Clean Up That Email FAST by Asking How Urgent Is It?



One of the biggest time sucks out there is how stuffed your email inbox can become. Too many emails to deal with leaves you with little time to focus on and manage the really important things that need to get done to earn more money and/or make a bigger difference.

A fast way to clear out some of the clutter is to search your inbox for the word “urgent” without the quotation marks. If something is marked urgent, it is typically a sales pitch where the product, program, or discount will soon end. It’s an often used tactic to get people to buy now. And it works like gangbusters.

When you type in “urgent” into your email search box, it will bring up every email that contains that word either in the title or in the text.

You can then check all with the click of one button. At least that is how it works in gmail. Don’t be so quick to hit delete though. You need to scroll down the list reviewing who sent the message and what the message is about. You can manually uncheck anything that you need to keep. Once you have gone through the list, then you can click delete.

If you accidentally deleted something that you should not have, you will be able to find it in your trash folder. So all is not lost should you get a little over zealous.

There are lots of words I use to clear out the clutter in my inbox. Urgent is just one of many. When you find yourself deleting everything that you get from a certain individual or mailing list, it’s probably time to unsubscribe from the list.

The best way to delete everything from a particular individual is to search for the email address they use to send messages.

Have a great day,





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Corporal Punishment (spanking) and Motivating Kids

When ever I see or hear someone spanking their child, I cringe.

I parent by intuition, never use corporal punishment, and so far my kid has turned out great.

Continued use of corporal punishment left me feeling like I was a bad person and no matter what I did, it wasn’t enough, that I wasn’t good enough. Its been a giant weight around the neck causing self-doubt, poor self-esteem, and a need to succeed motivated by terror of failure and punishment rather than the shear pleasure of accomplishment.

It took years to climb out of that hole. But based on my background, I could never do that to another human being and it pains me to watch others do it. Because there are sensitive souls like myself that it does more long-term harm to than good.

There are lots of ways to motivate kids that don’t involve physical abuse.

Find the thing they love the most and take it away or threaten to and actually do it if they continue the behavior.

You have to be consistent in the result of an action. If you let something slide sometimes and not others, then the kid has no clear boundaries about what is, and is not, O.K.

You have to start young teaching manners, the golden rule, helping out, being kind, doing no harm, never telling a lie, that their body is a temple and you have to take care of it, etc. By the time they get older, those things are already well established.

And, when you homeschool, the kid gets to pursue their passions, learning and experiencing the things that drive their curiosity and enthusiasm. Because of that, they become motivated to achieve and don’t get in nearly as much trouble as those who are forced to take this class, sit still for how ever long, go places they don’t want to go, etc. When they have more say than that about their life, they rebel less.

Every kid is different of course, and therefore what motivates and creates positive behavior in one person will not work for the next.

You have to really know the kid and what makes them tick.

It’s vastly easier with just one. I really love that thing they said in the Celestine Prophecy about every kid needs one adult’s full-time attention. It doesn’t have to be the same adult all the time.

Just yesterday, one of my good friends who hadn’t seen us in awhile said this about Jess: “He’s the ‘oldest’ 15 year old I’ve ever met.” The things he says and the things he is interested in are very different than the average teen. He has a very diverse group of friends – from edgy heavy-metal loving kids to serious physics nerds and a little bit of everything in between.

One of the best ways to “fix” behavior is to change the diet. Good food tends to create good people. Sugar and food allergies affect the emotions sometimes in drastic ways.

Life is never black and white. It is usually infinite shades of gray. If the current correction method isn’t working, then its time to try something else and perhaps get some advice from other parents or experts in the field.


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Living by the Golden Rule

The Golden Rule

I’ve always tried to live by The Golden Rule. As I observe the words and actions of many political and religious leaders, I’m often baffled. If The Golden Rule applies, then how can this person think or act in this way? And how can other people listen to their words and observe their actions and actually agree with them?

The Golden Rule from 13 Different Religious Perspectives:

Baha’i Faith
Lay not on any soul a load that you would not wish to be laid upon you, and desire not for anyone the things you would not desire for yourself.
Baha’u’llah, Gleanings

Treat not others in ways that you yourself would find hurtful.
The Buddha, Udana-Varga 5.1

In everything, do to others as you would have them do to you; for this is the law and the prophets.
Jesus, Matthew 7:12

One word which sums up the basis of all good conduct….loving-kindness. Do not do to others what you do not want done to yourself.
Confucius, Analects 15.23

This is the sum of duty: do not do to others what would cause pain if done to you.
Mahabharata 5:1517

Not one of you truly believes until you wish for others what you wish for yourself.
The Prophet Muhammad, 13th of the 40 Hadiths of Nawawi

One should treat all creatures in the world as one would like to be treated.
Mahavira, Sutrakritanga

What is hateful to you, do not do to your neighbour. This is the whole Torah; all the rest is commentary. Go and learn it.
Hillel, Talmud, Shabbath 31a

Native Spirituality
We are as much alive as we keep the earth alive.
Chief Dan George

I am a stranger to no one; and no one is a stranger to me. Indeed, I am a friend to all.
Guru Granth Sahib, pg. 1299

Regard your neighbour’s gain as your own gain and your neighbour’s loss as your own loss.
Lao Tzu, T’ai Shang Kan Ying P’ien, 213-218

We affirm and promote respect for the interdependent web of all existence of which we are a part.
Unitarian principle

Do not do unto others whatever is injurious to yourself.
Shayast-na-Shayast 13.29

List Compiled by John Milan & Paul McKenna

The Golden Rule is a way of stating how to positively use the Universal Law of Cause and Effect which applies everywhere and in all things. The cause is a thought, word, or action by you. The effect is the result you will get from that thought, word, or action.

You’ve heard the saying, “What goes around, comes around” or that giving and receiving are just the opposite sides of the same circle. It is absolutely true. And its time that we all practice this principle much more diligently.

Have you ever contemplated who the “other” is, referred to in these teachings? My interpretation is that the “other” represents any being on this or any planet, reality, or dimension. To many people that is quite a stretch of the principle. It is my truth. It is what The Golden Rule means to me. I don’t step on ants. I treat dogs as nicely as I would a small child. Plants are my friends. And I practice harmlessness.

Knowing how to treat others is so simple. Ask yourself if you were in their shoes, would you like this to be said or thought or done to you? And then take the appropriate action based on the answer. If your words, thoughts, or actions don’t uplift or empower another, then make another choice.

How do you want to be treated? Then treat all others that same way.

If you want to feel joy, then do things that bring joy to others.

If you want to know love, then learn and express true love and acceptance of everyone. O.K. no-one said this was always easy. But this Universal Law holds whether you want to participate or not.

If you don’t like it when people talk about you behind your back, gossip about you, or judge you, then stop judging others – that means everyone in your field of perception. Not just your family, co-workers, and friends or enemies, but also people in the news, political leaders, movie stars, even terrorists. You can look at the actions of another with discernment, deciding whether spending time with them or taking the same actions yourself is appropriate. But when you begin to judge whether it is right or wrong, then you are telling the Universe – through the law of cause and effect – that you are ready to be judged by others.

I said the law was simple. I did not say the law was easy. It can be, of course, but it requires a great deal of letting go of what is right or wrong, good or bad. It requires rising above polarity or duality consciousness.

There are a few nuances about the Law of Cause and Effect that are important to explain.

First, you can’t be attached to your giving or to how the Universe will supply you with what you are asking for. Many people give in order to receive. They think to themselves, “I’ll give this money to this church so that God will give me money some other way.” But that is giving with strings attached. So any money you receive will also have strings. You should give, instead, as an affirmation that the Universe is an abundant place and you KNOW you are abundant and money is ever flowing to you. Not you HOPE you are abundant. You KNOW you are abundant.

How do you achieve knowing? As in all things, you have to recognize and then transform all of your disempowering beliefs – including your belief in lack – into Divine truth.

Second, you have to allow yourself to receive. This is where trying to consciously apply the law of cause and effect stops working for most people. Subconsciously, they do not feel worthy of receiving. They feel they aren’t good enough to receive love, money, acknowledgement, friendship, good health, happiness, etc. As long as you feel unworthy, you will never receive the things you desire. You can work from morning to night and still never have anything because deep down you don’t feel you deserve anything. Again it requires healing.

Third, you always receive through precession. You never receive from straight in front of yourself. Another way to put that is, you never receive directly back from where you give.

Buckminster Fuller coined the term precession. It means that when you are looking straight in front of yourself anticipating money or love or whatever to come your way, it won’t. It always comes to you at a 90 degree angle away from center. One might say that “The Universe brings your supply from left field.” If you are putting your attention on a project, or a person, that is not where you will receive. Something completely unexpected will come to you from the side – usually in the form of an opportunity, one you very often miss.

The perfect example of precession is how my former husband, Raven, entered my life.

I had taken the time to write down all the things I wanted in a relationship. I then completely surrendered and let go of my attachment to ever actually having the perfect person in my life – no strings, no expectations, totally fine with or without it. I learned to love and accept others and myself.

One day I felt inspired (was intuitively guided from within) to go to a particular store to introduce the owners/managers to a product I was promoting. I got all dressed up with presentation in hand and headed out the door. I was very nervous. I’d never shared this product with a store before.

As I entered the store, I caught the eye of a very attractive man. We smiled at one another and I proceeded to the counter to give my little presentation. Lucky for us, the store manager was a very “in tune” person. When I asked if he would like a demonstration, he looked at me and this guy, and then asked the guy to come over and have the demonstration. The guy could then tell the manager what he thought.

I didn’t make any sales that day. I was focused on business and instead the Universe handed me my future husband – Precession.

Of course as you grow and evolve, your desires often change. My husband and I grew in different directions and the relationship eventually ended. Had I healed more things first, I may have met someone else entirely.

If you continue to heal and grow and are open to receive, watching the subtle signals that are happening all around you all of the time, you will be blessed with love, wealth, kindness, and the other things you have given freely without need for their return.

Blessings to your journey,

Using Your Gifts, Talents, and Skills as a Spiritual Expression

Each person has a gift, a talent, a skill, a passion that is uniquely theirs to express. When they deny the gift, it is as if their very soul is being squelched and no amount of searching, distractions, or addictions will fill the void that person feels when they are not expressing their true gift. 

Every now and then, we encounter someone who has not only found their gift, but has enhanced and fine-tuned it to such a degree that simply watching them express it is nurturing to the soul. This girl, Kseniya Simonova, is one of those people. 

This will touch you on a very deep level. Her expression beckons to your soul to express what you are here to express. Absolutely mesmerizing and touching beyond words.



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  1. This is incredible! What a talent and a beautiful way of expression! Lovely video and music as well. Thanks for sharing. 🙂


  2. Amazing performance – great way to do it.


  3. Totally agree with you Takara. To be gifted and not using it is awful! We were born to shine our magnificience… it’s our responsibility to do it. We often believe that these gifts are for us BUT NOT SO. It is our contribution to the world… x0x


  4. Beautiful video, loved the music too! It is so inspiring. When we find our talent it is so much easiest to contribute to the society. Each one in their unique way!


  5. wow that’s incredible! We are all meant to shine! Reminds me of the Marianne Williamson poem “Our Deepest Fear”

Finding Harmony & Balance in the Midst of Chaos and Confusion


Things are really rocking out there! Aren’t they?

Earthquakes, tsunamis, deaths, police shootings, bizarre traffic accidents, missing planes, and a whole lot more have been happening. And that’s just within the last little while.

Last month was  a pretty wild ride. And things are just going to continue to be wilder still.

So, hold on to your surf boards kids, the emotional seas are a bit rough right now. Reminds me of the talking shrunken head on the Night Bus in Harry Potter. It says, “Its going to be a bumpy ride.”

If course I’m not really into predicting the future. Because when you just change one factor, any “reading” done about your life becomes completely null and void.

For anyone experiencing turbulence, rocky seas, chaos, conflict, or trauma drama of any kind the last few days, here are some tools to help you regain your center and balance. I know you will find them beneficial at other times as well.

Dolphin Spirals

When was the last time you did the Dolphin Spiral Clearing & Infusion Techniques? How to do the basic exercises can be found in my ebook Dancing with Dolphins . More advanced healing, transformation, and activation exercises can be found in my Magnificent U Foundation course.

Time in Nature

I recently got a call from a client in San Diego and my recommendation to her, and to you, is head to the beach. Take off your shoes and walk barefoot on the sand. Go into a quiet and centered place through meditation (Peering Through the Veil) or by simply walking and noticing nature.

Be in silence. Walking in nature while talking on a cell phone, to a friend, or listening to music is NOT communing with nature. And if I’m out there enjoying the silence, listening to the birds, the sound of water falling over rocks in a stream, or the sound of waves on the shore, I do not want to hear someone playing music (I don’t care what kind) or riding around on an ATV disrupting the glorious sounds of nature with the sound of a motor instead.

When I attended Warriors in the Mist, the 8-day training with Stuart Wilde, any time we were in motion, we were to be in silence – whether we were riding a ski lift to the top of the hill for our freaking early morning meditations, walking to various locations or riding in a van on our way to enjoy horseback riding. And even horseback riding was done in silence. I particularly enjoyed riding bareback. An amazing thing happens when you connect with the energy and rhythm of the horse in a way that you can feel his/her every move. Because of that experience and many of Stuart’s other teachings, I learned how to deeply commune with nature.

No beach … No problem!

Go for a walk anyway. One of the many reasons I wanted out of New Mexico was the inability to go barefoot very often. Where I used to live, there were these things called goat heads. On the underside of this harmless-looking plant were balls with some very painful spikes. The main spike could be 1/2 inch long. Thankfully we did have a lovely patch of grass in our outdoor sanctuary surrounded by trees, raised flower beds, and fountains.

Selo Black Crow, Lakota Medicine Man (deceased), told me that they (Native Americans) used to sit on the ground and then the white man gave them chairs. He went on to say they used to walk barefoot on the earth and then white man gave them shoes. He said we can no longer “see.” When you walk and sit on the earth in silence, you develop an ability to know and understand things.

When I was living on Palomar Mt. in Southern California, I spent hours every way walking through the fields of wildflowers and sitting on the ground writing. I was so in tune with nature and my own body that I knew the day I conceived. I knew right away it was a boy and later I knew he was backwards. I also knew what to eat and my intuition became greatly enhanced. I visited the ocean and walked and sat on the beach in silence at least once a week.

Nature is the great rebalancer and recalibrator. I am outside in silence every opportunity I get.

There is much more to nature than just the experience of silence and walking or sitting on the earth. Commune with the sun, the moon, and the stars. I grew up in Texas and later lived in New Mexico. Its sunny almost all the time in both locations. In between, I lived for a short time in Portland, Oregon. I loved Portland for many reasons. I loved the mountains, the huge river running through the middle of town, the lushness of the vegetation, the festivals, the people, the culture, the art, skiing on Mt. Hood, hiking, microbreweries, and so much more. From July through October, it is one of the most beautiful places I have ever seen. But the rest of the year – forget it. The rain and overcast skies were simply beyond my ability to bear. I need the sun.


The sun is a powerful energizer. Vitamin D is very important to your health,  which you get by spending time in the sun. I think most sunscreens are harmful. And … BIG and … never allow yourself to get a sunburn.

I always wear sunglasses except for a few moments each day when I take them off to allow natural light to reach my eyes. Never look directly at the sun.

Since I don’t use sunscreen, unless I absolutely must, that means I start SLOW and build up to longer periods in the sun. Now that its warm enough to shed a few layers of clothes and spend time in the sun each day, I limit my exposure to 15 to 20 minutes on each side if I’m sitting or lying down. I have very fair skin. I burn easily if I’m not careful, until I build up a base tan.

When I flew to Fiji to live on a yacht for 6 weeks, I did not have a great tan already. So, the first week on the boat, I had to use sunscreen. I didn’t like it. I used the most natural products I could find. But as soon as the tan was there, no more sunscreen for the duration.

My philosophy is that its better to gradually increase exposure to the sun each day than to use sunscreen. It is also very important not to ever burn. If the skin turns red, or even a little pink, it was exposed to the sun for too long. So, if I’m going to be outside for longer than my skin is ready for, I cover my body with clothing that has built-in sunscreen ability, wear a hat to protect my face and neck, and use sunscreen on the parts that will be exposed too long. If I accidentally burn despite these precautions, I use aloe vera, organic coconut oil and other organic nurturing lotions to assist in healing, and I avoid the sun for a few days until the burn has completely healed. Then I begin again to slowly building up my time in the sun each day.

Much of this article was written while I was siting outside in silence letting the sun warm my skin.

There are so many more ways to commune with nature and to rebalance and recalibrate. Hope these are of benefit.


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*These ideas are my opinion only. If you have a skin condition or are under the care of a trained healthcare provider and their advice is to do something different, follow their advice.

Being a Player in a Much Bigger Game

As I watched the footage on the new trailer for the BBC special, The Girl Who Talked to Dolphins, I began to weep. It hit me so hard what was really playing out here on the planet and that I, for whatever reason, had been part of some grand unfolding plan.

When you are going along, doing your life, and then suddenly realize you are part of something significantly bigger and more important, it can be a bit overwhelming and very definitely humbling.

I had no idea, back in the mid 90’s, when I walked away from the corporate world, from the pharmaceutical industry and the nice big steady paycheck I was used to receiving, what a giant leap I was making in … Read more