new thoughts and perspectives about life, to truly become empowered and find their own courage to become magnificent and have greater relationships and a more meaningful life experience.

If you enjoyed this article, you might also like this one on getting stuck in the negative thinking spin and the others mentioned at the bottom of it. As well as this article about the Golden Rule and education.

May you experience magnificent relationships,
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What Labels Do You Give Yourself and Others That Keep You From the Divine Truth?

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How to let go of the labels and step into the Divine truth, the magnificence, the uniqueness, and oneness of who you are.

This video does an extraordinary job of discussing labels. Labels divide us. They make us compare and disconnect from others.

 

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The video talks about the division between races. But labels go much further. They divide us because of religion, gender, economic status, education level and so much more.

We are all human. We are all emanations of the same Divine Source. We are all living extraordinary spiritual adventures here on planet earth and are here to grow and evolve as individuals. A few of the lessons we each must learn along the way include the realization of how we are similar, that Creator made everyone equal, that all are beautiful children of the Divine and no one is more or less blessed than another. Each person is born with unique gifts and talents and all are sacred.

When you look deeply into someone’s eyes, you look beyond skin color and other apparent differences. You touch the beauty of the soul. The truth of what lives there is love.

 

When you look deeply into someone's eyes ... You touch the beauty of the soul. Click To Tweet

 

When you discover your own magnificence, your own sacredness, when your self esteem and joy soar because you know are one with All That Is, it becomes infinitely easier to see the beauty and sacredness of others.

Ahhh what a glorious feeling to be in Unity with All.

May you find great joy and meaning in these words,

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