Find Your Tribe, Like-Minded Friends, and Places Where You Belong

It's Time to Find Your Tribe of Like Minded Friends

“I’ll be offline for a few days … getting my Faerie on, hanging with zany brainiacs, enjoying the creative wizardry of cosplay and sci-fi/fantasy related gizmos and gadgets, seeing many dear friends and making some new ones.”

I posted those words on Facebook, which then led to the thought that created this article …

When I speak and have booths at New Age & holistic expos, I always look around at the other vendors and people walking the aisles and smile because I know, “these are my people” – meaning this is my tribe, people who are into similar things, and I enJOY being in their presence.

When I attend sci-fi fantasy cons, I also know that “these are my people” because I so completely fit in there too.

When I lead or attend women’s business networking meetings all dressed to impress I look around and know, “these are my people” because that is a place I completely understand and enJOY as well.

When I’m out in nature sitting next to a stream with birds flying overhead, squirrels, fox and other creatures milling about, and trees smiling down at me I know that “these are my people.”

And of course, when I’m at the beach and dolphins swim past, I always smile (often with a tear in my eye) feeling complete bliss knowing that “these are my people.”

The deeper your wisdom, the broader your interests, the more places you feel “at home” and like you belong there. Certain cities, states, and countries resonate with me more than others. Certain bends in a river, mountain peaks, and people speak to my soul as others simply cannot.

Never settle for friends or lovers who mistreat you, belittle or put you down, cause chaos, confusion, or self-doubt. If you don’t feel that anyone truly understands you, then you haven’t gone to the “right” places or done the “right” things ... yet.

Take a class, go to meetups, or travel to conventions. If things like that make you nervous, then invite someone else that you know to do it with you.

I’ll tell you a little secret, I’ve made more friends going alone than with others. I strike up conversations … it’s so easy. Sitting next to someone waiting for a lecture to start, I turn to them and say, “Where are you from?” And after that, I ask, “What do you do?” Is it so easy. Somewhere along the way I ask their name and if they have a business card. I always jot down notes about people on the back … to jog my memory.

Often when I’m attending a workshop and there is a lunch break, I look around the room for someone else there alone (who doesn’t seem creepy) and go over and ask if they would like to join me for lunch. Usually, they are highly surprised and deeply grateful. So we chat over lunch. I was at a 3-day retreat in San Francisco a few years ago and ate lunch with different people all 3 days. The restaurant at the hotel was not that big, so I didn’t just grab 1 person, I grabbed 3 to fill up a table for 4. So in the course of 3 days, I had great conversations with 9 new people and several others in the room. Some of them are still friends on Facebook and we’ve had some fairly deep conversations about things that matter – to me anyway.

Sometimes the universe throws you together. I was at Yogaville at a retreat with my dear friends Jonathan and Andi Goldman. Yogaville has lots of different lodging options. I sometimes go for the shared room. Wow have I met interesting people doing that. Anyway, the first year I went, the lady assigned to share a room with me was named Mary. We instantly “clicked” into friendship. She was attending the same workshop all weekend. We talked as we went back and forth from the room to the classroom. We hung out at lunch together. We’ve remained friends ever since.

My soul-family, what I call my “inner circle,” is scattered all over the world. I met each of them in some unique way and none of it was sitting on the couch watching television. O.K. that’s not exactly true, since one of them did actually show up at my house and become my dearest friend in the world. I’ll get to how that happened in a moment.

I’ve spent over 20 years meditating daily, dowsing, spending LOTS of time in nature, and doing other things that have helped me fine-tune my intuition. So I rarely just go to something. I am usually inspired from within to show up.

That’s not always the case, though. I was starting a business partnership with a friend a really long time ago and she insisted that I attend this business entrepreneur training in L.A. I met a lot of wonderful people there and several are still very dear friends. So that suggestion came from someone else. That’s not the only time a friend’s suggestion had me take a class or go to something where I met wonderful people.

Sometimes I go to things because I’m interested in a topic. Sometimes it’s because I felt “inspired” to go as I’ve mentioned. In the various places I’ve lived, many of the friendships I’ve developed were with other homeschool parents. Some of those I feel closest to were part of the homeschool co-op in Santa Fe that we created together. I still see them when I visit and talk to them on the phone, social media, and by email when I’m not there.

When I graduated from Virginia Tech with a degree in Industrial Engineering, I swore I’d never take another test as long as I live. So far, I’ve lived up to that promise. I have, however, taken many classes in many different things. A few include: taxes for entrepreneurs, image consulting (even advanced image consulting), interior design, public speaking, pottery (OMG how I love that), web design, design of experiements and advanced quality control (in my engineering days, I even taught this stuff), and more recently watercolor. I even had a $2,000 advanced course in Kaizen.

Because of my interest in energy healing and all things metaphysical, I’ve taken classes, done workshops, and attended retreats in everything from an 8-day spiritual (metaphysical) warrior training with Stuart Wilde in the mountains of New Mexico to numerology, Reiki, Chi Kung, TM, yoga, silent retreats, Feng Shui, numerous energy healing modalities, the Silva Method, the Alivening weekend (rebirthing), aromatherapy for holistic nurse practitioners, color healing, crystal healing, and LOTS and lots of shamanic training. There are many other topics.

Here’s the thing, though … I’m not a social butterfly. I’m not one of those people who simply must be out and about mingling with crowds to feel energized. Those people are called extroverts. I’m not one of them. I spend a great deal of time home alone in front of my computer. When I want to energize, I spend time in nature, read, or stream movies or tv.

My friend Misty is a social butterfly. She’s in many networking groups and has even started up her own. She never met a stranger and she meets new people all the time. Her smile is infectious and she is a joy to be around. I love going to things with Misty because she already knows practically everyone in the room.

What I do have a passion for is new input. I like meeting new people, going new places, and doing new things. I like exploring my world and I’m comfortable doing so.

I teach people how to consciously manifest the reality they desire. In fact, my new ecourse about that is one of my absolute best. When I sat down to record the video, so much information “came through” that it’s MUCH more than a class on manifestation. Anyway, I’m clear about the things I want in life and dear friends is one of them.

I came up with an affirmation probably 20 years ago that said something like, “I have interesting, zany, uplifting, successful, fun friends all over the world who are making a positive difference.” If you met the cast of characters that I call friend, you would say I have been wildly successful in manifesting just that. They live in different countries, some are ultra wealthy while others barely scrape by financially. Some you would consider “earth mamas” and others wear suits and ties. From a helicopter repair guy who lives in New Zealand to several friends who take people to swim with wild dolphins for a living, I’m deeply blessed to know these magnificent people and have the great honor of being their friend.

It didn’t happen because I wished for it to happen. Yes, I got clear about what I wanted. But I also took action. I showed up. I spoke to a stranger. I went to a new place. I did a new thing. And at first, that was a bit uncomfortable. But the payoff is often so big that there is no way I would let fear get in the way.

If you want to be, have, or experience something you don’t already have … then, as I always say, “You have to get comfortable being uncomfortable.” You have to stretch, grow, and become more than you are today.

Much love,

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P.S. So how did I meet my best friend Millie? Well … she was sitting in a chair having her hair cut one day and suddenly distinctly heard the words, “you need a shaman.” She the beautician if she knew how to find one. The hair stylist said she thought there was one in Nambe and she gave her our number. We used to have a spiritual retreat in Nambe, NM and did medicine wheel, sweat lodge, and other sacred ceremonies, workshops, drumming circles, and other events there. So Millie literally showed up at my door and we’ve been best friends ever since.

P.S.S. To get your copy of my ecourse on Manifesting, visit this link.

 

Always Choose Friends Wisely

Choose Friends Wisely

Choose friends wisely!

Many people live in areas of the country (or world) where conformity is king and “shoulds” and “should nots” rule the day. For many freethinkers and those who have learned to follow their heart, it can be like being in a straight jacket sometimes.

I’ve lived all over the United States and in other countries as well and the amount of judgment and condemnation people experience in some locations far exceeds that found in many others.

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Judgment, Hatred, and Fear are Extremely Destructive!

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Judgment, hatred, and fear cause issues between individuals and within a person. Holding onto those things actually causes disharmonydisease within the body.

This is what I know. I am an empath. When I “tune in” to a person or situation, I can literally feel what it is that they are feeling. I am a pasty white chick that doesn’t have to worry about being bullied or abused over skin color – be it black, brown, or yellow. The same goes for the gay community. The level of disrespect our non-white and non-strictly heterosexual brothers and sisters in this country are receiving is despicable and simply must stop. There is a fair amount of abuse happening to women as well. All of this is not O.K.
 
It is the nature of our culture to hang out with people like ourselves … it begins in junior high and continues from there. The kids form a clique and they all dress alike, use the same language, have their hair fixed the same, listen to the same music, watch the same shows, attend the same events, have the same beliefs about politics, religion, and pretty much everything else. That spills over into adulthood. Even though the nation is quite diverse and there are infinite choices, most people hang out with people very much like themselves.
 
That’s all fine and good until one group decides there is something wrong with another group, or worse, that this group is better than that one. Or, as so often happens, they take on a belief that every single person of a certain race, gender, sexual orientation, religion, etc. is ____ (you can fill in the blank). The blank often contains words like bad, evil, criminal, terrorist, etc. No matter what you put in the blank, any blanket statement about how groups of people are is rife with hatred, judgment, and distrust.
 
I have had the great good fortune of traveling the world and meeting all sorts of people. I have friends from many many different religions and every possible color of skin. I’ve also been observing humanity, psychology, what motivates people, how people act and why, for my entire life.
 
This is what I know. There are people who are genuinely kind, sweet, caring, giving, and trustworthy and there are people who are mean, hateful, judgmental, manipulative, and abusive. Most people fall somewhere in between. It doesn’t matter the race, the religion, the gender, the sexual orientation, or anything else.
 

Judging someone because of any of those things is a form of abuse.

To rise in consciousness and awareness, one must review every belief, every fear, every assumption about how life is, who we are, who other people are, and who or what God is.

It is time to rise …

My Love for Native American Culture

I am so truly blessed to have friends from many Native American and other indigenous “nations.” I’ve had the great good fortune of having some extraordinary experiences that many would consider shamanic or related to Native American culture, earth-based spirituality or indigenous in nature.

My intrigue began as a small child living in Texas. We often played cowboys and indians and I always insisted on being an indian (the term Native American was not yet part of my awareness at the time). I could close my eyes and literally feel the buckskin dress against my skin, the moccasins on my feet, the feathers in my hair, the pottery bowl in my hand. At the time I thought I was just making it up. Later, as I was being taken through the forest near Sedona, AZ by a professional guide, when I looked down, for a brief moment, instead of my hiking shorts and boots, I saw the buckskin dress and moccasins.

Sitting on the ground right in front of the dancer at Chaco Canyon on Summer Solstice, I could feel that they were literally “waking up” the earth with their dance. No one had danced there in 500 years – according to what they said that day.

I had a powerful vision while sitting in my sacred circle all day high up in the Sangre de Cristos after a sweat lodge early in the morning poured by a native man from back east somewhere. It was all part of Stuart Wilde’s 8-day Warriors in the Mist program.

Over the years I have participated in drum circles, medicine wheels, shamanic journeys, sweat lodges, riding horses bareback and blindfolded, walking barefoot on the earth, having numerous encounters with animals in the wild, sitting for hours by a stream being “downloaded” with information, soul retrieval, leaving gifts of blue corn meal or something else in nature in exchange for a shell, a feather, or a stone, having spontaneous past life memories flash through my mind as I traveled and hiked in locations all over the globe, listening for hours to storytellers sharing their own adventures or that of their people, and being a storyteller myself. Each of these moments was a powerful gift in my life, not just for the experience and insight it brought me, but because of the other people who were part of it with me.

EnJOY this fabulous collection of images of Native Americans:

http://mashable.com/2015/11/25/edward-curtis-native-americans/

I share many life adventures in my upcoming Memoir.

Shoulds Can Destroy Relationships and Self Esteem

Shoulds Destroy Relationships

The bloody shoulds destroy relationships and self esteem.

Blame, shame, victimhood, guilt … often create terrible destruction and rarely anything positive.

Blaming Others

The only way for a person to be happy is to stop blaming others and outside circumstances for their unhappiness. You have to take responsibility for how you react to the words and actions of other people. People’s behavior is one thing. Your reaction to it is all about you and nothing at all to do with them.

If you want a great relationship with someone, you have to create it and make it a priority.

You have to love, honor, accept, and appreciate the other person just the way they are. Of course they have to do the same for your.

Developing kindness, compassion, caring, and being conscientious of how your words and actions affect others is something you (as in all people) simply have to learn how to do if you ever want great relationships.

The problem for most people is that it is impossible to do those things for another until one learns to do it for themselves – meaning you have to love, honor, accept, and appreciate yourself. You have to see your own brilliance. You also have to see your shortcomings and love yourself any way.

When you can do that, others will also. That’s just how it works.

It took me years to figure all this out and apply it in my own life by truly learning to love and appreciate myself.

Shoulds Destroy Relationships

Emotional distress happens when you have unrealistic expectations of yourself and others or are attached to how you think you and they “should” be behaving. When they (or you) don’t behave the way you think they “should,” you get upset. It’s human nature. It is also something everyone needs to learn to get over.

When you get angry, upset, or sad because someone didn’t behave the way you think they “should” have, that is a great opportunity to take a long hard look, heal, and release, the underlying cause of your anger or sadness. The current circumstance is simply a mirror showing you something that is still “broken” within. It is never about the other person or situation. It is always about the one reacting.

People have good days and bad days. They are imperfect. Sometimes they are fun and interesting and other times they are grumpy. Sometimes they have energy to do things and other days they can barely get out of bed. That is just the truth.

Some people are night owls while other are morning people. Some people are naturally more kind. Kindness is really important to me.

Think Before You Speak

If someone is mean, calls people names, is constantly judging, complaining about, and criticizing others, I simply refuse to hang out with them. They obviously are not showing honor or respect for those other people.

If the people you tend to hang out with act this way, it’s time for new friends. It’s also time to look in the mirror because people are often drawn to people much like themselves.  You have to learn to think about how it would feel if someone said that to you, before you speak it out loud. Check out this article on Living the Golden Rule – the rule book I follow in life.

If you have done something unkind, then recognize it, forgive yourself first, then apologize, and move on. In the future, think before you speak or act.

Learning and growing is why we are here. We don’t expect a toddler to always be nice or know how to do everything already. Yet we expect ourselves, and others, to do everything perfectly all the time. When in truth, we are all just learning and growing.

This is a little saying I came up with some time ago:
“They are doing the best they can with what they’ve got
Be it what they’ve experienced or what they’ve been taught.”

In every given moment, we are all doing the best we can. Forgive yourself. Forgive others. Yes, we could all do better. But because of stress, environment, fears, limiting beliefs, judgments, expectations, attachments to outcomes, shame, blame, victimhood, and guilt, we behave less than best a great deal of the time. We can beat ourselves and others up over this forever. Or we can let it go, forgive, and move on.

We are also greatly influenced by the expectations of others. If someone thinks we always screw up, we tend to screw up. If someone thinks we are brilliant, we tend to be brilliant. How you are viewed in the eyes and unspoken beliefs of those you surround yourself with does have an impact on you – whether beneficial or detrimental.

They did a study a long time ago. I am not remembering all the details, but this was the gist of it: A teacher was given the name of each of her new students for the school year along with their locker number. However the teacher was told that the locker number was the student’s IQ. Whether the teacher openly treated students differently with what she thought was a higher IQ or if she simply had higher expectations of those students with high numbers and lesser expectations of those with low numbers, at the end of the year the student scores matched her expectations. Even for children who usually got A’s, if their number was lower, they got lower grades.

How you believe people are is how they behave in your presence. If you think people are jerks, then you tend to be surrounded by jerks. A lot of it has to do with your own beliefs and expectations. When you change, the experiences you have with others changes as well.

Feed Your Mind the Right Things

We are comprised of 70 to 80% water. The studies by Masaru Emoto showed dramatic shifts in water structure by simply taping different words (written in Japanese Kanje / calligraphy) on a glass of water. http://www.masaru-emoto.net/english/water-crystal.html  Check out the images, they are fascinating.

Hate caused severe distortion. Love caused extraordinarily beautiful and intricate crystalline structure. Music, news, conversation all have a real tangible effect on your body and therefore your mind and emotions. What you feed your mind matters. Who you surround yourself with matters. How you speak to others and how you let them speak to you matters. What you listen to, even your self talk, all makes a huge difference in how well you do in life and your level of happiness and success.

Many success experts say that you are the sum total of the 5 people you spend the most time with. When you are stuck and wanting to change, the first thing to do is change who you hang out with. If you can’t do that physically, then do it through audio, video, and books. I know a very successful woman who used to read the autobiography’s of very famous people and then, in her mind, pretend that those people were sitting around a table talking with her – her own mental board room. She had “gotten into their head” by reading all about them and then started having conversations, asking questions, making decisions as if they were her friends and advisers. The famous book, Think and Grow Rich, would suggest something similar.

I used to listen to audios and read books by my favorite spiritual teacher. On my way to and from work, I listened to his words of wisdom. I read and listened so often that sometimes I would suddenly hear him say a line or two in my head. It was very empowering and eventually helped me find the courage to leave an incredibly stressful career environment and head out into the unknown to find joy, passion, and my true life’s calling.

Now, with the Magnificent U Foundation Course, I’ve created a way for people to take a deep dive into my work, read my words and hear my voice, related to personal and spiritual growth, energy healing, inspiration, new thoughts and perspectives about life, to truly become empowered and find their own courage to become magnificent and have greater relationships and a more meaningful life experience.

If you enjoyed this article, you might also like this one on getting stuck in the negative thinking spin and the others mentioned at the bottom of it. As well as this article about the Golden Rule and education.

May you experience magnificent relationships,
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What Labels Do You Give Yourself and Others That Keep You From the Divine Truth?

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How to let go of the labels and step into the Divine truth, the magnificence, the uniqueness, and oneness of who you are.

This video does an extraordinary job of discussing labels. Labels divide us. They make us compare and disconnect from others.

 

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The video talks about the division between races. But labels go much further. They divide us because of religion, gender, economic status, education level and so much more.

We are all human. We are all emanations of the same Divine Source. We are all living extraordinary spiritual adventures here on planet earth and are here to grow and evolve as individuals. A few of the lessons we each must learn along the way include the realization of how we are similar, that Creator made everyone equal, that all are beautiful children of the Divine and no one is more or less blessed than another. Each person is born with unique gifts and talents and all are sacred.

When you look deeply into someone’s eyes, you look beyond skin color and other apparent differences. You touch the beauty of the soul. The truth of what lives there is love.

 

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When you discover your own magnificence, your own sacredness, when your self esteem and joy soar because you know are one with All That Is, it becomes infinitely easier to see the beauty and sacredness of others.

Ahhh what a glorious feeling to be in Unity with All.

May you find great joy and meaning in these words,

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10 Great Tips on How to Love, Honor, and Appreciate Everyone!

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It is not always easy to find the “good” in everyone or to genuinely learn to like and appreciate them.

I have a set of beliefs that makes this easier, or at least worth attempting to do. These beliefs or realizations are based on years of study, experience, and what I call “divine revelation (they come to me spontaneously in meditation and at other times when I am quiet and at peace)”:

  1. We are all emanations of the same Divine Source. You can say we are all children of God or spirits inside a body having a human experience or whatever words resonate most with you. The bottom line is, that spark of Divinity inside each of us is worthy of respect.
  2. Regardless of how they are acting, this is a little saying I “received” one day: They are doing the best they can with what they’ve got, whether its what they’ve experienced or what they’ve been taught.
  3. Bullies have typically been bullied. A very famous comment is “Hurt people, hurt people.” Any act of unkindness is typically a sign that the person has been seriously mistreated. I find it easier to feel compassion knowing this.
  4. Our job is to love, honor, accept, and appreciate everyone. There are a multitude of reasons for this. One of those reasons is that if we do that to others, then others will do it to us – the Law of Cause and Effect. Love, honor, acceptance, and appreciation is what everyone is seeking and deserves. Attempting to do that for everyone is my version of following The Golden Rule.
  5. Everything in life happens for a reason. Any discomfort going on in the moment is about learning something about who you are (the shadow self) and the opportunity to heal whatever needs to be healed. It is never about the other person and what they are doing or saying. How are you reacting (and why)? Is it showing you judgments, expectations, “shoulds,” and other things that definitely need to be healed and let go of.
  6. Very similar to the last one … all is as it should be.
  7. Our job is to embrace each moment, not fight against it. I have MANY articles about how to flow with change rather than resist.
  8. Every moment of every day is on purpose. Your soul is here on a spiritual adventure to evolve and grow. Every moment, every encounter, every situation, every person is there because your soul called them there for you to learn something, experience something, etc. Instead of being angry at the person or situation, fighting it, wishing it was different, go deeper and ask “why,” what can I learn, what can I heal, what can I let go of, how is this thought, belief, or judgment holding me back from becoming the person I am intending (on a soul level) to be?
  9. Joy is your natural state of being. Feeling anything less than that is an opportunity to learn and grow. The more out of sorts, angry, sad, riled up over things you are, the more easily something deeply buried is to find, heal, and release.
  10. And finally one of the other sayings I received through divine revelation: You have to get comfortable with being uncomfortable.

 

In order to step into your true Magnificence, you have to get outside of your comfort zone. It is in those moments of discomfort, when you are feeling stretched, pushed, and uncomfortable, that the greatest positive change is possible.

I would not be a bestselling author if I had not moved beyond my discomfort to take the actions required to do so.

I would not be nearly as healthy, happy, or have such a joy-filled adventurous life if I had not gone WAY outside my comfort zone on numerous occasions to try new things, study new things, look at everything from a completely different perspective, or do and say things that were uncomfortable.

Helping others find peace, joy, and gain a new perspective, even while going through a really rough time, is one of my super powers. I offer private consultations for those needing laser-targeted assistance and wishing to make huge leaps in consciousness and awareness, truly breaking free of blocks and limitations and stepping into their true Magnificence. For those in a leadership role, these breakthroughs allow them to be of even greater service and help even more people in a bigger way.

All of the Dancing Dolphin Sacred Healing Oils & Mists assist in bringing peace and a new perspective as well.

Have a glorious day!

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What Does the Golden Rule Have to do with Education and High Self Esteem?

Thomas Moore said, “What if schools saw the care of children’s souls as their primary mission, coloring all ‘educational’ activities?”

What a powerful thought!

Studies show kids go in to first grade with high self esteem. By the time they graduate high school, self confidence has plummeted. From that jumping off point they are supposed to go to college or off into a workplace and thrive. Some do. For many others though, life continues as a serious struggle.

Much of my work is helping people regain confidence, courage, and clarity after having been battered around by life’s various circumstances. Things would be so much easier for everyone concerned if the esteem piece was already intact as they face these challenges.

But when a person living in doubt and low self w0rth is hit over the head by what I call “the metaphysical 2×4 up side the head,” (cancer, unfaithful spouse, death of a loved one, job loss, etc.), the dark night of the soul that ensues is horrific.

Self esteem is something it takes years to repair. If people were HAALTMed (honored, accepted, appreciated, and loved – my words for how to treat someone properly) at home, school, and everywhere else …

WOW this would be a very different world.

If you truly live by the Golden Rule, that is how you treat everyone.

No one said stepping into Magnificence, becoming personally empowered, and evolving spiritually was easy.

But oh is it worth it!

Have a Magnificent Day!

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If you enJOYed this article, read more about the Golden Rule, found in all the world’s major religions, here: http://www.magnificentu.com/living-by-the-golden-rule/ 

For a deeper look at it from an esoteric spiritual perspective: http://www.magnificentu.com/learning-to-ride-the-waves-of-life/

For an even deeper dive into self esteem from a far greater mystical perspective: http://www.magnificentu.com/beloved-by-debbie-takara-shelor/

Fall Equinox, Free Guided Dolphin Meditations, and the Turning of the Wheel! 

Golden Water Dolphin Equinox Meditation

Wednesday, September 23rd, 8 p.m. Wherever you Are

Fall is the time we harvest the fruits of our labor. It is the height of receiving and manifesting of those projects that we’ve planted and cared for within our lives. I am certainly harvesting a bountiful amount of things because of seeds I planted and connections I’ve made over the years.

The more clear you become and the more in tune you are with your inner knowing, the more the seeds you’ve planted pay off. There are many factors involved of course. Divine timing will always direct what happens and when – no matter how hard you work towards something. If it is not in your highest (soul’s) interest to bring it forth at the time you desire, then no amount of effort will force it to happen. Or if it does happen, the result will not be what you were hoping for.Another factor is how healed and whole you have become in not just this tangible, physical experience, but in all realities, lifetimes, and dimensions. Many of my products and programs are designed to assist you in doing that.Fall (Spring) Equinox is a time of perfect balance – day and night are equal. It is the half way point between Summer and Winter Solstice – the extremes of night and day light available. With balance comes a still place within. We begin to turn inward, to reflect. For me, it is always a time I feel a great deal of gratitude.

I feel extremely grateful for having been “called” by the dolphins to share their loving, healing, nurturing, empowering, enlightening energies and information with the world. I am deeply blessed by my connection with dolphins, orcas, whales, and the ocean.

Every Spring and Fall Equinox, with the Golden Water Dolphin Meditation for Planetary Healing, I assist others in developing their own connection with dolphins and whales, or deepening the one they already have.

I am free

Visit this link for more information and to participate.

No Amount of Physical, Mental, Emotional, or Energetic Abuse is Acceptable!

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NO amount of abuse, whether it be physical, mental/emotional, or spiritual/energetic, is acceptable. Any time you are not being (feeling) loved, honored, accepted, and/or appreciated for who you are, it is often a sign that abuse of one kind or another is happening.

I’ve been through various forms of abuse myself and thankfully I’ve healed, moved on, and lived to tell the tale. Over the years I’ve also worked with hundreds of clients who were facing similar issues. There is a saying that goes, “Religion is for people who are afraid of going to hell, Spirituality is for people who have already been there.” Many who turn to spirituality, metaphysics, energy healing, alternative/complementary medicine, etc. do it to heal issues that, whether they realize it or not, began because of abuse of one form or another.

I’ve written many articles about who you allow into your inner circle. I can’t stress enough how truly important that is for your health and physical / mental / emotional / and spiritual wellbeing.

Who and what you allow in says to your subconscious mind, the Universe, and those around you what you desire and deserve.

Every time you allow abuse, you are saying: “I deserve that. I am not worthy of being honored, loved, respected, and appreciated. I am not lovable”

Those are horrendous affirmations and they must stop NOW!

Because, Dear One, they are absolute LIES!

You are magnificent!
You are an embodiment of Divinity walking on planet earth!
You deserve everything – to be happy, healthy, and successful as you define success!
You are a precious gift and you deserve all that you desire.

Not sticking up for yourself is also abusive. It’s you abusing yourself, saying you don’t deserve better.

And yet, when you are in it, you feel:

  • stressed,
  • afraid,
  • less than,
  • unworthy, and/or
  • unlovable

No matter how smart, or seemingly successful you are, you often can’t see a way out. Or, as a defense mechanism, you don’t even allow yourself to see or recognize that you are being abused.

Abuse of any kind causes damage not only to self esteem, but also to the energy field (aura) around you. When the energy field is damaged – ripped, shredded or torn – all sorts of icky sticky energy can “get in” and then you have even more disharmonious/noxious stuff to deal with.

If you find yourself in an abusive situation, call on a friend and ask for support from the Universe (God by whatever name), and get out as fast as possible! Find a place to step back into wholeness that is safe.

Most Dancing Dolphin products were designed to assist with putting things back into wholeness, harmony, and alignment energetically. Each one of the sacred healing oils and mists helps to soothe the hurt places, to lift you up energetically so you can see more clearly and heal what needs to be healed and deal with what needs to be dealt with.

The perfect energetic to support anyone facing current or past abuse of any kind is the Dancing Dolphin sacred healing oil of Turquoise. It is nurturing, healing, protective, helps to lift you up into a safe space for healing and transformation. And, like all Dancing Dolphin products, contains Dolphin Healing Energies and other powerful energetics that take you and your spiritual journey to a whole new level.

Dancing Dolphin Turquoise oil is available here.