Beginning Each Day in a Natural Way to Improve Health and Reduce Stress

Beginning Each Day in a Natural Way

Starting your day this way will improve health and reduce stress. Find out how.

How do you start your day?

I begin my day before 6 a.m. – before anyone else is awake in my household. I intend to wake up that early and I do so without an alarm clock.

I sit in silence … Read more

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Energy Healers, Shamans … And Knowing Who to Trust

Energy Healers Shsman

Energy Healers and Shaman

Most spiritual seekers have had an energy healing session of one form or another. Perhaps they have had some sort of color sound therapy, or seen a shaman or other medicine person for a soul retrieval or other process. They have probably had a Reiki session or even been trained in that modality. Typically those seeking energy healing assistance are looking to heal something physically or mentally/emotionally. Or perhaps they want to break through a pattern in which they feel stuck in one or more areas of life. 
I had a spiritual awakening back in 1993. Almost immediately I found books by Stuart Wilde who then became my first spiritual teacher. And I found Karen Schweitzer of the Body Mind Center in Reading, PA, who soon became not only a dear friend, but my go-to energy healer and spiritual adviser for many years. Week after week I went for Reiki sessions, her unique form of past life regression and many other sessions and experiences. I had years of physical and mental / emotional abuse and trauma/drama to heal. Karen helped me find inner peace, taught me numerous practical  techniques for handling stress, and recommended great classes and books. Practically every time I went home from a session with her, it was with a book she was loaning me to read or a stone or object that she had infused with healing energy for me to work with until next time. It was a beautiful time of exploring and involved a massive amounts of energy clearing. I feel so blessed to have found her.

Physical Pain and Entities

Up until the day I met Kaaren Shikiah Kaylor, I had never needed, or even thought of, having an energy session for physical pain. I so rarely have physical pain. But living in Santa Fe, New Mexico, the energies there brought up so many things, I often found myself dealing with phantom pain from past lives and had lots of encounters with disharmonious energy, vampires, energetic attachments, etc. Where there is light, there is also darkness.

We had just moved to Santa Fe a few weeks prior and I had been invited to have a booth at a Goddess Weekend in Madrid, NM. As I was setting up the booth, I suddenly began having excruciating back pain. I could hardly walk I was so uncomfortable. I was still setting up the booth when this woman, Shikiah, was doing the opening ceremony. When my then husband, Raven, came back to the booth after the ceremony, he said, “I scheduled you an appointment with Shikiah.” Hmmmm I am freaking picky about who I let work in my energy field. I had never laid eyes on her and yet, I was scheduled for a session. If it weren’t for the pain, I probably would have cancelled. I like to make my own appointments, thank you very much. hahaha

I walked down to the teepee where sessions were being held and went inside. It was so lovely and beautifully decorated in there. Shikiah and I instantly connected and have been dear friends ever since. I was sitting on a cushion and as I explained about the pain, she walked around behind me, grabbed whatever it was in my energy field and threw it off. Whatever it was had hold of me with such intensity that when it let go, I literally fell forward with great force and the pain was absolutely and totally gone, never to return. It was a truly strange experience and it let me know, quite dramatically, that entities are real. After that, whenever I had pain, Shikiah was the one I called on for help.

I Am an Energy Healer

I’m an energy healer, the kind naturally born with the gift. I’ve been called the Chalice of Divine Frequencies and many people come into center and balance just being in my presence or listening to my voice. I am an amplifier and clarifier and I am extremely intuitive. For the past twenty+ years I’ve been in Spirituality and “Energy Healing School” through various ways and means. It all began with Reiki … the doorway many walk through to enter the world of energy healing. It quickly expanded into something else entirely when the dolphin energy healers entered the picture and sort of took over my world. I say that laughingly and lovingly.
According to a channel in New Zealand, I work with “a very fine frequency . . . Feminine integrated energy.”
Hopefully by now you know the story of how I learned to meditate and as soon as I began meditating, dolphins started to spontaneously appear in my visions and dreams, bringing with them powerful energy healing frequencies and processes, which I was then able to transmit to others.

Whatever you are called to do as a true life purpose, those talents and gifts you came in to awaken, activate, fine-tune, and enhance, often require that you grow immensely in consciousness and awareness, healing layer upon layer of fear and limitation in order to step fully into that role. That’s what I’ve been up to for two decades … awakening, activating, fine-tuning, expanding, allowing, healing, growing, in a never ending spiral upward.

Like everyone, I’ve gotten stuck and required assistance to move forward on more than one occasion. I’ve developed friendships and business partnerships with people who showed up so I could fine-tune and hone my “bull shit” meter (pardon the language), my ability to read energy, my ability to sort between the truly, authentically, genuinely Light and the wolves in sheep’s clothing – those who appear light, use all the right words, appear to be intent on helping others, but are instead running hidden agendas and in some cases are energy manipulators or actual energy vampires. If you are going to work with energy, this is something you must master.

Read more about the nature of who I am and what I do here.

How to Tell the Dark from the Light

Sometimes developing the ability to tell the difference takes a bloody long time and the emotional damage created by getting involved with the wrong people can be devastating. Of course all of it is about the learning and there are never truly “wrong” people in your life. Everyone is there for you to learn and grow beyond whatever you are experiencing.
The more your heal your own issues, rise in consciousness and awareness, and have encounters with disharmonious, unkind, manipulative people, the easier it is to spot them next time. If you are on a spiritual path, these are part of the lessons one must learn. If you don’t heal the issues, you will continue to draw those same type of people until you have.

Manipulative Healers

Sadly, there are energy healers out there who do a disservice to others by telling them they have a particular problem, causing them to break down emotionally by pointing out a deep dark shadow issue, but fail to provide solutions. Those types of healers are definitely to be avoided. I find that behavior unkind and manipulative. It is about as irresponsible as someone doing energy healing who hasn’t fine-tuned their ability to see, feel, or hear what is happening in the unseen.
Talk about the blind leading the blind. Just as people you can see range from the Dalai Llama to serial killers, the unseen realms are teaming with everything from angels and Ascended Masters to downright scary entities that you really don’t want to mess with unless you have been trained to do so. Naivety and a few words of protection do not provide a safety net. 
I recently read a thread on social media where a guy said he went to a shaman. The shaman told him that a sorcerer had placed a curse on him, but since he didn’t have much money and this was an initial free consultation, he was left with knowledge about this horrible thing going on, but no solution.  
 
I jumped in to the conversation and agreed with someone else who commented about what you latch onto mentally causes a HUGE impact on your life experience. I almost never get readings and am extremely careful about who I let do any form of “healing” with me or do work on my energy field.
If what the shaman said was really there, they should have cleared it out completely, disconnected them from the person, and sealed up and protected their energy field, then taught them things to keep that going.
You have to take part in your own healing. You can’t be “fixed” entirely by another. A lot of it is belief and the release of fear.
Energetic attacks are real. But anyone talking about “bad” things that result in doubt and fear within a client, needs to also be giving them tools and advice about how to remedy the situation. Just planting seeds of doubt and fear is no good for anyone. It is, however, a great way to get repeat customers who need to be continuously “fixed.” Maybe that was not the shaman’s conscious intention, but it definitely could have been. As a side note, most true shaman would never call themselves that. As my dear teacher, Stuart Wilde, once said … If they call themselves a master, they aren’t.
The person went on to say that the healing was incomplete because it was initially a free intro. After discussing finances, the guy left depressed.
 
That sounds to me like a scam to get customers. It is, sadly, human nature to give power over to those who seem to know more than we do about various things – particularly when dealing with the unseen realms. When I say give power over, I mean believe, without any filters whatsoever, whatever they say.
And belief happens not only with the conscious mind, but the unconscious as well. You may think one thing and believe something else entirely. True healers, those born with the gift and who have spent years honing and fine-tuning it are rare.
When you have cleared, healed, and aligned yourself enough, then the energy and intention of others becomes more apparent. You can then, fairly easily, tell the energy level (meaning clarity and level of consciousness) of whomever you are going to for support.
Until then, you end up in situations like this person did. This is not a bad thing, it is a learning experience. The more difficult encounters you have had with energy and people running hidden agendas, the more you grow and evolve as a person. It’s like training wheels for your personal mastery.

Some Will Steal Your Power

Selo Black Crow, a Lakota Medicine Man, once looked me in the eye and said “Never go to a Medicine Man for healing because he will steal your power.” I was shocked to hear him say those words. But then I went to a female Native American friend and repeated what he said. She gave me this look that kind of said to me “you poor ignorant white girl” and said, “yes, everyone knows that.” Well I didn’t know it.
I am not at all saying that all Medicine Men, shaman, or energy healers will do these things. There are some extraordinary healers out there that can literally facilitate miracles. I’m just saying be careful and don’t assume just because they call themselves shaman or Reiki Master, and show you a laundry list of training certifications, that they are any different than other people. Some are nice. Some aren’t. It really is that simple.

How Can You Tell?

If you spend time with someone and afterwards you feel confusion, worry, exhaustion, or self doubt, that is a neon sign that you have been manipulated energetically and/or mentally. Clear the energy between you and spend less time with them if at all possible.

How often do you take the time to meditate, open the energy channels within the body, connect to the earth and your Higher Self?

These are actions I take every single day. I encourage you to do the same. As you continue the practice, you will become better at determining  people who are running harmonious empowering energy vs the opposite.

Have a glorious day,

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Shoulds Can Destroy Relationships and Self Esteem

Shoulds Destroy Relationships

The bloody shoulds destroy relationships and self esteem.

Blame, shame, victimhood, guilt … often create terrible destruction and rarely anything positive.

Blaming Others

The only way for a person to be happy is to stop blaming others and outside circumstances for their unhappiness. You have to take responsibility for how you react to the words and actions of other people. People’s behavior is one thing. Your reaction to it is all about you and nothing at all to do with them.

If you want a great relationship with someone, you have to create it and make it a priority.

You have to love, honor, accept, and appreciate the other person just the way they are. Of course they have to do the same for your.

Developing kindness, compassion, caring, and being conscientious of how your words and actions affect others is something you (as in all people) simply have to learn how to do if you ever want great relationships.

The problem for most people is that it is impossible to do those things for another until one learns to do it for themselves – meaning you have to love, honor, accept, and appreciate yourself. You have to see your own brilliance. You also have to see your shortcomings and love yourself any way.

When you can do that, others will also. That’s just how it works.

It took me years to figure all this out and apply it in my own life by truly learning to love and appreciate myself.

Shoulds Destroy Relationships

Emotional distress happens when you have unrealistic expectations of yourself and others or are attached to how you think you and they “should” be behaving. When they (or you) don’t behave the way you think they “should,” you get upset. It’s human nature. It is also something everyone needs to learn to get over.

When you get angry, upset, or sad because someone didn’t behave the way you think they “should” have, that is a great opportunity to take a long hard look, heal, and release, the underlying cause of your anger or sadness. The current circumstance is simply a mirror showing you something that is still “broken” within. It is never about the other person or situation. It is always about the one reacting.

People have good days and bad days. They are imperfect. Sometimes they are fun and interesting and other times they are grumpy. Sometimes they have energy to do things and other days they can barely get out of bed. That is just the truth.

Some people are night owls while other are morning people. Some people are naturally more kind. Kindness is really important to me.

Think Before You Speak

If someone is mean, calls people names, is constantly judging, complaining about, and criticizing others, I simply refuse to hang out with them. They obviously are not showing honor or respect for those other people.

If the people you tend to hang out with act this way, it’s time for new friends. It’s also time to look in the mirror because people are often drawn to people much like themselves.  You have to learn to think about how it would feel if someone said that to you, before you speak it out loud. Check out this article on Living the Golden Rule – the rule book I follow in life.

If you have done something unkind, then recognize it, forgive yourself first, then apologize, and move on. In the future, think before you speak or act.

Learning and growing is why we are here. We don’t expect a toddler to always be nice or know how to do everything already. Yet we expect ourselves, and others, to do everything perfectly all the time. When in truth, we are all just learning and growing.

This is a little saying I came up with some time ago:
“They are doing the best they can with what they’ve got
Be it what they’ve experienced or what they’ve been taught.”

In every given moment, we are all doing the best we can. Forgive yourself. Forgive others. Yes, we could all do better. But because of stress, environment, fears, limiting beliefs, judgments, expectations, attachments to outcomes, shame, blame, victimhood, and guilt, we behave less than best a great deal of the time. We can beat ourselves and others up over this forever. Or we can let it go, forgive, and move on.

We are also greatly influenced by the expectations of others. If someone thinks we always screw up, we tend to screw up. If someone thinks we are brilliant, we tend to be brilliant. How you are viewed in the eyes and unspoken beliefs of those you surround yourself with does have an impact on you – whether beneficial or detrimental.

They did a study a long time ago. I am not remembering all the details, but this was the gist of it: A teacher was given the name of each of her new students for the school year along with their locker number. However the teacher was told that the locker number was the student’s IQ. Whether the teacher openly treated students differently with what she thought was a higher IQ or if she simply had higher expectations of those students with high numbers and lesser expectations of those with low numbers, at the end of the year the student scores matched her expectations. Even for children who usually got A’s, if their number was lower, they got lower grades.

How you believe people are is how they behave in your presence. If you think people are jerks, then you tend to be surrounded by jerks. A lot of it has to do with your own beliefs and expectations. When you change, the experiences you have with others changes as well.

Feed Your Mind the Right Things

We are comprised of 70 to 80% water. The studies by Masaru Emoto showed dramatic shifts in water structure by simply taping different words (written in Japanese Kanje / calligraphy) on a glass of water. http://www.masaru-emoto.net/english/water-crystal.html  Check out the images, they are fascinating.

Hate caused severe distortion. Love caused extraordinarily beautiful and intricate crystalline structure. Music, news, conversation all have a real tangible effect on your body and therefore your mind and emotions. What you feed your mind matters. Who you surround yourself with matters. How you speak to others and how you let them speak to you matters. What you listen to, even your self talk, all makes a huge difference in how well you do in life and your level of happiness and success.

Many success experts say that you are the sum total of the 5 people you spend the most time with. When you are stuck and wanting to change, the first thing to do is change who you hang out with. If you can’t do that physically, then do it through audio, video, and books. I know a very successful woman who used to read the autobiography’s of very famous people and then, in her mind, pretend that those people were sitting around a table talking with her – her own mental board room. She had “gotten into their head” by reading all about them and then started having conversations, asking questions, making decisions as if they were her friends and advisers. The famous book, Think and Grow Rich, would suggest something similar.

I used to listen to audios and read books by my favorite spiritual teacher. On my way to and from work, I listened to his words of wisdom. I read and listened so often that sometimes I would suddenly hear him say a line or two in my head. It was very empowering and eventually helped me find the courage to leave an incredibly stressful career environment and head out into the unknown to find joy, passion, and my true life’s calling.

Now, with the Magnificent U Foundation Course, I’ve created a way for people to take a deep dive into my work, read my words and hear my voice, related to personal and spiritual growth, energy healing, inspiration, new thoughts and perspectives about life, to truly become empowered and find their own courage to become magnificent and have greater relationships and a more meaningful life experience.

If you enjoyed this article, you might also like this one on getting stuck in the negative thinking spin and the others mentioned at the bottom of it. As well as this article about the Golden Rule and education.

May you experience magnificent relationships,
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How to Handle Bullies and Aggressive People in Meetings and Everywhere Else

Handling Bullies and Aggressive People
A friend was recently seeking advice because she had been put into a leadership position and found herself suddenly dealing with aggressive people who were dominating her meetings.
This was some of my advice, “What a great opportunity to practice setting and holding boundaries.
I have tons of experience leading meetings, workers, and projects where I had to learn how to handle bullies and other aggressive people. 
 
If you set an agenda for each meeting, then it is easier to say “we must move on to the next topic.” Sometimes if people simply don’t know how to play nice, then I take one meeting or part of a meeting to teach them. Teach them how to brainstorm, how everyone’s opinion matters and that its fine to debate a topic, but not to be unkind to others in the process.
 
The “bullies on the playground,” as I like to call them, can absolutely ruin a good time. Sometimes all their aggression and domination of a meeting is a little immature child who never felt heard. Acknowledging them, thanking them for their ideas and contributions, etc. can sometimes pacify this immature child within.
 
If it persists, I would talk with them privately outside the meeting and discuss how “aggressive” they seem and if there is a way to tone that down for meetings. Of course you can’t come right out and say aggressive or anything that might turn on that confrontational aspect of the person.
 
Read everything you can about personality types, DISC for example, group dynamics, that sort of thing.
 
My best ally in moments like this is just to stay centered and balanced no matter what and listen for that still small voice within to gently nudge me in the right direction on what to say and do in each now moment. Doing things that way has had absolutely miraculous results. I’ve done some pretty crazy things inside teams and it’s all worked – because it was my gut / intuition inspiring me to do so. For me its about “feeling out” the situation and each person and not so much a figuring it out with my brain.
 
You have to find a way to genuinely like and appreciate all the people, even the ones you wish weren’t part of the meeting.

My first spiritual teacher, Stuart Wilde, had this great technique. You close your eyes before a meeting or situation and you see the person shrinking down to a tiny little person about 1 1/2 inches tall. You see them so small they can run around on your hand. In diminishing their size physically, you are also diminishing their perceived power over you or situations. Instead of a giant monster in the way of joy or productive meetings, they become a comical little silly thing that makes you laugh. It shifts the energy enough to actually make a difference. Nothing has really changed of course, except your opinion about all of it.

Best of luck!”

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It is not always easy to find the “good” in everyone or to genuinely learn to like and appreciate them. Visit this link to read my article about learning to love, honor, and appreciate everyone.

 

No Amount of Physical, Mental, Emotional, or Energetic Abuse is Acceptable!

Abusers Are Losers - Get Them Out of Your Life Pronto!

NO amount of abuse, whether it be physical, mental/emotional, or spiritual/energetic, is acceptable. Any time you are not being (feeling) loved, honored, accepted, and/or appreciated for who you are, it is often a sign that abuse of one kind or another is happening.

I’ve been through various forms of abuse myself and thankfully I’ve healed, moved on, and lived to tell the tale. Over the years I’ve also worked with hundreds of clients who were facing similar issues. There is a saying that goes, “Religion is for people who are afraid of going to hell, Spirituality is for people who have already been there.” Many who turn to spirituality, metaphysics, energy healing, alternative/complementary medicine, etc. do it to heal issues that, whether they realize it or not, began because of abuse of one form or another.

I’ve written many articles about who you allow into your inner circle. I can’t stress enough how truly important that is for your health and physical / mental / emotional / and spiritual wellbeing.

Who and what you allow in says to your subconscious mind, the Universe, and those around you what you desire and deserve.

Every time you allow abuse, you are saying: “I deserve that. I am not worthy of being honored, loved, respected, and appreciated. I am not lovable”

Those are horrendous affirmations and they must stop NOW!

Because, Dear One, they are absolute LIES!

You are magnificent!
You are an embodiment of Divinity walking on planet earth!
You deserve everything – to be happy, healthy, and successful as you define success!
You are a precious gift and you deserve all that you desire.

Not sticking up for yourself is also abusive. It’s you abusing yourself, saying you don’t deserve better.

And yet, when you are in it, you feel:

  • stressed,
  • afraid,
  • less than,
  • unworthy, and/or
  • unlovable

No matter how smart, or seemingly successful you are, you often can’t see a way out. Or, as a defense mechanism, you don’t even allow yourself to see or recognize that you are being abused.

Abuse of any kind causes damage not only to self esteem, but also to the energy field (aura) around you. When the energy field is damaged – ripped, shredded or torn – all sorts of icky sticky energy can “get in” and then you have even more disharmonious/noxious stuff to deal with.

If you find yourself in an abusive situation, call on a friend and ask for support from the Universe (God by whatever name), and get out as fast as possible! Find a place to step back into wholeness that is safe.

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Joy is your natural state of being.

Herein lies the source of all your emotional pair:

The way you think people and situations should be is different than they really are.

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Dealing with the Killer Called Stress by Captain Paul Watson

Dealing with the Killer Called Stress

Observations and Advice by Captain Paul Watson (by permission)

I am often asked how I deal with stress considering I’m wanted by Japan and Costa Rica, I have a price on my head from the shark fin mafia of Costa Rica, we have numerous ships on the sea in dangerous campaigns, I am being sued, threatened and harassed continuously and I have a lot of enemies, critics and people who wish me harm.

The answer to this is simple. I don’t deal with stress, because I do not suffer from stress. And these are ten primary reasons why, and for anyone suffering from anxiety, worry or stress, I would like to offer this advice …

1. It is what it is. Whatever the issue, whatever the threat, whatever the circumstances it simply is what it is. Stressing will not change the situation. All problems can be dealt with or ignored.

2. “It’s always something.” I say this all the time to my crews whenever a problem arises. “It’s always something and if it’s not something, it’s something else, but it is always something.” This means that life comes with obstacles, challenges and problems. Problems should not be unexpected. They are inevitable. All problems can be dealt with by dealing with them, delegating someone else to deal with them, or ignoring them. One thing for sure, on a ship, it is definitely always something.

3. Stay calm. There really is nothing worth getting upset about. For example, if I drop a bottle of wine or tomato sauce and it shatters, my reaction is, “hmmm okay, that needs cleaning up.” If I lose my phone, wallet or keys, my reaction is “I better replace what I lost and take measures to cancel my cards etc. More seriously when my regulator jammed once at 30 meters, I calmly signaled my partner to indicate my situation. Fretting about it will not recover the object. Panicking will not save your life. Anger emanates from stress. Without stress there can be no anger. Without stress there is no panic.

4. Nothing material is permanent and thus objects are not worth stressing about. Your car is damaged, something you own is stolen, or you lost your investments etc. It is really not important. Material objects and comforts are nice but they should not be anchors keeping you attached to stress. Move on.

5. Friends are friends or they are not. A true friend will never betray you and if a “friend” does betray you than he/she is simply not a friend. Always walk away from betrayal and do not stress about it. True and loyal friends are rare treasures and should be treated as such. Loyalty returns loyalty. Compassion returns compassion. Courage returns courage. However you control only your own loyalty, compassion and courage, not that of others. And if they prove disloyal or they betray you, the treasure is no longer a treasure but merely a bauble to be tossed aside. Never stress about betrayal or loss. It is what it is.

6. Loneliness is an opportunity. It is an opportunity to discover yourself. You can’t find someone to love you if you don’t love yourself, and the secret to finding the right person is to not look for that person. Love should blossom from the ground like a lovely wild flower. It cannot be cultivated until after it is realized. Do not seek the seed but let the flower reveal an opportunity to you to grow and learn.

7. Relationships are like streams, constantly flowing and as they flow they meet obstacles. Some are minor and others major but a relationship either flows around the obstacle or it is blocked, and if permanently blocked, it ends. This is not cause for stress or angry, resentment or jealously. It is what it is. Move on with appreciation and without bitterness for the relationship that is no more, and open your heart to other possibilities that life presents. The most important factor in maintaining a meaningful relationship with lovers, family or friends is simply acceptance. You need to accept them for who they are and they need to accept you for who you are. If you cannot accept another person for who they are, you need to stop inflicting stress on that person and to walk away. And if another person does not accept you for who you are, you need to walk away no matter the nature of the relationship. Stress kills and living with a person who does not accept you for who you are is like living with a person who is slowly killing you.

8. Fear is a poison that seeps into the soul and paralyzes our senses generating paranoia, insecurity and anger. Never let fear enter your life. There is really nothing to fear because things are what they are and will be what they will be. Remember you are the captain of your fate and the master of your soul and body. Who you are and what you wish to be depends on you and you alone. A person free of fear can accomplish far more than a person shackled to fear.

9. Oscar Wilde once said that the only thing worst than being talked about was not being talked about. People talk, they gossip, they make false accusations, some enjoy insulting and belittling others. They are easily dealt with by ignoring them. Responding to them is what they want, so don’t respond. Reacting to them is what they want, so don’t react. Such people are not worthy of causing stress to you. They come from a place of insecurity, jealously and fear. It is their stress, and their stress is their problem. It should not be yours.
10. Hoka Hey. It’s a good day to die. It’s a Lakota saying and it means to not fear death and to stand firm for what you believe in, to fight against all odds and to never surrender. The one absolute of life is death. We all will die. What matters is not dying but living. It is how you live that is important and the only thing important about dying is how you die. It should be a death without fear, with dignity and with acceptance that it is what it is. The person without fear dies but once, the person shackled by fear dies slowly from stress and anxiety. Accept the inevitable, embrace the final reality of life and smile in the face of the infinite. The real secret to happiness is to not fear your own death, to not fear failure or ridicule, and not to fear others.

Stress is an obstacle to mindfulness and an impediment to impeccability. Stress is the cause of migraines, cancer and many other ailments. It is the reason people smoke, take drugs, and drink excessively. When people ask me why I’ve never smoked anything, the reason being is that I have never felt inclined to do so. It never seemed healthy to me and I have always been mindful of the consequences. I think that stress blocks mindfulness of consequences. The same holds true to getting drunk or stoned. Without stress there is no need, nor a desire to do either.

Mindfulness is simply awareness of who you are and what you are doing. A person who is mindful is a person free of stress.

Unfulfilled desire leads to stress. Wanting nothing allows you to appreciate what you have. When you want nothing, you want for nothing. We all have basic needs for food, for warmth and shelter, for clothing and for companionship. Mindfulness allows you to be secure with your basic needs. Everything else is a luxury and although luxuries may be appreciated, you should not depend upon them. Depending upon luxuries leads to stress.

I have never worked a day in my life for the sole purpose of making money. I have never wanted to own anything and although I now do own property and material things, I do not allow those things to own me. I never engage in arguments about money or debts. I tend to avoid debts but when debts occur my position is that they are what they are and certainly not anything to be troubled with.

As far as basic needs, I learned to address this as a teenager when I left home at 15. I had no money, no place to stay, no prospects. I jumped a freight train, rode in the automobiles being transported from Toronto all the way to Vancouver. I arrived and camped in the abandoned gun towers on Wreck Beach and the first thing I did was to go to Vancouver City College to enroll. I found a job, moved out of the gun tower into a single room I rented and went from there. Looking back I see it as an adventure. I had nothing but there was no stress. I simply replaced the insecurity of my position into an adventurous experience. I treated every job as a learning experience and working as a longshoreman, teamster, tree planter, warehouse man, short order cook, baker, painter, carpet layer, postman, tour guide, landscaper, and seaman all were educational experiences.

The truth is that all of life is an adventure, the good and the bad, the ups and the downs, the experiences, the hardships, the thrills and the times that were lonely, happy or difficult. Even the loss of friends and family is simply dealt with by acknowledging that death is as it is. It is inevitable and although we may sincerely mourn we can do so without being stressed. This may be difficult to understand but it is indeed quite possible. With the passing of every friend, with the passing of my brother I have silently said “Good-bye” with the appreciation of having known them.

I have gone into situations many times where the risks of injury, death or imprisonment were practically a certainty. My approach has always been acceptance. And amazingly I am still alive and still free. When I have had nothing I have had everything I need, and when I have risked all, I have usually been successful. One of the things that concerns me is when I read about, or hear of people, especially young people committing suicide because of bullying. I wish that I could talk to such people before they make such a terminal decision. I would tell them to not let the insecurities and fears of others influence them in any way. I would tell them to accept that all the ridicule, insults, bullying and peer pressure is irrelevant and simply unimportant to who they are. If a parent is unaccepting of who you are, you need to say to them that if you are unacceptable to them they have no right to be your parent and you should walk away from them. Too many people are enslaved to parents, partners and friends who do not accept them Unacceptance and bullying are forms of violence and everyone should walk away from violence with dignity. No one should tell you what to believe, how to think, how to dress, how to behave or to dictate your sexual orientation or condemn you for your compassion, your passion, your imagination and your character. You are who you are and that is what it is, and how it should be, and if others do not tolerate who you are, don’t give them the satisfaction of destroying you. Simply symbolically spit in their eye, walk away and concentrate on being who you are for the benefit of yourself.

And if anyone is inclined to commit suicide my advice is to commit social suicide instead. That is, to drop out of your life as it is and begin another life, in another place with new ideas. Adventure is the antidote for depression. Take a chance, jump into the unknown and you will be amazed at what is awaiting you after you do.

I am not infallible. I have made mistakes in my life, many of them. I have at times in the past responded with anger although never physical and limited to the poison of the pen. I have let some people down, disappointed others and missed opportunities. But the one thing that I have been able to do in my life is to avoid stress.

At 64, I am healthy, happy, optimistic, and as passionate as I ever have been. Even more so because I have had the grace of experience and the satisfaction of achievement in those areas that I chose to address.

The point of this posting is this: Do not let stress ruin your health, your love or your life. Dreadnaught and live the adventure, this adventure that is life. It may well be the only life you will ever have. Even if you believe in the afterlife (oh and don’t stress about that either) the fact is you will never know for sure, so no sense wasting the unique life that you have.

A stress free life is not only possible, it’s also essential for your health and your happiness.

Captain Paul Watson is head of Sea Shepherd Conservation Society. He has been defending oceans and sea life for many years.  You may have seen him on Whale Wars: http://www.animalplanet.com/tv-shows/whale-wars/.  To find out more about Sea Shepherd, visit this link: http://www.seashepherd.org/

Because Texting and Driving is Stupid, Get a Voice App for Your Smartphone to Use on the Road

Texting + Driving = Stupid

Every now and then the safety-conscious engineer in me looks at a situation and just thinks, “something about this needs to change.” Texting and driving is one of those situations …

 

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My son recently got his learner’s permit and has started learning to drive.

It was cause to reflect on how things have changed so drastically since I was learning to drive some 30+ years ago.

There are a lot more cars on the road for one thing.

There are more traffic lights, more roads have been built, and a great deal more traffic on all the roads we travel.

And then there is texting drivers.

I was behind a car the other day where the driver was texting. It was a very busy road, full of cars and stop lights, and she kept weaving from being off near the shoulder to crossing the middle line into the lane of oncoming traffic. I pulled up beside her at a stoplight and got to see first hand that it was indeed texting causing all the problem with her driving ability. That driver is a disaster waiting to happen.

She is just one example of a prolific problem facing all drivers on the roadways now – other drivers who are spending more time looking at their phones, than they are on the road or in their mirrors.

It used to be that there were only a few times a day that you had to be extra cautious because something unexpected might happen.

If you live in or near rural areas, then you know that you have to watch out for deer and other wildlife trying to cross the road right around twilight.

Late at night, especially on weekends, it has always been a good idea to be on extra high alert for anyone that appears to be drinking and driving.

The rest of the time, you could proceed by being alert, slowing down around corners, being watchful as you pop over a hill or go around a blind corner that you may need to brake if something unusual is happening on the road up ahead.

But now with drivers on the road who are texting, you have to be hyper-vigilant every moment of every day because so many others are not paying attention.

I believe that no-one should ever text and drive. Either pull over to text or don’t text at all.

There is another alternative, however, and that is to use a smartphone app that lets you speak to text.

For iPhone, the app is called Siri.

For Android, there are many choices. I use Skyvi.

Anyone with a smartphone knows you can add apps.

Learning to use this one is very important. With that in mind, I’ve included these videos on how to use Siri and Skyvi.

Lives depend on safe, focused drivers who are paying attention.

Do your part when you are on the road and PLEASE teach your kids how important this is as well!

 

Realigning Yourself with Earth Changes

Realignment with earth energies

There have been many earth changes lately.

Those really affect you, even if you don’t realize it.

We are all connected to the earth. Being out of alignment with the earth causes stress, lack of clarity, feeling off center. It even causes your various energy fields to spin out of alignment with one another and with the earth. It can cause you to be irritable and even have physical issues.

Here is a fast way to get relief and be more aligned. It is actually beneficial to do this every day as the energies everywhere are shifting and you are being re-calibrated to handle the higher frequencies.

Meditation for Realignment

Sit with your eyes closed. Take a few slow deep breaths. Focus your attention on your heart. Find something to feel grateful for.

Ask Archangel Michael to place a protective grid around you. I like to ask him to wrap his wings around me. It feels very nice.

Ground yourself by seeing giant roots growing down into the earth from each of your feet. See the roots grow and spread as far as possible. Feel yourself firmly anchored to the earth.

Ask for the dolphin spiral clearing and infusion to cleanse your field. You don’t have to stand and spin, just ask that it be done. The instructions are in the free ebook Dancing with Dolphins that you were gifted when you joined the newsletter list. If you don’t have the ebook, you can get it here.

Ask your High Self and Guides to:

  • realign
  • rebalance
  • reharmonize
  • recalibrate, and
  • upgrade you to the next level of your Divine blueprint.

See yourself bathed in the blue/silver ray. It is a shimmery baby blue. It is Divine alignment.

Thank Archangel Michael, the dolphins, your Higher Self and Guides.

I’ve made a new gem essence of the Divine Alignment vibration using Blue Kyanite. If you are very sensitive, the essence can greatly assist you. It can be found in the blends of Resurrection and Break Through.

Spend as much time as possible in nature, in meditation, and in silence to assist you to re-harmonize with what Earth is doing right now. Rest as often as possible.

Many people have let me know that they had dreams of earthquakes and tsunamis before they happen and they were throwing up as it occurred. I don’t know how to prevent you from having premonitions – I’m not even sure having premonitions is a bad thing. But this next exercise will help you to not have so many physical reactions as the earth is shifting.

Imagine a 2 foot thick magenta filter or buffer underneath you. It is always there where ever you are. Whether you are lying, or sitting, or standing it is between you and the earth. You can still ground, but you are grounding through a filter. You are still connected, but you don’t have to take on any detrimental earth energy. (I learned this from Amorah Quan Yin’s Pleiadian books.)

Some people are so sensitive that all the fear and mourning is causing emotional stress. If you are one of those people, just put yourself in a giant energy egg. Extend the magenta filter under your feet to all the way around you. You are in a giant magenta filter cocoon. Magenta is not only protective, but it is soothing and healing. It is a powerful ray. See yourself bathed in it.

Comment below and let me know what experiences you have using these techniques.

 

* I do not know the original source of this image. If you know the designer, I would love to give proper attribution. THANKS!

This is an update of a previously published healing exercise I created.