Find Your Tribe, Like-Minded Friends, and Places Where You Belong

It's Time to Find Your Tribe of Like Minded Friends

“I’ll be offline for a few days … getting my Faerie on, hanging with zany brainiacs, enjoying the creative wizardry of cosplay and sci-fi/fantasy related gizmos and gadgets, seeing many dear friends and making some new ones.”

I posted those words on Facebook, which then led to the thought that created this article …

When I speak and have booths at New Age & holistic expos, I always look around at the other vendors and people walking the aisles and smile because I know, “these are my people” – meaning this is my tribe, people who are into similar things, and I enJOY being in their presence.

When I attend sci-fi fantasy cons, I also know that “these are my people” because I so completely fit in there too.

When I lead or attend women’s business networking meetings all dressed to impress I look around and know, “these are my people” because that is a place I completely understand and enJOY as well.

When I’m out in nature sitting next to a stream with birds flying overhead, squirrels, fox and other creatures milling about, and trees smiling down at me I know that “these are my people.”

And of course, when I’m at the beach and dolphins swim past, I always smile (often with a tear in my eye) feeling complete bliss knowing that “these are my people.”

The deeper your wisdom, the broader your interests, the more places you feel “at home” and like you belong there. Certain cities, states, and countries resonate with me more than others. Certain bends in a river, mountain peaks, and people speak to my soul as others simply cannot.

Never settle for friends or lovers who mistreat you, belittle or put you down, cause chaos, confusion, or self-doubt. If you don’t feel that anyone truly understands you, then you haven’t gone to the “right” places or done the “right” things ... yet.

Take a class, go to meetups, or travel to conventions. If things like that make you nervous, then invite someone else that you know to do it with you.

I’ll tell you a little secret, I’ve made more friends going alone than with others. I strike up conversations … it’s so easy. Sitting next to someone waiting for a lecture to start, I turn to them and say, “Where are you from?” And after that, I ask, “What do you do?” Is it so easy. Somewhere along the way I ask their name and if they have a business card. I always jot down notes about people on the back … to jog my memory.

Often when I’m attending a workshop and there is a lunch break, I look around the room for someone else there alone (who doesn’t seem creepy) and go over and ask if they would like to join me for lunch. Usually, they are highly surprised and deeply grateful. So we chat over lunch. I was at a 3-day retreat in San Francisco a few years ago and ate lunch with different people all 3 days. The restaurant at the hotel was not that big, so I didn’t just grab 1 person, I grabbed 3 to fill up a table for 4. So in the course of 3 days, I had great conversations with 9 new people and several others in the room. Some of them are still friends on Facebook and we’ve had some fairly deep conversations about things that matter – to me anyway.

Sometimes the universe throws you together. I was at Yogaville at a retreat with my dear friends Jonathan and Andi Goldman. Yogaville has lots of different lodging options. I sometimes go for the shared room. Wow have I met interesting people doing that. Anyway, the first year I went, the lady assigned to share a room with me was named Mary. We instantly “clicked” into friendship. She was attending the same workshop all weekend. We talked as we went back and forth from the room to the classroom. We hung out at lunch together. We’ve remained friends ever since.

My soul-family, what I call my “inner circle,” is scattered all over the world. I met each of them in some unique way and none of it was sitting on the couch watching television. O.K. that’s not exactly true, since one of them did actually show up at my house and become my dearest friend in the world. I’ll get to how that happened in a moment.

I’ve spent over 20 years meditating daily, dowsing, spending LOTS of time in nature, and doing other things that have helped me fine-tune my intuition. So I rarely just go to something. I am usually inspired from within to show up.

That’s not always the case, though. I was starting a business partnership with a friend a really long time ago and she insisted that I attend this business entrepreneur training in L.A. I met a lot of wonderful people there and several are still very dear friends. So that suggestion came from someone else. That’s not the only time a friend’s suggestion had me take a class or go to something where I met wonderful people.

Sometimes I go to things because I’m interested in a topic. Sometimes it’s because I felt “inspired” to go as I’ve mentioned. In the various places I’ve lived, many of the friendships I’ve developed were with other homeschool parents. Some of those I feel closest to were part of the homeschool co-op in Santa Fe that we created together. I still see them when I visit and talk to them on the phone, social media, and by email when I’m not there.

When I graduated from Virginia Tech with a degree in Industrial Engineering, I swore I’d never take another test as long as I live. So far, I’ve lived up to that promise. I have, however, taken many classes in many different things. A few include: taxes for entrepreneurs, image consulting (even advanced image consulting), interior design, public speaking, pottery (OMG how I love that), web design, design of experiements and advanced quality control (in my engineering days, I even taught this stuff), and more recently watercolor. I even had a $2,000 advanced course in Kaizen.

Because of my interest in energy healing and all things metaphysical, I’ve taken classes, done workshops, and attended retreats in everything from an 8-day spiritual (metaphysical) warrior training with Stuart Wilde in the mountains of New Mexico to numerology, Reiki, Chi Kung, TM, yoga, silent retreats, Feng Shui, numerous energy healing modalities, the Silva Method, the Alivening weekend (rebirthing), aromatherapy for holistic nurse practitioners, color healing, crystal healing, and LOTS and lots of shamanic training. There are many other topics.

Here’s the thing, though … I’m not a social butterfly. I’m not one of those people who simply must be out and about mingling with crowds to feel energized. Those people are called extroverts. I’m not one of them. I spend a great deal of time home alone in front of my computer. When I want to energize, I spend time in nature, read, or stream movies or tv.

My friend Misty is a social butterfly. She’s in many networking groups and has even started up her own. She never met a stranger and she meets new people all the time. Her smile is infectious and she is a joy to be around. I love going to things with Misty because she already knows practically everyone in the room.

What I do have a passion for is new input. I like meeting new people, going new places, and doing new things. I like exploring my world and I’m comfortable doing so.

I teach people how to consciously manifest the reality they desire. In fact, my new ecourse about that is one of my absolute best. When I sat down to record the video, so much information “came through” that it’s MUCH more than a class on manifestation. Anyway, I’m clear about the things I want in life and dear friends is one of them.

I came up with an affirmation probably 20 years ago that said something like, “I have interesting, zany, uplifting, successful, fun friends all over the world who are making a positive difference.” If you met the cast of characters that I call friend, you would say I have been wildly successful in manifesting just that. They live in different countries, some are ultra wealthy while others barely scrape by financially. Some you would consider “earth mamas” and others wear suits and ties. From a helicopter repair guy who lives in New Zealand to several friends who take people to swim with wild dolphins for a living, I’m deeply blessed to know these magnificent people and have the great honor of being their friend.

It didn’t happen because I wished for it to happen. Yes, I got clear about what I wanted. But I also took action. I showed up. I spoke to a stranger. I went to a new place. I did a new thing. And at first, that was a bit uncomfortable. But the payoff is often so big that there is no way I would let fear get in the way.

If you want to be, have, or experience something you don’t already have … then, as I always say, “You have to get comfortable being uncomfortable.” You have to stretch, grow, and become more than you are today.

Much love,

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P.S. So how did I meet my best friend Millie? Well … she was sitting in a chair having her hair cut one day and suddenly distinctly heard the words, “you need a shaman.” She the beautician if she knew how to find one. The hair stylist said she thought there was one in Nambe and she gave her our number. We used to have a spiritual retreat in Nambe, NM and did medicine wheel, sweat lodge, and other sacred ceremonies, workshops, drumming circles, and other events there. So Millie literally showed up at my door and we’ve been best friends ever since.

P.S.S. To get your copy of my ecourse on Manifesting, visit this link.

 

Choosing the Best Place to Relocate for the Spiritually-Minded

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We were in the middle of a huge discussion about choosing the best place to relocate in one of the groups I lead on Facebook. Moving is something many light workers are called to do on occasion. With that in mind, I thought I would share some of the thoughts here that I have been sharing there. Just some things for you to contemplate if moving is on the horizon. This particular discussion began with the person wanting to live near the beach and to see dolphins often …

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Setting Clear Intentions and Following the Still Small Voice Within

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I talk a lot about synchronicity, getting in flow with the Universe, setting clear intentions, and following the still small voice within. Even though it happens quite often in my life, I always feel deLighted and grateful whenever an unexpected synchronicity occurs in even the smallest of ways.

I’ve had two thoughts/desires recently that were both fulfilled because I followed one small idea that passed quickly through my mind. The first thought/desire was that … Read more

Fast (and free) Way to Raise Self Esteem

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“I’m so sorry.”

“I’m sorry.”

“Please forgive me.”

Everywhere you go, you hear someone saying these words. Maybe it’s even you saying them.

Stop it immediately.

Please.

Especially if you are interested in manifesting your desires, improving your health, and being more happy in life. These words can destroy your self esteem. Or, if you are already suffering or struggling with low self esteem, they can take you even lower and deeper into that.

After twenty years of working with highly-refined energies, dowsing, meditation, and being an empath, I’ve become … Read more

Miracles Can Happen When You Are Calm, Clear, Confident, and Connected!

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I talk about the Noble C’s a lot. In fact it is I who decided these words all starting with C were noble. They are the words I use to describe the state of being in which everything is in flow, in harmony, and everything you do comes from a place of inner balance, heart-centeredness and love..

It is in that space that every miracle in my life has occurred. It is in that space that intuition is enhanced and your ability to notice it is heightened. When you follow those nudges from the Still Small Voice within, truly amazing things can happen in your life.

I always smile when I suddenly realize that something seemingly miraculous just happened which is in direct alignment with the things I desire and that it occurred because I followed my inner wisdom.

There have been a whole host of those events lately. Whenever these things happen, it lets me know I’m aligned with the Divine and those Noble C’s are fully functioning at the moment.

Three things come to mind immediately when I consider the latest smile-inducing events.

The first began a year or so ago when I was being interviewed on a radio broadcast. Practically every radio interview opportunity I’ve received happened because I followed my intuition and showed up somewhere on line at precisely the right moment to seize an opportunity. That has become quite commonplace in my life. I’m not saying that to brag. I’m saying I’ve done the work, even though the work is never completely done, and I’m reaping the benefits of having made true personal and spiritual growth a priority.  On with this story …

As is the case with many of my interviews, it went well and the interviewer and I developed a bond. Krystalya and I talked privately for quite awhile when the interview was over. We discovered we had an enormous amount of things in common from developing our own energy healing tools to being techno-geeks with business and engineering backgrounds. We decided we should stay in touch.

We didn’t.

Life happens and you move on and forget the things that have come before. This is particularly true of creatives because we live so fully in the moment and in whatever creation we are developing.

Then suddenly, she crossed my mind and I felt the inner nudge to contact her. We scheduled a phone appointment for 2 p.m. We were engrossed in another extraordinary conversation talking about numerous topics when suddenly my phone battery began to die. When I looked at the time, I was shocked. I said, “This can’t be the time can it?” She was as shocked as I was. It was 5:30. I had to be at a dinner meeting in 45 minutes and the drive would take me 30 minutes of that. So we had to hang up immediately.

Ah … it had been a wonderful connection, the kind that feeds your soul and makes you smile knowing you have yet another soul sister out there in the Universe.

Somewhere in the conversation we talked about her healing symbols and my elixirs. I had just started working on the creation of a protection grid and she mentioned a symbol she had “received” for protection. We decided to put them together in a package. And … just like the Essence of Sound collaboration I have with Jonathan Goldman, where I’ve infused his music into essence form to take all the energy much deeper into the body and out into the energy field, I’ll be infusing several of her symbols into essence form.

If I had called her earlier, I would not yet have the protective grid going and we might not have even considered a collaboration. It’s all in the timing and it’s all about intuition knowing precisely when the timing is right.

Event number two started when I visited Yogaville in the spring. I so rarely get to see my dear friends, Jonathan and Andi Goldman. They are on the road a lot and live in Colorado. I’m now living on the East Coast. So it is wonderful when they come to teach at Yogaville in Virginia because I get to see them for an entire weekend. This year on the last day of the workshop, I was sitting in the dining hall at breakfast having a conversation with a woman who lives at Yogaville. The conversation turned to dolphins.

Everyone always wants to know how I got involved with them. My typical response is that they showed up spontaneously when I learned to meditate – which is true. But when responding to this woman’s inquiry, my inner knowing was to mention the medicine wheel and the book I was using to create it. I asked her if she had ever heard of Sun Bear and Wabun Wind. She just looked at me and smiled saying she had studied with Sun Bear.

Of course!

Of course the Universe would have me say something about which she is deeply connected. She invited me to come to see her medicine wheel. So after lunch, when the program was over, she and I went to her lovely home and walked the wheel. Later on, Jonathan and Andi also came for a visit and several of us sang songs while playing a big ceremonial drum. It made for a glorious afternoon.

She had invited me back for a visit, but I had not felt prompted to contact her again until very recently. Once again, I had an inner knowing that I should call. We had a lovely conversation and the next thing I know, I am being invited there to co-facilitate a Goddess weekend – something I’ve been wanting to do for ages. We are planning it for Equinox, which is coming up soon.

The final event happened at a recent Not Back to School Picnic for homeschoolers. It’s an annual event that I mostly attend to see the moms I’ve developed friendships with over the years of homeschooling in Virginia. My son and his best friend are older than the other kids. They would be happy just to hang out together without all the others, but agreed to come because I wanted to see my friends.

While there, I saw a friend of mine I haven’t seen in ages. She had lived in Colorado and was now living in the Blue Ridge Mountains in an area I consider to be the most beautiful in Virginia. She and I have gone hiking together and enjoy sharing stories about our spiritual adventures. Somehow in the conversation she mentioned that she would love to have gatherings at her home because she had so much space. I’ve never been to her home, so I said, “You have space?” What a delightful surprise that was. I’ve wanted to do workshops in or around the town where she lives for almost 20 years. I’ve not actually pursued the idea because I rarely spend time there and didn’t know of any facilities or people to contact. We are talking about a gathering. If I hadn’t followed my intuition to go to the picnic, the conversation might never have happened.

Many people are under the false impression that all you have to do is get clear about what you want, do some visualizing, writing, or verbalizing of those desires, and they suddenly manifest. That is only true if you are calm, clear, confident, and connected … AND take action on the inner promptings you receive. It takes a fair amount of work to get into that space. You have to constantly “skim the lake” as my beloved teacher Stuart Wilde used to say – being ever vigilant of your energy and your mental focus. You have to be quite a spiritual warrior from that perspective. In the Foundation Course I teach you how.

I created the Magnificent U Foundation Course for those who are truly dedicated to living in flow and in Divine alignment and want to step into that state of Grace that the Noble C’s provide. I’ve compressed some of the most important things it took me twenty years to figure out and begin to practice into a six-month deep-dive intensive.

Have a glorious day,

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How to Achieve Big Dreams vs. Fighting Your Current Circumstance by Takara

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This message is for anyone unhappy with their circumstances.

First of all … they are there for a reason. Typically a lesson. Whether it is a disease, a bad relationship, a financial issue, living conditions less than ideal. Embrace where you find yourself. Stop fighting and surrender. Realize that if this is an eternal moment, then this is where I am for all time and embrace it. Make some friends. Commune with nature. Write a book. Whatever.Instead of hating, judging, and believing that this moment “should” look some other way, realize that all is as it should be. If it was “supposed” to be another way, it would be. Find Nirvana in your mind, go there often, and when the Universe has every little detail lined up the way it is intending, your reality will shift. But it really can’t as long as you are fighting where you are.

You have to find the beauty in everything – the moment, your surroundings. If it isn’t beautiful, then make it so. Cleaning up, rearranging, adding a tiny plant here, a beautiful image there. I plant flowers because I find them beautiful. When they begin to bloom, I cut them and bring them in the house. Right now we have glads blooming in the kitchen, the dining room, and my office.

I have to do all sorts of things to keep the deer from eating all the plants in the garden. I love the deer, so it forces me to be creative and innovative. I have to hunt for ways to have beauty and not harm the forest creatures. It means I have to tend to this beautiful creation all of the time. I have to pay attention to it. I have to nurture it. I have to protect it. I have to water and weed and spend time there.

The same is true of dreams. You can’t just have a dream and do nothing. You have to take consistent actions. And the bigger the dream, typically the more you have to stretch yourself and get out of your comfort zone in order to attain it.

I could not be a bestselling author if I kept doing the same old things I used to do. I had to do things I was very uncomfortable doing. Make phone calls, send emails to strangers, ask for help from people I didn’t know. When you have experienced the level of rejection in your life that I have, doing those things becomes almost impossible. But I did it anyway.

Because if I didn’t do it, no one would and then my beautiful book would sit on my shelf and no one else’s. If I had not taken those actions then people wouldn’t have breakthroughs in consciousness and understanding because they wouldn’t be trying the various forms of meditation I walk them through, they wouldn’t write me and say that just by reading the book, they felt significant shifts happening in their life because the energy it is encoded with is that powerful. I had to get out of my own way in order to help others.

That is the nature of big dreams.

 

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Peering Through the Veil: The Step by Step Guide to Meditation and Inner Peace is available on Amazon.  http://bit.ly/PeeringOnAmazon

Powerful Meditation and Manifestation Insights with Bestselling Author D. Takara Shelor

Telesummit Recording Available Below …

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I know you will love the things I share in this recording of my interview for the Living Your Vibrant Life Telesummit including the truly life changing “Stepping into Your True Magnificence” meditation exercise, along with many insights and TONS of inspiration for living Your Vibrant Life that I shared.

I really enjoy being interviewed for telesummits, webinars, and radio. Much like working with private clients or speaking from a stage with a live audience, there is a “connection” that occurs which allows me to just “get out of the way” and let the information flow through me that is exactly what the individual or particular audience needs to hear in the moment.

In this telesummit interview, Tandy Elisala and I discuss some powerful conscious manifestation techniques. I also share insights about ways to turbo boost your meditation practice. I discuss the 4 states of being you want to achieve and the 5 practices I recommend everyone utilize to grow personally and accelerate their spiritual journey.

Just click the link to EnJOY!

Speaking of JOY, that’s the password.

JOY

Click this Link to Listen to the Telesummit Interview Recording Here

 

To learn more about meditation, get my bestselling book: Peering Through the Veil at Amazon. (http://www.magnificentu.com/Meditation)

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Buckminster Fuller and the Phenomenon of Precession

 

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I contacted my dear friend, Randolph Craft, head of the Fuller Edutainment Group (Randy was personally mentored by Dr. R. Buckminster Fuller and was given the huge responsibility of sharing his wisdom with the world) so that I could share with you some information about Precession.

Takara: “I need to say something about precession and I’m thinking you must have an article somewhere about it that I can point people to before making my post.”

Randolph: “Of course. What is it that you are saying about precession? It is a vast and wide concept for humans to “grock.”

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You Can Be Magnificent

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You are on a hero’s journey. Your life is your quest. The events that make up your daily life experience are the hurdles and obstacles you have to climb, conquer, and find a way to overcome to reach your desired destination. No hero starts out that way. They begin as some ordinary, unassuming person from a village somewhere. Then something horrible happens. There is a big issue or situation that has been suddenly thrust upon them. Read more

Longing For Communion

Quote by Chardin on Communing with Like Minded Souls

 

The quote by Chardin is so very true. We long for those of like mind, almost a soul need for communion. So we reach out by phone and email, on social media and connect in that way, wishing all the while that we could be in one another’s presence experiencing first hand the energy signature, the sparkle in the eye, the joy radiating forth from the other.

You MUST find your tribe. If you do not have friends and associates that make your heart sing, it is vitally important that you go out and do new things and meet new people until you do.

 

Enjoy!

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